How to deal with insecure, working class service people?

Illuminati playing mind games on you. Stay strong, bruh.
 
ctrlaltdelete said:
Super long time ago my friend introduced me to one of his hometown friends. After hanging for a little bit, the kid stops talking to me. Ends up going home. ( this was in highschool, over a decade ago. )

It really was weird to me, how he just shut me out in conversation. So I asked my buddy what was wrong with his friend.

"All you do is talk about yourself. You say " I " all the time."

Of course the reaction from me was super defensive, but he had a point. I've tried to be more cognizant of it ever since, but I am a very selfish and narcissistic person by nature which is ironic because I also know that as far as accolades and accomplishments, there isn't much for me to brag about. It probably stems from insecurity honestly.
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There’s a lot of “i”s in your post.
 
A handful of years ago I had an electrician come to fix some bad wiring at my house. Dude looked exactly like a 50 year old Sammy Hagar. He walked into my house looked around and with a smug grin he said "I used to live like you." For some reason it pissed me right the fuck off.
 
Do you acknowledge the staff serving you? Example “hi how are you?” . That goes a long way. Simple friendly banter will have you instantly being treated better anywhere.
 
SSgt Dickweed said:
This explanation I can understand. I admit I may seem very snobbish at times. I don't think every member of staff are like this, just a select few. But those few continually make my stays in those establishments unbearable. But one reason I think that they are insecure bullies, is that I find that I encounter this behavior less when I am with friends, or maybe because I am distracted. If I am alone, they could see me as easy pickings to bring out their frustrations, just like schoolyard bullying.
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To be fair, you sound like an arrogant douche who has no self awareness.
 
Estemachine said:
Humbleness is a hell of a virtue.

If you treat other people with respect, people will respect you back; sometimes they won't, but at least you were the bigger person.
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But what if I'm only 5'8 bro?
 
lifelessheap said:
To be fair, you sound like an arrogant douche who has no self awareness.
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I am going to get a job offer on Monday for a Casino/Hotel group. Whether I accept it or not is another story. The 1 day hiring process process last week involved two interviews. After I passed the first, I had to wait in this freezing room for the next one. Luckily for me I brought a jacket despite no one telling me so. I go to get a cup of coffee to help with the cold. I get back to the waiting room and there is this working class looking guy in the room with me waiting for his next interview. He's a chatty dude, a plumber, tells me about his former colleague who stumped for him, getting a bigger paycheck when he entered the company.

This guy is freezing his nuts off, he looked like he was in pain. I felt kind of guilty because I had a cup of hot coffee and a jacket and he was hugging himself to cope with the temperature. I took a spare working out shirt I happened to have in my bag with me and gave it to him. I told him in case we don't see each other when we get called, just leave it in the room. He didn't bother to play coy, just took my shirt and went to the restroom to put it under the buttoned shirt he had. He went back to the room and resumed chatting. Despite people who joined us in the freezing room, I was the only guy who was talking with the plumber dude.

I get interviewed, aced it, went back to the waiting room for a bit. Plumber dude wasn't there bec. he was likely being interviewed in another room. HR did the usual send off and I got escorted out of the building. I told my escort to tell the plumber dude just to keep my shirt. I am NOT a self-worshipping douche. I like helping people out when I can. I am just a snob out of introversion.
 
I would imagine it’s becasue youre an asshole and people dislike you in real life
 
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SSgt Dickweed said:
I am going to get a job offer on Monday for a Casino/Hotel group. Whether I accept it or not is another story. The 1 day hiring process process last week involved two interviews. After I passed the first, I had to wait in this freezing room for the next one. Luckily for me I brought a jacket despite no one telling me so. I go to get a cup of coffee to help with the cold. I get back to the waiting room and there is this working class looking guy in the room with me waiting for his next interview. He's a chatty dude, a plumber, tells me about his former colleague who stumped for him, getting a bigger paycheck when he entered the company.

This guy is freezing his nuts off, he looked like he was in pain. I felt kind of guilty because I had a cup of hot coffee and a jacket and he was hugging himself to cope with the temperature. I took a spare working out shirt I happened to have in my bag with me and gave it to him. I told him in case we don't see each other when we get called, just leave it in the room. He didn't bother to play coy, just took my shirt and went to the restroom to put it under the buttoned shirt he had. He went back to the room and resumed chatting. Despite people who joined us in the freezing room, I was the only guy who was talking with the plumber dude.

I get interviewed, aced it, went back to the waiting room for a bit. Plumber dude wasn't there bec. he was likely being interviewed in another room. HR did the usual send off and I got escorted out of the building. I told my escort to tell the plumber dude just to keep my shirt. I am NOT a self-worshipping douche. I like helping people out when I can. I am just a snob out of introversion.
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They way you talk about yourself tells me everything I need to know. You are a narcissist and a fucking douche. I assume your arrogance and confidence helps you in your career. Good for you.

I've worked with a billionaire and he was so much more down to Earth than you. You are not nearly as cool as you seem to think you are.
 
lifelessheap said:
They way you talk about yourself tells me everything I need to know. You are a narcissist and a fucking douche. I assume your arrogance and confidence helps you in your career. Good for you.

I've worked with a billionaire and he was so much more down to Earth than you. You are not nearly as cool as you seem to think you are.
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How did you surmise that I am a narcissist from that post? WTF? Point out the part where I was arrogant or confident in that post.
 
IloveTHIS said:
Only read like 4 sentences.

Grow a fucking spine and stand up for yourself. Dont be that little bitch that takes shit on the chin then rages in the car on your way home
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Basically your life but instead of raging in the car you start 20 threads a day discussing how your life blows.

Then you make one about how rich you are but desperately need $1000 bucks in another thread
 
KONG-D'SNT-TAP said:
Basically your life but instead of raging in the car you start 20 threads a day discussing how your life blows.

Then you make one about how rich you are but desperately need $1000 bucks in anothe thread
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show me one thread where I said anything remotely close to "my life blow" or youre a lying :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

I'll wait.

My life is and has been amazing. Being broke for one week doesn't change that. Stop stalking me in all my threads/posts and lose your virginity dweeb?
 
IloveTHIS said:
show me one thread where I said anything remotely close to "my life blow" or youre a lying :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

I'll wait.

My life is and has been amazing. Being broke for one week doesn't change that. Stop stalking me in all my threads/posts and lose your virginity dweeb?
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Every thread you start is some drama about your stressful ass life. You need money, this girl you dated is gonna continue living in your complex and bringing other dudes back, HOW TO USE A CREDIT CARD, TENSION HEADACHES ARE THE WORST etc etc etc, good lord the list is practically endless.



I even comment in your threads by saying”this fucking guy,” or “this guys life is a twister of drama,” or “tick tick tick,” that’s you as a ticking time bomb waiting to go off.


You’ve even commented back many many times.

It’s just implied your life is a bit of a disaster. The entire snap shot of your posting history has painted that picture nicely
 
SSgt Dickweed said:
I have noticed lately, that I am really bothered by working class service people. It's almost as if they go out of their way to annoy me, because they are insecure with the disparity of status between us.

I find this true for a bunch of different settings: hardware stores, car service stations, gentleman clubs. I find in these establishment, I would get poorer treatment the longer I frequent those places. Thinking about it, if I am at those places the first few times, I don't get bothered too much. But when my face becomes familiar to the crew, they start "accidentally" bumping into me, talking loud behind my back, ignore me when it's my turn to pay in the counter.

The more I think about it, it is because they feel insecure that I can frequent the establishments they work in, when they can't afford it. This is especially true for guys (different races and nationalities). They always seem to be overweight guys who talk loud. It's like they try to hide their own insecurity by making their presence felt by doing all these schoolyard bully tactics while they are attending to my needs, which is just weird. For example, I could be in the car shop asking a mechanic about aluminum rims, and he would go "that's chrome", giving off a 'you don't know that, dork?' vibe. And then before I leave, they'd ask for a tip giving a "I got a family to feed" look.

I am a very non-threatening looking, baby faced, skinny guy who looks good enough to be in a commercial or TV show. I don't act like a hotshot, but I suppose if I dress good enough, I would have a 'presence'. I may give off a vibe that I went to private schools all my life, and my folks paid a lot of money for dentists and doctors (all true).

This makes me a target for these fat-ass rednecks who think: "I can only dream of having what he has", even though I've had a string of bad luck in my career, and just as unhappy with my job as they are. Wtf is wrong with these assholes? Can't they leave me alone while I get a lapdance?

Cliffs:
-I am a pampered, beta-looking dude
-Insecure service people like to "bully" me while they serve me
-I am fed up with it
-Is this all just in my head?
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It could be everyone else..... or it could be you... let that sink in for a while.
 
nefti said:
It could be everyone else..... or it could be you... let that sink in for a while.
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As I said in another post, I don't think everyone in those establishments are like that, just a select few. Overweight guys who talk loud who seem to grew up in rural areas. Even the strippers tell me those ushers/bouncers in the clubs I describe are hard to deal with.
 
KONG-D'SNT-TAP said:
Every thread you start is some drama about your stressful ass life. You need money, this girl you dated is gonna continue living in your complex and bringing other dudes back, HOW TO USE A CREDIT CARD, TENSION HEADACHES ARE THE WORST etc etc etc, good lord the list is practically endless.



I even comment in your threads by saying”this fucking guy,” or “this guys life is a twister of drama,” or “tick tick tick,” that’s you as a ticking time bomb waiting to go off.


You’ve even commented back many many times.

It’s just implied your life is a bit of a disaster. The entire snap shot of your posting history has painted that picture nicely
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Yea my life is a disaster and not the dude who memorizes the posting history of other people on a kungfu fu chat website

Talk about reaching, implying any of those threads remotely resembles my life sucking or whatever
 
Auto service people can spot a douchebag faster than most other human beings.
 
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