Getting Super Old

[wufabufa]

It's the saddest aspect of life.

When people ask "what's the worst way to go?", the correct answer, imo, is to slowly lose mental and physical capacity over 25 years, each week slightly worse than the last, until you just fade away at 93.

It's not necessarily the age, more the quality of life, but a quick clean death at about 75 seems about the best option.

Prey to god you don't have to put them into an assisted living facility.

As someone who has worked in various forms of senior living communities for the last 15 years, I can assure you assisted living is a 5 star resort compared to most skilled nursing facilities(nursing homes).

 

[LEWIS540]

As someone who has worked in various forms of senior living communities for the last 15 years, I can assure you assisted living is a 5 star resort compared to most skilled nursing facilities(nursing homes).

I mean, semantics and all.

I’m talking those folks, at the end of their lives, who legitimately need 24h care.

Not someone to make them a sandwich at lunchtime or keep them company whilst they wash reruns of MASH on an evening.

Literally those who need someone to change their shit filled diaper 4 times a day, and needs someone looking in on them at 4am, in case they decide fight traffic.

 

[RockyLockridge]

Parents are 81 and 78. Is there anything to make me feel good about this ? My mom is still very positive and mobile, her feet do hurt. My dad got stamina to walk for 15-20 minutes at most, he doesn't have almost any hobbies and watches tv. Takes a lot of naps. I miss my dad how he was when we were younger. You realise you will never get it back. You can't even keep your own parents in this life. God is punishing us with aging.

My mom and dad were like teen parents neither of them are 60 yet. I'm somewhat grateful for that today

 

[wufabufa]

I mean, semantics and all.

I’m talking those folks, at the end of their lives, who legitimately need 24h care.

Not someone to make them a sandwich at lunchtime or keep them company whilst they wash reruns of MASH on an evening.

Literally those who need someone to change their shit filled diaper 4 times a day, and needs someone looking in on them at 4am, in case they decide fight traffic.

Not really semantics at all, there's a big distinction at least here in the US. Two very different levels of care.

 

[LEWIS540]

Not really semantics at all, there's a big distinction at least here in the US. Two very different levels of care.

Yeah, yeah.

Piss off, fat boy.

 

[mozfonky]

Last year 2 friends died 50 and 42. The 50 old one doesn't hit that much, good friend but more work related. The 42 is a semi childhood friend and my brothers best friend. Both died of heart. My other friends brother died from heart at 46 too, I didn't know his brother. A kickboxing coach I didn't see in years also died very young in traffic. I only trained with him max 15x but he was a great coach. 2025 was weird. At least Ben Askren pulled trough and is alright. I went from thinking I'm indestructible to questioning anything health related way too much.

did those two guys have a lifestyle that would cause heart problems? Seems young.

 

[Joe_Armstrong]

 

[mozfonky]

Parents are 81 and 78. Is there anything to make me feel good about this ? My mom is still very positive and mobile, her feet do hurt. My dad got stamina to walk for 15-20 minutes at most, he doesn't have almost any hobbies and watches tv. Takes a lot of naps. I miss my dad how he was when we were younger. You realise you will never get it back. You can't even keep your own parents in this life. God is punishing us with aging.

Well, the bible did say the wages of sin is death. Not that I'm a believer in all that.

What I do believe is that people should be decent and fair and kind to others when they are young. I've learned this from seeing others age and/or get sick and end up abandoned. Even worse, in the case of some folks, people gloat when someone who has treated them badly goes through any sort of tragedy.

I've known 2 millionares, multi-millionaires at one point die with nothing and end up more or less alone. Both were my employers/mentors and teachers of sorts, both had a lot of falling outs with a lot of people, both mistreated people in one way or the other, both were more or less alone at the end, or, since I wasn't there, it seemed that way from all I can gather.

One was former college basketball star who ran a lucrative auto detailing business. Lost it all and pretty much burned every single bridge he ever had outside of family. Died at 69, unspecified and broke.

The other was a semi-known martial arts instructor who ran a grocery store, lived long enough (94) but seemed to really lose his faculties in the last five years. Needed 2 go fund me's, one to pay for stay at home care and the other for a burial.

There are no answers for getting older other than the one I believe, you treat people right and you at least have a shot of having a hand when you start to falter, you treat people like shit and they will laugh as you stumble.

 

[mozfonky]

so true for me, my parents seems so much different in my memory from when i was 5-15, like drastically different. It was a different era though, people had kids in their early 20's, not so much the case today.

 

[HomeCheese]

Parents are 81 and 78. Is there anything to make me feel good about this ? My mom is still very positive and mobile, her feet do hurt. My dad got stamina to walk for 15-20 minutes at most, he doesn't have almost any hobbies and watches tv. Takes a lot of naps. I miss my dad how he was when we were younger. You realise you will never get it back. You can't even keep your own parents in this life. God is punishing us with aging.

Get your parents to start taking creatine and collagen supplements and both to start exercising more.

We all are gonna dies best take as good of care of yourself while you are here. Only my younger brother is alive out of my family, sure miss my older brother. Don't miss my parents but they were POS'.

Now I got kids and grandkids so I'm hoping for 30 more years.

 

[Trabaho]

did those two guys have a lifestyle that would cause heart problems? Seems young.

42 year old smoked a lot. Also some family drama. At times worked 2 jobs neglected sleep. Died after cycling for 2-3 hours. He woukd cycle and skoke at the same time. Also ignored warning a week before in his chest. Slim built.

50 year old was a really big pot head. Drank as much coffee as water. Smoked cigs but more pot. Didn't excercise. Rather skinny.

 

[mozfonky]

42 year old smoked a lot. Also some family drama. At times worked 2 jobs neglected sleep. Died after cycling for 2-3 hours. He woukd cycle and skoke at the same time. Also ignored warning a week before in his chest. Slim built.

50 year old was a really big pot head. Drank as much coffee as water. Smoked cigs but more pot. Didn't excercise. Rather skinny.

That smoking is bad, I don't know how bad coffee is but I don't think it's ever mentioned as a major cause of health problems. The skinny part is interesting, I knew a vegetarian, tall and thin as a beanpole, last I heard he was having heart issues. then, some people just have bad hearts, the family bullshit, sometimes no way out of that shit and you can't really change them or leave them. I wish I could just cut my family off, none of them bring anything useful to my life or really not much, nothing but heartache and sorrow.

 

[Trabaho]

That smoking is bad, I don't know how bad coffee is but I don't think it's ever mentioned as a major cause of health problems. The skinny part is interesting, I knew a vegetarian, tall and thin as a beanpole, last I heard he was having heart issues. then, some people just have bad hearts, the family bullshit, sometimes no way out of that shit and you can't really change them or leave them. I wish I could just cut my family off, none of them bring anything useful to my life or really not much, nothing but heartache and sorrow.

I mean if you drink coffe all day it isn't just 2-3 and you're dehydrated while being high on thc all day and eating little.

 

[mozfonky]

I mean if you drink coffe all day it isn't just 2-3 and you're dehydrated while being high on thc all day and eating little.

well, they died so something was wrong. Even when I drank too much coffee, it probably wasn't even close to a lot of peoples. Now, I'd guess i drink 2-3 a day, strong cups though and diet coke but none of it in the same quantities I used to. I just don't crave it as much, same for food or sex or most of my work ethic drive.

I notice my stepdad seemed to have lost his appetite in his 60's, he was a guy who loved to eat and ate a lot, never was morbidly obese or anything but he just loved to eat. Last I saw him he was looking as small as I'd ever seen him. Haven't seen him in about five years, he also became way more reclusive and was never outgoing, not even when he was young, now he doesn't want to be bothered at all. The only people in his life now are waiting for him to die so they can take his shit, at least that's my impression.

People make this place a hell on earth really.

 

[Trabaho]

well, they died so something was wrong. Even when I drank too much coffee, it probably wasn't even close to a lot of peoples. Now, I'd guess i drink 2-3 a day, strong cups though and diet coke but none of it in the same quantities I used to. I just don't crave it as much, same for food or sex or most of my work ethic drive.

I notice my stepdad seemed to have lost his appetite in his 60's, he was a guy who loved to eat and ate a lot, never was morbidly obese or anything but he just loved to eat. Last I saw him he was looking as small as I'd ever seen him. Haven't seen him in about five years, he also became way more reclusive and was never outgoing, not even when he was young, now he doesn't want to be bothered at all. The only people in his life now are waiting for him to die so they can take his shit, at least that's my impression.

People make this place a hell on earth really.

Yeah my dad is to himself. He doesn't feel like talking. His hobbies were tv, fishing, nature, started making vine for some time, going to coffee bars. Now he just watches tv. He doesn't talk a lot. He will answer. Does feel like just living his days down. But what can I do. He's literaly doing nothing. He used to go once a week to this pastry spot that just recently closed down. I don't know if he could even walk this much now. He doesn't have much interest in anything now. Mom says it's his fault for being lazy and not having hobbies. She is still full of it. She talks too much. He also naps a lot so he wakes up often very early. If you get old like 70 make sure to still walk alot cause the body will break down. Gotta stay active. Now I spent 2 hours with him this morning and I ran out of ideas. Guess just let him sit around. And come a few times a day make a joke and that's it. I tried to talk. Lol not much interest like what do we wanna talk about. May God take care of his Soul one day and that's it. What else am I supposed to do. Mom could talk to me for hours if I cared. I'm going back to Germany in 15 days. I guess I just gotta live my life what else can be done right now. If he wants something I'm here.

 

[Trabaho]

well, they died so something was wrong.

Maybe he did drugs at some point ? I know he told me one time he had lost it all.

Even when I drank too much coffee, it probably wasn't even close to a lot of peoples. Now, I'd guess i drink 2-3 a day, strong cups though and diet coke but none of it in the same quantities I used to.

My brother used to drink 10 a day . Now less but still a lot. At least he quit smoking easy and works out 4 x a week all year long.

I just don't crave it as much, same for food or sex or most of my work ethic drive.

How old are you ?

 

[Trabaho]

Isn't it a beautiful day outside. Gonna be rainy.


Well at least I woke up early. Full sleep. Flue is over. I can excercise. I wanted to go to lunch with a friend later. I will have to get my tooth fixed asap. Yeah the day is here. Bout to drink a good coffee. Dad is ok he is just old. I do feel lazy. Perhaps too much carb in the morning. Nah when I don't excercise I feel tired. Hard excercise actually gives me energy. Gonna wait 1.5 hours for my old neighbour to wake up and then hit my bag a lil. Later go lift weights. There's shit to do. Boring ass small town but there's shit to do. Time of the year still isn't that good. Rainy. But winter time is about to be done with. Last week I just beem at home sick. Germany is kinda too big here it's too small. Us humans will always find a reason to complain . I'll play a bit Dota too. Say blyat nahui to some Russians. Just get my workout in then good mood and energy flows. I'm just afraid of being lazy and missing something in life cause of it. Spring and Summer is gonna be great. When I'm back in Germany I'm also gonna train proper kickboxing again. Looking forward to that.

 

[Trabaho]

Don't be depressed. Old is one day. Trust God. Till then enjoy life. Do what you dream off. Tee hee. Don't leave it on the table. And stay phisically active.

 

[Trabaho]

Actually my neighbour likes to go for coffee in the morning but I always sleep till noon. Now it's 7am. Let's shoot him a message.

 

[mozfonky]

Maybe he did drugs at some point ? I know he told me one time he had lost it all.



My brother used to drink 10 a day . Now less but still a lot. At least he quit smoking easy and works out 4 x a week all year long.

How old are you ?

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