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Guy advice- Is this girl just stringing me along?

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Been dating this girl for 3 weeks. She's fun, really good looking. But since then, no sex. Make out, feel her up, never got any further. She throws out hints she wants to have sex all the time. Last week she even said specifically we would have sex soon while we were fooling around at her apt

Anyway she asked me to be her bf today. I was like ok.. expecting to finally get some when we were in a relationship.

But NOPE... later today she started asking me about what kind of position I like.. etc. Then mentioned that she wanted to wait a while! Psh, I don't want to be in a committed relationship where I swear myself to celibacy. I could kinda tolerate it while we weren't officially a couple, and I could meet other women. But I'm not a monk and I don't intend to be. I'm not looking for a booty call.. but damn. My ex put out first night. I've never waited this long around for a woman. Feels bad man.

She keeps throwing me hints she wants to do it, but then backs off at the last minute. She just stringing me along? We go on pricy dates too.. I pay most all of the time. I don't want to get used either.
 
Have you felt her down below? Maybe shes waiting for the right moment to tell you... well you know ;)
 
haha! yeah I have. its all good down there. but goddamn... longest a girl ever made me wait before was 3 dates. been out with this girl like 10 times.
 
Maybe she is repulsed by you physically. Are you rich?
 
no she is not. she's into me physically...she wants to kiss and fool around all the time. she went after me not knowing how much i make. im not rich.. but i make a healthy income. close to 100k. good for a guy in his twenties.
 
Not all girls like to put out right away. Id say stay away from the pricey dates and just do simple stuff where your not spending a ton of money. I dont think your getting stringed along, I think this is just a case of girl being a girl (not a bimbo).
 
Don't go on pricey dates for one thing. Try just hanging out.

Don't dump her. Every women is different. Sounds like she likes you; I don't think she's using you.
 
here are some ideas
-show her your d!ck
-tell her you got better options if she doesnt straighten up and fly right
-stop talking to her

youre welcome
 
Maybe, she'll just keep the sexual activity restricted and just exploit you. You need to either execute immediate course of action of the sex type, or just terminate the relationship.
 
Try a few less pricy dates, like cook her dinner at your house. If she dresses nice for that, it's a good indicator she's DTF.

I had a girl who was an absolute jack rabbit in the sack. She confessed early into our sexual relationship that our first couple of dates had killed her because she decided to wait a few weeks because she wanted to make sure she really liked me and not just getting all moist in her special bathing suit place. She may have also been in the process of kicking another guy to the curb or something and wanted to officially not be sleeping two guys at the same time or whatever. I don't know. I didn't pay all that great attention.

Point is: She may be cleaning house or sizing you up for exclusive banging rights. Give a little more rope. So you have to wait until her period comes and you're clear of getting trapped with some other dude's kid. Worth it.
 
Maybe she's on a 4-week anti-biotic course to clear up the clap?
 
sleepwalk said:
Try a few less pricy dates, like cook her dinner at your house. If she dresses nice for that, it's a good indicator she's DTF.

I had a girl who was an absolute jack rabbit in the sack. She confessed early into our sexual relationship that our first couple of dates had killed her because she decided to wait a few weeks because she wanted to make sure she really liked me and not just getting all moist in her special bathing suit place. She may have also been in the process of kicking another guy to the curb or something and wanted to officially not be sleeping two guys at the same time or whatever. I don't know. I didn't pay all that great attention.

Point is: She may be cleaning house or sizing you up for exclusive banging rights. Give a little more rope. So you have to wait until her period comes and you're clear of getting trapped with some other dude's kid. Worth it.
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it's been a few weeks already. I just don't want to have a girlfriend who isn't going to put out for me. Not fair for her to ask me to see her exclusively and not have sex of any kind. Thinking about just asking to go back to dating casually.. don't know how to do that tactfully though.

Yeah, I'm definitely knocking out the expensive dates. How long you think I should wait while giving her rope?
 
It's better to ask her straight to the point. Ask her what exactly you two are doing, and be honest on what you want and take out the excess baggage
 
gloxx said:
Been dating this girl for 3 weeks. She's fun, really good looking. But since then, no sex. Make out, feel her up, never got any further. She throws out hints she wants to have sex all the time. Last week she even said specifically we would have sex soon while we were fooling around at her apt

Anyway she asked me to be her bf today. I was like ok.. expecting to finally get some when we were in a relationship.

But NOPE... later today she started asking me about what kind of position I like.. etc. Then mentioned that she wanted to wait a while! Psh, I don't want to be in a committed relationship where I swear myself to celibacy. I could kinda tolerate it while we weren't officially a couple, and I could meet other women. But I'm not a monk and I don't intend to be. I'm not looking for a booty call.. but damn. My ex put out first night. I've never waited this long around for a woman. Feels bad man.

She keeps throwing me hints she wants to do it, but then backs off at the last minute. She just stringing me along? We go on pricy dates too.. I pay most all of the time. I don't want to get used either.
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You are in your 20's and making good money how fun and good looking can she be for you to wait? 10 dates are long enough for you to get some. 10 dates in 3 weeks? Maybe you are seeing each other way too much, pull back a little and see what happens.
 
shes no virgin. shes only been with one guy before though. shes only 20. yeah.. i guess I need to have that talk with her, even if it might mean pissing her off or ending it right away.
 
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