Girlfriends : Is this it?

[Tycho- Taylor's Version]

Chances are there is a disconnect between who you think you are and what you actually do. Don't take that the wrong way. As an example, a friend once asked me if the word "please" can ever be implicit. I had to tell her no, because the word is the most important part of it. YOU HAVE TO SAY IT. It doesn't mean she is impolite or rude when she doesn't say it, but she can't kid herself into thinking etiquette goes without saying. Manners count.

My main question is if you don't tolerate disrespect, how do you go about expressing your intolerance? People react to what they are given, and if you're getting static from your woman I would investigate the root of her acrimony. What has triggered this occasion? Was it something you said or did?

Regardless.

However it started, it is incumbent upon all of us to squash beef as quickly as possible. If you feel like you're not the one who should eat a little shit, then maybe you're not a respectful as you may think. Respecting someone who does everything you want is easy -- so easy maybe we can't even call it respect anymore.

I'm not saying respect must come after trial and tribulation, but respect DOES mean you need to understand other people have a different way of handling their lives and business. Sometimes those ways punch you right in the stomach. But I look at it like this: what if this was your child? What would you do if your child went against everything you wanted? Would you abandon your child?

Our significant others are not our children, but sometimes they act like kids. This is good because it means they are comfortable in our environment, enough to be themselves. They've deigned to spend time with us, and we incriminate them if they don't heel to our whims. Is that respectful, is that tolerant? Or is that just our lazy sense of entitlement getting upset over something we never even had in the first place?

If you want to be treated better, you can condition your significant other to treat you that way. It just takes effort. You have to work your life or else your life works you.

Was this what you wanted to hear?

Not bad.

Not bad at all.

 

[Devout Pessimist]

These threads are ridiculous. When are you thread starters going to realize that you are the one with the problem. If its the same pattern you are experiencing with women over and over then don't you think its time to start looking at yourself?

Instead of blaming women start looking at yourself and see what you need to change. You may think you are a decent guy but thinking something and reality are two different things.

My advice: Grow Up! If you are having trouble settling with a woman you obviously have some major flaws.

The majority of these threads should be written like this:

"I'm a clueless douche-bag and decent women want nothing to do with me"

 

[Devout Pessimist]

I woke up today to a yelling gf because I stayed out late with a friend. I often ask myself these questions. Then I realized that every girl is pretty messed up and you will never find an unscrewed up chick. So yes, guys settle.

There are "unscrewed up chicks" out there. The problem you have is that respectable women want nothing to do with boys like you.

I like how sherdog posters like to blame women for being undesirable to respectable women.

 

[KarlChilders]

The cheesy response was my story. In my experience, you just know. Don't settle. If you know it's not right in the beginning, its only going to get worse. That being said, you are at or approaching an age where quality women are increasingly scarce. The best ones (sane, undamaged, attractive) are or will be off the market soon. Many will be or are already divorced but will almost certainly have kids. This should not necessarily be a deal breaker, but for most men who don't have kids already, is less than desirable. Long story short: hurry up, but wait.

 

[Sexy]

These threads are ridiculous. When are you thread starters going to realize that you are the one with the problem. If its the same pattern you are experiencing with women over and over then don't you think its time to start looking at yourself?

Instead of blaming women start looking at yourself and see what you need to change. You may think you are a decent guy but thinking something and reality are two different things.

My advice: Grow Up! If you are having trouble settling with a woman you obviously have some major flaws.

The majority of these threads should be written like this:

"I'm a clueless douche-bag and decent women want nothing to do with me"

Well said.

 

[Merlotte's]

Meet a girl who understands that conflict is not drama.

 

[Tankeray]

well since you're twenty-eight, i would imagine that you're dating women in their early to mid-twenties.

most chicks are complete mental-cases at this age. they don't know what they want, and they go from guy to guy to see what kind of man they want to be with. some of them feel entitled to act like spoiled brats because they're in demand...especially if they're really hot.

Fuck this is so goddamned true. I learned my lesson the hard way.

Oh well. Plow it while you got it.

 

[Dogmayor]

Never get married. As a man the risk is ALL on you and she can ruin your life on a whim.

 

[minute bull]

This makes a lot of sense. But at the same time, i think you've made me out (maybe because of the way i wrote things, english is my 3rd language.) to be a very intolerant person.

Hey, thanks for taking the time to read.

 

[crowded]

Sure women are a pain in the ass but beyond sex you get those nursing and nesting qualities which are top notch. If you can train them on some chores while you pick up some others it's a managable relationship. Throw in a dog to ease tension.