"I don't like to visit other people's homes"

Discussion in 'Mayberry Lounge' started by steve38, Dec 22, 2016.

  1. steve38

    steve38 Black Belt

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2015
    Messages:
    5,435
    Likes Received:
    8,077
    Location:
    USA
    So I've had a new friend for a few months now, an older retired expat here. We hang out about once a week at a bar, eatery, or pizzeria...and always have a good time and good convo. Really nice guy and our wives have become friends, too. But I've invited him over a few times and he always has an excuse as to why he can't come.

    Well, yesterday he admitted that he isn't comfortable visiting the homes of other people. I didn't push the issue, as he seemed uncomfortable discussing it. Sounds like some sort of controlling behavior, anxiety or neurosis. Is this a real thing? Or is he just a nut? Anyone you know like that?
     
  2. punkmother

    punkmother calf cruncher fan

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2002
    Messages:
    25,406
    Likes Received:
    3,235
    Location:
    Planet Punkmother
    probably a victim of sexual abuse.
     
  3. Pugilistic

    Pugilistic Red Belt

    Joined:
    May 14, 2008
    Messages:
    9,599
    Likes Received:
    14,523
    Never heard of anything like it although I never felt comfortable shitting at other people’s homes.
     
  4. Lone Coyote

    Lone Coyote Green Belt

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2011
    Messages:
    1,211
    Likes Received:
    331
    Sometimes, people don't feel they're being treated as they treat their visits and don't like to be the visitors because of that.

    Cheers
     
    steve38 likes this.
  5. SherdogGoat

    SherdogGoat Platinum & Braco Belt Banned

    Joined:
    May 15, 2013
    Messages:
    20,547
    Likes Received:
    24,879
    Location:
    Platinum Nation
    It is pretty obvious he wants to hang out with you in a public place. It is most likely because you look like a creep and he doesn't want to end up in your freezer.
     
  6. Thundarr

    Thundarr Black Belt

    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2011
    Messages:
    5,079
    Likes Received:
    7,707
    Maybe the guy has some bowel problems and doesn't want to stink up your place with his heinous shits. Or, maybe he was abducted and turned into a sex slave the last time a "friend" invited him over.
     
  7. steve38

    steve38 Black Belt

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2015
    Messages:
    5,435
    Likes Received:
    8,077
    Location:
    USA
    haha...was waiting for this response. Actually he keeps inviting me to his house, too.
     
    Lethal, loyalyolayal and SherdogGoat like this.
  8. SherdogGoat

    SherdogGoat Platinum & Braco Belt Banned

    Joined:
    May 15, 2013
    Messages:
    20,547
    Likes Received:
    24,879
    Location:
    Platinum Nation
    So have you taken up his invitation yet? If you haven't gone to his house after multiple invitations then you are probably as weird as him.
     
    Rex Luger, Roca, Dogstarman and 2 others like this.
  9. RighteousWar

    RighteousWar @JesusFreak Banned

    Joined:
    Jul 11, 2016
    Messages:
    4,323
    Likes Received:
    4,227
    Location:
    Not of This World
    Uhhhhh...maybe he thinks you're going to slaughter him and his old lady!
     
    loyalyolayal and steve38 like this.
  10. steve38

    steve38 Black Belt

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2015
    Messages:
    5,435
    Likes Received:
    8,077
    Location:
    USA
    My excuses are legit, with work, child, lack of transport, etc. He's retired and does nothing all day. Much easier for him to come when invited, than for me to do the same.
     
  11. SherdogGoat

    SherdogGoat Platinum & Braco Belt Banned

    Joined:
    May 15, 2013
    Messages:
    20,547
    Likes Received:
    24,879
    Location:
    Platinum Nation
    You are fooling nobody. It is pretty obvious you have a fear of visiting other peoples home.
     
  12. steve38

    steve38 Black Belt

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2015
    Messages:
    5,435
    Likes Received:
    8,077
    Location:
    USA
    lol...no, its "a friend" that has the problem..really!
     
    Last edited: Dec 22, 2016
    SherdogGoat likes this.
  13. VulcanNervPinch

    VulcanNervPinch Silver Belt

    Joined:
    Sep 7, 2009
    Messages:
    14,308
    Likes Received:
    6,777
    Yeah, it's some sort of controlling behavior, anxiety or neurosis.
    The specific form isn't overly common, afaik. I've never known anyone irl that had it.
     
    Jackie Blue and steve38 like this.
  14. Guestx

    Guestx Guest

    Honestly, I don't love going to other people's houses either for the most part. It's their place, their domain, and I'm an outsider.

    I can eventually get over this if I am close enough to the person I'm visiting and I go enough times to where I feel at home, but I never like it initially.
     
  15. 22k

    22k ベルセルク Yellow Card

    Joined:
    Feb 3, 2008
    Messages:
    27,298
    Likes Received:
    34,275
    Location:
    New York
    he knows you're on the 'dog bro.
     
    steve38 and Torrid like this.
  16. thetruth2709

    thetruth2709 Red Belt

    Joined:
    Dec 7, 2006
    Messages:
    8,521
    Likes Received:
    1,378
    We are all crazy in our own ways man, as long as we dont harm anybody its nobodys business. just leave him alone
     
    Jackie Blue, mushishi and steve38 like this.
  17. Torrid

    Torrid Cunning Linguist

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2008
    Messages:
    15,694
    Likes Received:
    4,011
    Location:
    Dallas, TX
    Maybe he likes to smoke mad weed and only feels comfortable doing it at his place.
     
    Rex Luger, Roca and steve38 like this.
  18. brownfeet

    brownfeet Red Belt

    Joined:
    May 27, 2009
    Messages:
    9,078
    Likes Received:
    1,151
    Location:
    Somewhere Interesting
    i don't like going to others homes or inviting people to mine. When I go visit people I feel like I have to put on a show as in not be myself fully. Having to laugh at my friends wife lame jokes or pretending that their pets jumping on you is not an issue etc etc. I'm going to hate the week long stay at my inlaws.
     
    Robocok, Roca, Zax0r and 2 others like this.
  19. loyalyolayal

    loyalyolayal Steel Belt

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2010
    Messages:
    27,508
    Likes Received:
    47,819
  20. Ol'Ironhead

    Ol'Ironhead Banned Banned

    Joined:
    Jan 30, 2016
    Messages:
    3,562
    Likes Received:
    6,240
    Location:
    Split between up north and down south

    especially when it's a real big one and once you flush its just a coincidence that shit stains are left inside the bowl and you can't really wipe it totally off...LOL


    happened to me many times unfortunately
     
    steve38 and Pugilistic like this.

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.