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Ever make peace with an Enemy?

FyrFytr998 said:
Sure. Two FF’s that I had issues with eventually became coworkers I got along with. Basically we all just had to realized that nothing is worth losing a job over.

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Should have figured that. I thought you meant "Friends Forever" as in (B)FFs.
 
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Don't let myself have enemies. To let yourself have an ene.y only hurts you- i forgive and "try" to forget . In the moment sure i get upset like anyone but to make someone your enemy makes ypu stew on it which only really hurts you in quite a few ways.

If others have me as their enemy then that's their problem I don't need to make same mistake because they do.
 
If the issue with someone isn't resolved in a timely manner, it is best to just let it go. Holding a grudge is letting that person have power over you, and it only hurts you. Fuck that.

Edit- @Streeter beat me to it. Well-played, Sir.
 
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"Enemies" is a bit of a strong word. It's more like random assholes you have to deal with.
 
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I don't think so... I've certainly got off on the wrong foot with some people who I am on good terms with but for the most part if someone pisses me off in whatever way that is, I don't know if I would be willing to squash what beef we may have. Granted, I've never had an olive branch extended out to me.
 
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Sometimes it happens. You can have a fist fight with someone and be friends. It’s better than little rats that talk shit about behind your back.
 
HHJ said:
This can be an admirable quality at times.
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it probably isnt

my wife, her sisters, they hold grudges, and it sheds years off of their relationships, so much that the respective kids dont know their aunts very well..... and it's over the dumbest squabbles. They dont ever apologize, one day, they simply flip the switch and friends again. My wife and her inlaws, near blows once, never gonna recover that one...... As me, we trade blows and it's water under the bridge.
 
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chardog said:
it probably isnt

my wife, her sisters, they hold grudges, and it sheds years off of their relationships, so much that the respective kids dont know their aunts very well..... and it's over the dumbest squabbles. They dont ever apologize, one day, they simply flip the switch and friends again. My wife and her inlaws, near blows once, never gonna recover that one...... As me, we trade blows and it's water under the bridge.
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For sure it's not always good!

But sometimes shit sucks and you know what someone is, so there's just no reason to deal w that person if you can avoid them. You made up your mind.
 
Streeter said:
Don't let myself have enemies. To let yourself have an ene.y only hurts you- i forgive and "try" to forget . In the moment sure i get upset like anyone but to make someone your enemy makes ypu stew on it which only really hurts you in quite a few ways.

If others have me as their enemy then that's their problem I don't need to make same mistake because they do.
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Yeah I get that but sometimes it's a lot worse than what your talking about and serious shit is upon you wether you like it or not.
 
HHJ said:
I once ran into some dude that I had a bad confrontation with 20 years before. He didnt remember who I was. I was so mad at the sight of him that I just tore into him. I told him what I thought of him and what a piece of shit he was. But he offered a hand of apology and I took it.

I still see the dude around nowadays but I dont acknowledge him, we aint never gonna be friends, dont trust him at all. But I did accept it.
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People change.

I was a huge asshole and bully until my junior year of high school, when overnight I suddenly developed empathy. It was like a light switch turned on, and I literally cried like a baby over all the pain I'd caused.

There were some people I apologized to, but others I never got the chance, and if they saw me on the street I'm sure they'd want to stab me, thinking that I'm still the same asshole from 30 years ago.
 
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Fedorgasm said:
People change.

I was a huge asshole and bully until my junior year of high school, when overnight I suddenly developed empathy. It was like a light switch turned on, and I literally cried like a baby over all the pain I'd caused.

There were some people I apologized to, but others I never got the chance, and if they saw me on the street I'm sure they'd want to stab me, thinking that I'm still the same asshole from 30 years ago.
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Yep.

I can't drill inside his head to find out if he really meant it or just didn't want me to just fight him.

That don't matter to me either, his reasoning.

Just after all this time has passed when I thought the worst of this guy and all the stuff that happened, he apologized, and I will take him at his word, as a man.
 
HHJ said:
Yep.

I can't drill inside his head to find out if he really meant it or just didn't want me to just fight him.

That don't matter to me either, his reasoning.

Just after all this time has passed when I thought the worst of this guy and all the stuff that happened, he apologized, and I will take him at his word, as a man.
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You held a grudge against this man for 20 years and fantasized about beating him up.

He didn’t even remember you existed.

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LEWIS540 said:
You held a grudge against this man for 20 years and fantasized about beating him up.

He didn’t even remember you existed.
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Damn you really are sore about getting called out earlier in the thread. Dont you have other threads to post in, to say that you are too cool to participate in?
 
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