Home needs and Marriage

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  1. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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    In my home there is myself, my wife, 2 dogs (used to be 3 RIP Wizzle) and a cat.

    I work from home, my wife works as a Manager for a financial institution.

    I generally cook for my wife as I am home and am the better cook. I also clean a bit but she would rather be the one to clean as when I do she feels the need to clean anyway.

    We split the shopping. I do the Costco stuff and she does the regular grocery store and dollar store stuff.

    She wont step foot into a home depot and I refuse to go to the dollar store.

    I do most of the home maintenance stuff IE: cleaning gutters, sweeping the chimney, yard care.

    She does the touch up stuff like painting, refurbishing furniture, and such.

    These differences basically make us one functioning team that without the other alot of stuff would probably just not get done.

    To the Married folks is this about how it is for you? Or is it all a bit more one sided?
     
  2. FyrFytr998 Not my clowns. Not my circus. (2020)

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    Sounds like a solid team effort. Although my wife and I cover each other if we can't get to something important that needs doing. Like, my wife will obviously take the garbage out when I'm on duty. Or I'll go do some grocery shopping if I'm out and in the area of the store.
     
  3. PlayswellwithLawnDarts Banned Banned

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    Every quality relationship is equal parts love, communication, and shared responsibility.
    Good thread
     
  4. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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    K so similar to my situation yep. Basically you have your unsaid individual jobs but if there ends up with overflow the other will pick it up?

    If so solid way to be for sure
     
  5. Estemachine Gold Belt

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    I don't know, let me get back to you when I get married, now about that wife.......
     
  6. dildos Yellow Card Yellow Card

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    buds i love that your sherdog username is named after your dog !!

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  7. Cherry Brigand We're gonna put some heat on 'em.

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  8. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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    And il have you know never did a name change. Loved that dog an incredible amount. She was 12 when she passed. Her sister is still with me. No joke they were born on 4/20. Sister will be 13 and her mom is still with me at the ripe old age of 15.

    These are extreme ages for pitbulls. I got seriously lucky.
     
  9. Tone C Gold Belt

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    I do a lot more of the work in our house but I get more days off each week than my wife. Plus her health isn't great and I'm okay apart from the heart scare so I tend to do more.
     
  10. dildos Yellow Card Yellow Card

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    That’s awesome to have sibling doggies.
    I got a nearly 7 year old standard schnauzer named elvis. I’ll be gutted when it’s his time.

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  11. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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    This is how it should be. People helping, loving and understanding people. If you can make someone's day easier you should.

    It's one of my things every day. I look for a way to improve my wifes day. Even if it's as simple as making her a cup of coffee when she is running late a small gesture goes such a long way to happiness of a relationship.
     
  12. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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    With his name I just had to. Sorry lol
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  13. HeffDoesWant Brown Belt

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    Seems a good arrangement.

    Things do get difficult with children due to exhaustion and the time sensitive nature of their needs.

    You can't call UberNanny when both exhausted.

    Imo if you have any difficulty looking after yourselves fairly without kids, do not have them.
     
  14. dildos Yellow Card Yellow Card

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    Who mows her lawn while you're in the kitchen?

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    Pics of your wife!
     
  16. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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  17. aerius Silver Belt

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    I'd say you definitely got it right.

    My wife & I try to split the tasks based on what we do best and how much time we each have. Key word is try. With a couple kids in the mix, things are pretty fluid, sometimes I end up covering a bunch of stuff that she usually does and sometimes it's the other way around. It sometimes (often?) comes down to which one of us has the time available to do things when they need to get done. We try to plan and make things go smoothly but, well, kids. All plans kinda go out the window when your kid gets stuck 25' up in a tree and you need to figure out how the fuck to get her back down.
     
  18. dc007 mr. white belt

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    Me and my wife had a nice split of duties. We're still divorced though.
     
  19. Wizzlebiz Wizzlebiz is the Wizziest

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    Unfortunately sometimes that what it takes to get the duties evenly split.

    Basically how it was for my parents as well
     
  20. Chesten_Hesten The Wiener of Steel

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    My wife does taxes and buys groceries. Sometimes she half ass cleans things.
     

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