Girlfriend / wife dancing with other men

[Dogshare]

That depends on if I think I can take the guy she's dancing with in a fight.

If I can, then I accept it.

If you can't take the guy your girl is dancing with, it is too late anyway. You better pray in that case...

 

[Izzysexboyfriend]

No unless you’re a cuck. It’s disrespectful to your significant other to dance with someone else

 

[lsa]

Seriously?
Dancing is dancing, are you so insecure you think dancing is banging?
Just because she dances with a guy does not mean she wants to bang him.

Just break it off already and stop wasting her time.
You are already showing trust issue, even though she has given you no reason not to trust her other than she likes to dance.

I would have issues, if the guys was all over her and she enjoyed it.
But dancing salsa and having a good time, not so much.

 

[Dogshare]

Seriously?
Dancing is dancing, are you so insecure you think dancing is banging?
Just because she dances with a guy does not mean she wants to bang him.

Just break it off already and stop wasting her time.
You are already showing trust issue, even though she has given you no reason not to trust her other than she likes to dance.

I don't see it as banging, more as a thing that happens before banging, at least in the mind of a man.

 

[DaleBoca]

 

[lsa]

I don't see it as banging, more as a thing that happens before banging, at least in the mind of a man.

Which tells me you have trust issues, and you have just started dating.
What about trusting her to she gives you a reason not to?
Has she already given you a reason not to trust her? If so break it off.

Most things happen before banging, like meeting, talking, mutual attraction.
Does she have co-workers? Does she go to the gym? AWs with a few drinks?
I mean there are men everywhere..

 

[ICHEERTHEBULL]

As others have said it’s shouldn’t really be issue with salsa and the like. You should also make the effort to dance if you really like her. Also helps when you inevitably have to hand her your shit to look after while you go in the pit.

Also it’s a big no from me if some guys going to be grinding against her to some rnb shite

 

[deucesarewild]

Would you like it, accept it, or don't accept it? I am talking about some dance like salsa dancing.

I just met a beautifull girl (will not send pics...) and she tells me she likes to dance salsa and some other of those dances. I don't like to invest my time in dancing like that, but as a joke I told her that I better start practicing in that case, since it is not something I would like to watch from the side. I am sure many men will be interested in dancing with her.

When you look at the internet many people say that you should accept your partner dancing with others and don't be insecure if you trust your partner etc.. But in that case I rather look for some nice girl that likes to run or something like that, because I don't like to cheer from the sidelines when my girlfriend/wife is dancing with other men.

What's she getting out of it? One on one attention and close physical contact. If she really needs that kind of touch and interaction, hey, that's her choice, and it's a context she might be used to non-sexually (maybe that's possible, maybe that's a thing, even though, for thousands of years males and females dancing one-on-one has been a part of courting, it's in our ancestral DNA to think of it that way at least a bit). Anyway, suppose it's something she somehow sees as non sexual, okay, I bet there is a context in which, a male (you), has a non-sexual environment and women are crossing the line with you and you don't see it that way. She'll have her "no! That's not okay!" contexts even if they are harmless to you. If she finds those spots where women are, in her eyes, inappropriate with you, even if they aren't (or maybe they are), she just might get some empathy.

It's called recognizing each other. If you want to be with that person, you give some things up because you know you are getting something more back. She might realize having strange men touch her is less important than having you, and, by contrast, you might realize, you aren't benefiting from female attention in contexts you see as non-threatening but she sees as threatening, and you make adjustments.

If the relationship is worth it. It's not some insecure, control thing, it's just that each individual has values and principles they bring into a relationship. It becomes unhealthy if it's one-way and not worth it, but if it is worth it for both and they both want to change for each other, fuck anyone who judges them.

 

[lsa]

As others have said it’s shouldn’t really be issue with salsa and the like. You should also make the effort to dance if you really like her. Also helps when you inevitably have to hand her your shit to look after while you go in the pit.

Also it’s a big no from me if some guys going to be grinding against her to some rnb shite

+juan.

Grinding, grabbing, very tight slow dancing, + alcohol. That would a no.

I personally never had an issues with my GFs dancing with other men.
99% of the times it men they know and know well, girlfriends boyfriends or husbands and its about enjoying them self.
A few times over a long life a GF has danced with a man that tried something and she has told him no.
I think of all my years I had to step in one time to tell a guy to fuck off.
Normally my gfs could handle them self.

But then I only date women I trust. Thats like a big thing with me.

 

[ICHEERTHEBULL]

+juan.

Grinding, grabbing, very tight slow dancing, + alcohol. That would a no.

I personally never had an issues with my GFs dancing with other men.
99% of the times it men they know and know well, girlfriends boyfriends or husbands and its about enjoying them self.
A few times over a long life a GF has danced with a man that tried something and she has told him no.
I think of all my years I had to step in one time to tell a guy to fuck off.
Normally my gfs could handle them self.

But then I only date women I trust. Thats like a big thing with me.

Absolutely on the trust thing. Makes me laugh the amount of posts here with guys saying “I’ve just met this girl…. Would you trust a women if she…” if you have trust issues now, at a early stage, walk the fuck away, nothing good will come in the future

 

[Dogshare]

Which tells me you have trust issues, and you have just started dating.
What about trusting her to she gives you a reason not to?
Has she already given you a reason not to trust her? If so break it off.

Most things happen before banging, like meeting, talking, mutual attraction.
Does she have co-workers? Does she go to the gym? AWs with a few drinks?
I mean there are men everywhere..

You keep talking about my trust issue. Yes my trust issue is with other men that are dancing with hot woman because they like to dance. I am not saying she will bang them, but I don't really look forward to it and since I know in the beginning I can chose something else.

There must be a reason why women and men dance almost always mixed together. You tell me about the gym, but when I go to the gym I go with a friend, because there is nothing physical about it. But I can tell you I won't dance salsa with him.

Those men like salsa so much that they have no problem dancing with a pretty lady. However I never see them dance together.

 

[The_Renaissance]

Well, women love guys who can dance so there's a good chance she's gonna fancy at least one of the guys she's dancing with at those classes - most likely the teacher, haha.

Also, another thing is that many, many guys take up that type of dancing (salsa, bachata etc) as a way to 'meet girls'. It's prime hunting ground, there'll be lots of girls present, not quite as many guys as there would be in say a nightclub, and the situation allows for close contact.

 

[Goonerview]

Salsa? Yes, no issues there. Getting air humped in the club while "Smack That" plays in the background? Hard pass.

Old Sherdog: you’re insecure, bro!

 

[empsim]

It's completely normal in Salsa bars.

Grinding on some dude at a club? Obviously not lol.

 

[Dogshare]

Absolutely on the trust thing. Makes me laugh the amount of posts here with guys saying “I’ve just met this girl…. Would you trust a women if she…” if you have trust issues now, at a early stage, walk the fuck away, nothing good will come in the future

I originally never spoken about trust, it is something some online psychologists here made of it. But yes walking away at an early stage is an option.

 

[Osculater]

Don't worry bro she's already cheating on you

 

[cheesus]

Depends on the dance and depends on the man.

 

[Dogshare]

Depends on the dance and depends on the man.

So how will you decide? By watching from the side?

 

[Bacco]

There are very few specific situations were would be ok, in most of other cases

 

[TheMaster]

Would you like it, accept it, or don't accept it? I am talking about some dance like salsa dancing.

I just met a beautifull girl (will not send pics...) and she tells me she likes to dance salsa and some other of those dances. I don't like to invest my time in dancing like that, but as a joke I told her that I better start practicing in that case, since it is not something I would like to watch from the side. I am sure many men will be interested in dancing with her.

When you look at the internet many people say that you should accept your partner dancing with others and don't be insecure if you trust your partner etc.. But in that case I rather look for some nice girl that likes to run or something like that, because I don't like to cheer from the sidelines when my girlfriend/wife is dancing with other men.

Dancing, especially ones like salsa is basically a sex game.
So no.