how to proceed update: post #51

[choke you]

Since it's Xmas I'd wait for a few days to pass before reaching out.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

I'm going to be honest with you. If she waited 8 hours to text you back, there's a 90% chance she's not feeling you and/or she's playing games.

With that said, that doesn't mean you can't still seal the deal. I'm assuming she's under 40 so texting will be the way to go. What I would do is text her on Monday and ask her how Christmas went. After some small talk about the Holidays you can then ask her if she's free later that week for drinks (alcoholic beverages, not coffee... you homo) some evening.

Don't ask her to go hiking. The #1 fear for men when it comes to meeting women online is whether they're going to be a fatty or not. The #1 fear for women is if you're going to be a killer. Going into the woods alone with a guy she's only had coffee with is probably not high on her priority list at the moment.

This is sound wisdom

 

[j123]

Post pics of her here so we can determine proper advice

 

[Robocok]

We've done both texting and a phone call. I think she initiated the texts. I'll call her next after Christmas. The hiking was discussed over coffee and I told her there are a lot of great trails in my area after she mentioned that she used to jog.

I figured I wasn't going to hear back from her after a few hours but I was pretty stoked when I saw the response so I don't want to blow it.

I don't want to share her pic for obvious reasons but I think she's attractive so that's all that really matters. She's from Taiwan and has been here for a couple years.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'm going to be honest with you. If she waited 8 hours to text you back, there's a 90% chance she's not feeling you and/or she's playing games.

With that said, that doesn't mean you can't still seal the deal. I'm assuming she's under 40 so texting will be the way to go. What I would do is text her on Monday and ask her how Christmas went. After some small talk about the Holidays you can then ask her if she's free later that week for drinks (alcoholic beverages, not coffee... you homo) some evening.

Don't ask her to go hiking. The #1 fear for men when it comes to meeting women online is whether they're going to be a fatty or not. The #1 fear for women is if you're going to be a killer. Going into the woods alone with a guy she's only had coffee with is probably not high on her priority list at the moment.

Set up a date and time and see what she says.... hiking?? uhmmm I dont know about hiking for a girl you are trying to date again dude, unless during the conversation she mentioned she was into that too

Post pics of her here so we can determine proper advice

 

[NeuroNerd]

I'm going to be honest with you. If she waited 8 hours to text you back, there's a 90% chance she's not feeling you and/or she's playing games.

With that said, that doesn't mean you can't still seal the deal. I'm assuming she's under 40 so texting will be the way to go. What I would do is text her on Monday and ask her how Christmas went. After some small talk about the Holidays you can then ask her if she's free later that week for drinks (alcoholic beverages, not coffee... you homo) some evening.

Don't ask her to go hiking. The #1 fear for men when it comes to meeting women online is whether they're going to be a fatty or not. The #1 fear for women is if you're going to be a killer. Going into the woods alone with a guy she's only had coffee with is probably not high on her priority list at the moment.

Geez buddy...some people have jobs where they can't use or be in possession of their cell phone. Some have jobs where they are with clients and such all day. Some people don't have their phones on their hips all the time. So what is the acceptable response time to say she really likes you, she likes you, you are ok, she really isn't interested? What are they? Talk about being high school. We are becoming so inpatient and so "instant" that we are turning into boneheads. She said it sounds great. Take her at her word. If you want to play games and worry about waiting for the right amount of minutes to go by then maybe date teenagers that will relate to that. Why risk throwing away a good thing because you waited too long to ask her out because of some bro code. If you like her, ask her when you want, not when "it's cool" to do so

 

[FrankNStein]

Text her back an emotipenis. @=======>

 

[MoparOrNoCar]

Geez buddy...some people have jobs where they can't use or be in possession of their cell phone. Some have jobs where they are with clients and such all day. Some people don't have their phones on their hips all the time. So what is the acceptable response time to say she really likes you, she likes you, you are ok, she really isn't interested? What are they? Talk about being high school. We are becoming so inpatient and so "instant" that we are turning into boneheads. She said it sounds great. Take her at her word. If you want to play games and worry about waiting for the right amount of minutes to go by then maybe date teenagers that will relate to that. Why risk throwing away a good thing because you waited too long to ask her out because of some bro code. If you like her, ask her when you want, not when "it's cool" to do so

I've been in the game before man so I know how it goes. If a girl is all texty and then out of no where it starts taking her a long time to respond, that means her interest level has dropped or she's pretending to be busier than she is. At that point you have to play the game to get what you want or you lose out to some other guy that does it.

It's not about teenagers with their phones on their hips. It's about human behaviors and if that wasn't her behavior before you met her then something has most likely changed with her.

 

[Kraysla]

At this point my default answer is "fill the room with uppercuts." Afraid i can't help you (unless she's into that, then yeah, i can totally help.)

 

[Kardashians]

Don't ask her to go hiking. The #1 fear for men when it comes to meeting women online is whether they're going to be a fatty or not. The #1 fear for women is if you're going to be a killer. Going into the woods alone with a guy she's only had coffee with is probably not high on her priority list at the moment.

lol, that feel when youve done that stupid thing, and followed a guy into the woods at night no less, and to top it off it was your first time meeting him.

wise decisions made by me. lolololol i could have been ded so easily.

the second time i seen him he drove me out to a lake 2 hours away in the middle of nowhere. i clearly did not learn my lesson the first time x: but it was a nice time! very pretty area, um . . . yeah im prolly lucky im not ded lol.

but its true, going to woods with guy you barely know isnt that fun tbh. i was always looking over shoulder to keep an eye on him bc i was suspicious as fuck x: dont do hiking for a second date, even if she said she likes it.

 

[Seraldo Babalu]

Break into her home when she's at work. Wait silently in a chair in the corner of a dark room. When she appears:

 

[Sir Galahad]

I went on a casual coffee date last night. Around noon today I sent a follow up text of 'I enjoyed having coffee. Hopefully we can do it again sometime or maybe go hiking'

8 hours later, she replied 'sounds good'. What's the best next move? How long do I wait to text about another meet up?
Is it better to call?

You're doing it all wrong.

 

[NeuroNerd]

I've been in the game before man so I know how it goes. If a girl is all texty and then out of no where it starts taking her a long time to respond, that means her interest level has dropped or she's pretending to be busier than she is. At that point you have to play the game to get what you want or you lose out to some other guy that does it.

It's not about teenagers with their phones on their hips. It's about human behaviors and if that wasn't her behavior before you met her then something has most likely changed with her.

Lol ok, so you are an expert on human behavior, which of course is identical in every human. Lol...ok buddy. Carry on

 

[fightingrabbit]

We've done both texting and a phone call. I think she initiated the texts. I'll call her next after Christmas. The hiking was discussed over coffee and I told her there are a lot of great trails in my area after she mentioned that she used to jog.

I figured I wasn't going to hear back from her after a few hours but I was pretty stoked when I saw the response so I don't want to blow it.

I don't want to share her pic for obvious reasons but I think she's attractive so that's all that really matters. She's from Taiwan and has been here for a couple years.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

 

[BEER]

Mentioning the hiking after one date was a bad idea, but she texted you back, so there is a chance to salvage it.

Don't play the waiting game. She texted you back. She's probably not standing by the phone waiting for you to text, but waiting too long to respond will kill any chance of her going out with you again. The whole "women like to be ignored" thing is old hat. Women like to know you're interested. Text her back as soon as possible and ask her when she's got some free time to get dinner. Don't invite her out "for drinks". That's a move that might get you laid, but probably not much further. Buy her a fucking meal. If it goes well, turn the dinner into drinks. Make it a point to get to know her. Don't worry about talking about yourself too much. If she asks you something, answer concisely and move on.

Go on. Text her.

 

[blaseblah]

Pro tip: never say "maybe" or "hopefully" to a girl again. You're the man, you're supposed to be assertive. Set the date and ask her out.

 

[Tuf_guy]

Text her back an emotipenis. @=======>

But a circumcized one, TS.
If she likes that, send her the real thing in the near future at a random time. Women love surprises.

 

[Tuf_guy]

lol, that feel when youve done that stupid thing, and followed a guy into the woods at night no less, and to top it off it was your first time meeting him.

wise decisions made by me. lolololol i could have been ded so easily.

the second time i seen him he drove me out to a lake 2 hours away in the middle of nowhere. i clearly did not learn my lesson the first time x: but it was a nice time! very pretty area, um . . . yeah im prolly lucky im not ded lol.

but its true, going to woods with guy you barely know isnt that fun tbh. i was always looking over shoulder to keep an eye on him bc i was suspicious as fuck x: dont do hiking for a second date, even if she said she likes it.

Help us settle a little debate here, from a woman's perspective:
at what point did you send this guy a dick pic?

 

[Kardashians]

Help us settle a little debate here, from a woman's perspective:
at what point did you send this guy a dick pic?

lol never.

i only send dick pics to guys when they're being too creepy, pissing me off, or being pushy about wanting nudes. i send dick pics and scat porn and they fuck right off.

this guy was actually very nice and didn't need that sort of treatment, lol.

 

[Tuf_guy]

lol never.

i only send dick pics to guys when they're being too creepy, pissing me off, or being pushy about wanting nudes. i send dick pics and scat porn and they fuck right off.

this guy was actually very nice and didn't need that sort of treatment, lol.

I would've thought those pics would've ramped up interest
for most guys.

Another question: once you had this guy in the woods... a) a shot to the head with a shovel or b) drugging?

 

[Kardashians]

I would've thought those pics would've ramped up interest
for most guys.

Another question: once you had this guy in the woods... a) a shot to the head with a shovel or b) drugging?

lol none of that. i dont believe in harming others, unless they intend to harm u or other ppl o: sorry.

would u like for me to send u a diq pic so we can know just how much interest it ramps up? ;]