Im not talking about high school "I love her but she is fucking my best friend" bullshit. Im talking about real decisions. My brother owns a construction company. He is looking to buy a restaurant with another partner of his. Ive been in the restaurant industry for 12 years and I need a new job. If he buys this property he offered to pay my moving expense to have me come up and be the Exec Chef. Normally I would jump at this opportunity but I cant. My son is 6 and he is with me full time, not court ordered. I have had him full time for the last 3 years. If I want to take him from Cali to Oregon his mom probably will try to go for full custody, keeping me stuck in Cali. Ca has a huge deal with one parent moving the kid out of state so I might lose. Also Ca is notorious for being a mother favored state no matter what the father has done. I will not do this if it means I cant have my son full time but I also need this to potentially change my life. I would say there is a 20% chance of everything working out but Im confused as fuck as of what to do. Anybody else been in a similar situation where you hit a HUGE fork in the road?