Going to My Cousin's Wife Funeral?

This depends on how close you are with cousins. Our family is pretty big. We call people out to like 3rd and 4th cousins, cousins. Most of my 3rd and 4th cousins I know who they are and we see each other at family reunions every other year but I don't know them well. I grew up with most of my first and second cousins and know them all well so for them I would show up, even if I didn't really know the wife well.
 
Well it wasn’t that bad. Had a donut and a coffee. I ended up going to the visitation and the funeral as mom was needing support because my brothers are cheap shitheads who won’t take time off work. Got to see some family I had that I hadn’t seen in a while and had a couple laugh.

Their daughter aged 9 tried to say some words at the service but she broke down, so that was fun for a Friday.
 
Dogpound2020 said:
Do I have to go to this? I feel like going to the visitation is enough. I see the cousin maybe once a year and have met his wife maybee twice. Thoughts on this?
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Yes. It’s her family, if she goes -you go. Just because you aren’t close to her cousin doesn’t mean she wasn’t.
 
Dogpound2020 said:
Do I have to go to this? I feel like going to the visitation is enough. I see the cousin maybe once a year and have met his wife maybee twice. Thoughts on this?
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Support your wife...wtf?
 
I couldn't even make it to my own mother's funeral, any family member from now on I'm there even though 17 hours travel away. So yes. Show your cousin some support, it will be appreciated, it isn't all about you.
 
Dogpound2020 said:
Well it wasn’t that bad. Had a donut and a coffee. I ended up going to the visitation and the funeral as mom was needing support because my brothers are cheap shitheads who won’t take time off work. Got to see some family I had that I hadn’t seen in a while and had a couple laugh.

Their daughter aged 9 tried to say some words at the service but she broke down, so that was fun for a Friday.
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You did the right thing here and went to show support despite your feelings beforehand.

<RomeroSalute>
 
Dogpound2020 said:
Their daughter aged 9 tried to say some words at the service but she broke down, so that was fun for a Friday.
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I always feel like it is fucked up when they send a young child to speak in front of a crowd. That is gonna be WAY too much for most kids to handle.


"Hey kiddo, Grammy* is dead. Now you have homework to write a speech for the first time in your life and then you have to try public speaking in front of the biggest crowd you have ever talked in front of and you have to talk about the most crushing sad thing that has ever happened to you.

Good luck!"





* Jesus, just put together you said DAUGHTER.
9 year old lost her mother. That sucks.
That is a hell of a lot to ask of a 9 year old.
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Anyway... you did the right thing going.
Always better to err on the side of being supportive. Never hurts to have a little good karma
 
I’m not even close with any of my cousins. And I would still go to the funeral if one of their spouses died.
 
Honestly I wouldn’t. I probably wouldn’t even bother sending a text. If you only see him once a year he will probably already have a new girlfriend and everything by then and won’t even remember that you didn’t go. But then again I am a total asshole
 
Dogpound2020 said:
Well it wasn’t that bad. Had a donut and a coffee. I ended up going to the visitation and the funeral as mom was needing support because my brothers are cheap shitheads who won’t take time off work. Got to see some family I had that I hadn’t seen in a while and had a couple laugh.

Their daughter aged 9 tried to say some words at the service but she broke down, so that was fun for a Friday.
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Glad you made the right decision. You never know who you might offend by not coming. I’m a little bitter that my wife’s sisters didn’t come to my Dad’s funeral last year despite both of them saying they were going to come with my mother-in-law. In the end only my mother-in-law bothered to come from my wife’s family for my Dad’s funeral. I don’t know if either of my sisters-in-law provided any explanation as to why they never showed up.
 
I would go, but I wouldn't drive a few hours just to get there. Maybe both ways. Cousin's wife is 90 minutes tops each way. that still sounds kinda long. maybe 90 minutes round trip.
 
thebluerider said:
I would go, but I wouldn't drive a few hours just to get there. Maybe both ways. Cousin's wife is 90 minutes tops each way. that still sounds kinda long. maybe 90 minutes round trip.
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Well hot damn it’s been a minute since I’ve seen a BlueRider post
 
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