Help I think I'm getting divorced

Everyone thinks getting a lawyer is some secret weapon. Guess what...she's going to get one too and you're going to pay for hers also if she doesn't have the dough.

Then what happens? Both your lawyers convince you that you are owed more than is offered, both sides dig in their heels, and the shit drags on forever while the meter continues to run. Every week that goes by, both lawyers fees increase, and you are fighting over less and less assets. And when all is said and done you'll end up where you would have been anyway if you both just came to an agreement except you'll be 30k poorer.
 
kahiljabroni said:
Everyone thinks getting a lawyer is some secret weapon. Guess what...she's going to get one too and you're going to pay for hers also if she doesn't have the dough.

Then what happens? Both your lawyers convince you that you are owed more than is offered, both sides dig in their heels, and the shit drags on forever while the meter continues to run. Every week that goes by, both lawyers fees increase, and you are fighting over less and less assets. And when all is said and done you'll end up where you would have been anyway if you both just came to an agreement except you'll be 30k poorer.
Click to expand...

You forgot the lawyer for the child.
 
You know TS if you take her on a "vacation" to a place like Afghanistan this situation could resolved very quickly and cheap. just sayin
 
TheWobbler said:
Don't bother with a lawyer, she will get everything regardless.

Have being single again.
Click to expand...

This is true. At least you save the money you would pay the lawyer. Lawyers will tell you they can do this or that but remember, they are professional liars.
 
Tuf_guy said:
Have you tried staying together and just swinging?
<{ohyeah}>
Click to expand...

As crazy as this sounds, I would give serious thought to it. There are several ways it could work out well, and pretty much no way that it makes things worse.
 
As a man, the reality of divorce really makes me question marriage. And I say this as someone who has a fiancée they can't wait to marry :(
 
mb23100 said:
The guy ended up living in a trailer in the backyard of a friend's house because his friend had stables for the horses.
Click to expand...
Until he sprained his ankle, and the horses had to make the difficult, but equine decision to end his pain.
 
A.S. Deep said:
As a man, the reality of divorce really makes me question marriage. And I say this as someone who has a fiancée they can't wait to marry :(
Click to expand...

I felt that way about mine at one time too. I married her because I was simply crazy about her wanted to share my life with her. Things change though and people get all kinds of messed up in their heads. It all can be worked out though, the problem is people will shut down and not communicate or seek guidance when they need it.
 
saugeye killah said:
My wife and I have agreed in principle to getting divorced today. I'm really overwhelmed and have no idea what step to take first though. We have a daughter who's 13 and I have a step son from her who's 19. We've lived in this house we've been renting for almost 8 years and have deep roots laid down here. We have a TON of stuff, just to start with.

Also I live in Colorado where the cost of living is skyrocketing. The whole thing is really intimidating. On one hand I'm kind of "excited" (I guess) to be "free", but I'm really scared of change too if I'm being totally honest. We have almost nothing in common and I haven't been attracted to her for nearly 10 years. She's really dishonest with money and makes next to nothing at her job, so whenever I let her have my card I only get it back when I throw a fit because I discover it's in the red with a bunch of overdraft fees, etc....

I don't even know where to start. Holy shit, I'm scared. What's the first step?
Click to expand...

<{cuts}>
 
A.S. Deep said:
As a man, the reality of divorce really makes me question marriage. And I say this as someone who has a fiancée they can't wait to marry :(
Click to expand...

To be fair, a lot of guys seem to get blinded by the poossay and don't take anything other than initial sexual attraction into consideration, but it doesn't have to be that way.

I would never marry anyone who made substantially less money than me, let alone wasn't responsible with money. Your spouse is probably the most important business partner most people will ever have.

Similarly, you are joining each other's family so you'd better at least have a get-along-management strategy even if you can't actually like them and vice versa.

Finally, you will spend tons of time together and may need to work on things like raising children, so you'd better be able to be good friends and collaborators.

Beats me why so many men seem to only take the first into consideration and skip everything else.
 
saugeye killah said:
My wife and I have agreed in principle to getting divorced today. I'm really overwhelmed and have no idea what step to take first though. We have a daughter who's 13 and I have a step son from her who's 19. We've lived in this house we've been renting for almost 8 years and have deep roots laid down here. We have a TON of stuff, just to start with.

Also I live in Colorado where the cost of living is skyrocketing. The whole thing is really intimidating. On one hand I'm kind of "excited" (I guess) to be "free", but I'm really scared of change too if I'm being totally honest. We have almost nothing in common and I haven't been attracted to her for nearly 10 years. She's really dishonest with money and makes next to nothing at her job, so whenever I let her have my card I only get it back when I throw a fit because I discover it's in the red with a bunch of overdraft fees, etc....

I don't even know where to start. Holy shit, I'm scared. What's the first step?
Click to expand...
are you a man or a woman? if you are a man you are going to lose everything
 
whenever your wife walks through the door start humming the Game of Thrones theme song. Because getting a divorce is just like playing The Game of Thrones. Good luck.

 
Smok3r said:
1st step?

Don’t get divorced.

Did you not declare vows to one another at your wedding? Did you promise “in good times and in bad”?
Click to expand...


Lol like if you caught your wife getting quadriple bukaked by some crackheads while using the your toothbrush to scrub the cum all in her mouth, you would stay with your wife.

Don't be a clown. Divorce happens because people realize it's a stupid thing to actually tell someone you'll stay with them for life (usually like 4x longer than you've ever even experienced). It's an insane promise and doesn't work half the time because people aren't designed to be with just one person in their life. Biologically people want to spread their genes, which is why there are so many cheaters and divorces.

Agreeing to legally give someone half your shit seems like the dumbest fucking thing I've ever heard. I've personally seen women go from "I love you more than the world itself" to cold as ice overnight. I've seen people fuck around on their spouses. I've seen women lie about paternity.

I've never seen a single marriage that was good for both parties compared to just living with someone you love and having a regular monogamous relationship. So don't act holier than thou because if you caught your wife doing real fuck shit you would bounce too.
 
I have a buddy who lived common law for years and he's praying she doesn't take half his stuff. It's a no win situation for men no matter what you do.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Latest posts

Forum statistics

Threads
1,280,759
Messages
58,316,056
Members
175,999
Latest member
Rosabelot

Share this page

Back
Top