Is Borderline Personality Disorder obvious in a person?

[Intermission]

Is it always obvious or can it be subtle? I had a relationship that flipped outside my control. Meaning the shift happened when we didnt engage. Thats sign nr 1.

Sign nr 2 is that the shift was between admiration and downgrading of my character.

Sign 3 is that the woman is 29 and has only had a boyfriend once, when she was 20, for two years. Very strange. Sleeps around a lot and is very manic about sex.

What goes against it:

Doesnt show any outward anger. Never bombed me with texts. Very passive aggressive in everything she did.

 

[LEWIS540]

It's probably you.

 

[Versez]

Is it always obvious or can it be subtle? I had a relationship that flipped outside my control. Meaning the shift happened when we didnt engage. Thats sign nr 1.

Sign nr 2 is that the shift was between admiration and downgrading of my character.

Sign 3 is that the woman is 29 and has only had a boyfriend once, when she was 20, for two years. Very strange. Sleeps around a lot and is very manic about sex.

What goes against it:

Doesnt show any outward anger. Never bombed me with texts. Very passive aggressive in everything she did.

Avoid women that sleeps around …. Imagine sleeping around for almost 10 years … yikes

 

[Intermission]

It's probably you.

Because I think the original Fly is superior to the remake?

 

[KBE6EKCTAH_CCP]

Is it always obvious or can it be subtle? I had a relationship that flipped outside my control. Meaning the shift happened when we didnt engage. Thats sign nr 1.

Sign nr 2 is that the shift was between admiration and downgrading of my character.

Sign 3 is that the woman is 29 and has only had a boyfriend once, when she was 20, for two years. Very strange. Sleeps around a lot and is very manic about sex.

What goes against it:

Doesnt show any outward anger. Never bombed me with texts. Very passive aggressive in everything she did.

WTF does that even mean? Sounds like BS for people to claim victim status and pharma group to push pills

 

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WTF does that even mean? Sounds like BS for people to claim victim status and pharma group to push pills

Its a supposed diagnosis for people who love you one day and hate you the other. And this goes on forever. It doesnt have any logic to it.

Kinda lika bipolar disorder but directed towards humans, not life itself. Bipolar people go up and down about living... Mike Tyson is bipolar. Lovely guy.

 

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She had billboards of colleagues saying shes the best boss in the world (shes not even a boss more like a low level manager, but leaving that aside).

Pretty narcissistic huh?

Anyone with certifikates is a douche bag.

 

[KBE6EKCTAH_CCP]

Its a supposed diagnosis for people who love you one day and hate you the other. And this goes on forever. It doesnt have any logic to it.

Kinda lika bipolar disorder but directed towards humans, not life itself. Bipolar people go up and down about living... Mike Tyson is bipolar. Lovely guy.

Ok I call people like that toxic cunts and have no patience for them.

 

[Trabaho]

wait not every behaviour needs to be classified as some specific disorder. Witch hunt - so and so did this and that they are narcistic / bipolar / on the spectrum. Than if you ask them they say the same thing about you. I agree with Kbe6ekctah it´s a money making agenda. Just cause you´re a doctor your mouth doesn´t always speak facts. It´s what you think are facts, what you been told and taught. Doctors used to say don´t eat eggs, butter, red meat and saturated fats, eat processed seed oils. I mean you gotta think for yourself in life.

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

I remember my Dad saying that his ex had Borderline Personality Disorder, and it stemmed from a cold and rather cruel childhood.

As I recall, she came from a family of incredibly strict Quakers, didn't receive any love as a child and would be ignored by them for weeks at a time.

I'm not really clued up on it, so I'm not going to pretend that I know all about it, but I've always equated it to a kind of chaotic desperation in relationships. A child is treated as worthless, grows up trying their best but believing that they are worthless to themselves and the eyes of others, and go to extremes in order to either validate themselves or protect what's left of their underdeveloped self-esteem. It seems to be a big trigger for conflict, when a lifelong love-devoid woman finally gets it, is desperate to keep it, and will go to extremes to protect herself and to keep herself from being wrong. She always expects the worst because that's all she has ever known.

I met her once. She lived in Brighton, a short haired-blonde woman, who seemed rather stuck up and snobbish, though we never really talked at all.

It didn't work out. As much as Dad loves a good fight, he is also damaged goods to a degree. They had blazing arguments and he just had enough of it one day. I think that I gave Dad a rather damning hint when I threatened to call the police because they woke me up by having a massive screaming match in the morning. I had work and I was insulted by the lack of consideration. She made a very nice chocolate apology cake after. I also heard from Dad that she didn't like me hanging out with him, and that I was a rival for his "affection", even though he spent most of his weekends with her. That may have also been it.

 

[Berserker13]

Half of the disorder is pretending like they are completely fine

 

[Intermission]

I remember my Dad saying that his ex had Borderline Personality Disorder, and it stemmed from a cold and rather cruel childhood.

As I recall, she came from a family of incredibly strict Quakers, didn't receive any love as a child and would be ignored by them for weeks at a time.

I'm not really clued up on it, so I'm not going to pretend that I know all about it, but I've always equated it to a kind of chaotic desperation in relationships. A child is treated as worthless, grows up trying their best but believing that they are worthless to themselves and the eyes of others, and go to extremes in order to either validate themselves or protect what's left of their underdeveloped self-esteem. It seems to be a big trigger for conflict, when a lifelong love-devoid woman finally gets it, is desperate to keep it, and will go to extremes to protect herself and to keep herself from being wrong. She always expects the worst because that's all she has ever known.

I met her once. She lived in Brighton, a short haired-blonde woman, who seemed rather stuck up and snobbish, though we never really talked at all.

It didn't work out. As much as Dad loves a good fight, he is also damaged goods to a degree. They had blazing arguments and he just had enough of it one day. I think that I gave Dad a rather damning hint when I threatened to call the police because they woke me up by having a massive screaming match in the morning. I had work and I was insulted by the lack of consideration. She made a very nice chocolate apology cake after. I also heard from Dad that she didn't like me hanging out with him, and that I was a rival for his "affection", even though he spent most of his weekends with her. That may have also been it.

Her father is an extreme abuser of drugs and alcohol but I dont know if he ever did anythign to them.. She says at least she has daddy issues. Ive seen them interact and she had emotional coldness to him.

This woman is stuck up and snobbish, cold bitch syndrome... but not when we first met.

 

[Renard]

Yeah, but it can present in very different ways in different people. Some are depressive and brooding. Others are chaotic, full of misdirected rage, delusional righteousness. Substance abuse, overeating or other weird habits to avoid feeling the void inside. Some of them think they're transgender, especially if the trauma happened with the parent of their own sex, but transitioning doesn't fix the self-hatred. The common theme is an issue with identity, they don't know who they are and what they're about. They have issues following through with goals and plans because, without a bedrock of identity, their objectives are constantly changing based on fleeting moods. Viewing themselves and others as all-good or all-bad is also a staple. The trauma happened so early in life that they've failed to integrate the idea that themselves and others can hold both good and bad aspects. Feeling yourself to be all-bad is too painful, so they usually sit in the "all-good" position. In order to view themselves as all-good they can't admit fault or responsibility for anything. The pensive subtype might instead sit in the "all-bad" position, tethering on the edge of suicide. It's pretty heavy stuff. Anyway the lack of identity or knowledge of who you are is the biggest giveaway.

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

Her father is an extreme abuser of drugs and alcohol but I dont know if he ever did anythign to them.. She says at least she has daddy issues. Ive seen them interact and she had emotional coldness to him.

This woman is stuck up and snobbish, cold bitch syndrome... but not when we first met.

Maybe, maybe not. I don't know her so I can't say. It does sound like my Dads ex though. She seemed to have a bit of an image about her. Seemed very proper.

BPD sufferers are terrified of abandonment and feel empty inside, hence the rage. That's what Google AI states anyway.

There is also a form called Passive BPD, which is similar but hidden. Apparently it's characterized by emotional detachment.

 

[Kung Fu Kowboy]

Is it always obvious or can it be subtle? I had a relationship that flipped outside my control. Meaning the shift happened when we didnt engage. Thats sign nr 1.

Sign nr 2 is that the shift was between admiration and downgrading of my character.

Sign 3 is that the woman is 29 and has only had a boyfriend once, when she was 20, for two years. Very strange. Sleeps around a lot and is very manic about sex.

What goes against it:

Doesnt show any outward anger. Never bombed me with texts. Very passive aggressive in everything she did.

 

[Sonny Qc]

90% of womens got boderline personalities nowadays...

 

[Intermission]

Maybe, maybe not. I don't know her so I can't say. It does sound like my Dads ex though. She seemed to have a bit of an image about her. Seemed very proper.

BPD sufferers are terrified of abandonment and feel empty inside, hence the rage. That's what Google AI states anyway.

There is also a form called Passive BPD, which is similar but hidden. Apparently it's characterized by emotional detachment.

Did you dads ex change persona like Dr jekyll and mr Hyde?

 

[Stoic1]

Every person I know has some kind of "disorder". Nobody is perfect. Nobody is whole.

Looking for someone who is perfect and exactly matching personalities is a fool's errand.

Your perfect match will be quirky, have flaws, shortcomings and need help. Just like you.

 

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But sluts do that anyway

 

[Ardaric]

You can normally tell by the number of War room posts they have.