Early to mid thirties

[Jesus X]

i feel like early to mid thirties is when reality starts to set in. People in their 20's just assume life will work itself out on its own and they have fun without too many cares. Then in your thirties, all the sudden people realize they dont have a steady career, a home, a family or whatever other goals they assumed would just fall into place and they go into panic mode. I know I did lol.

Your mortality also sets in around 35 as most folks have some brushes with serious health problems by then you start to realize you aren't invincible and all the damage you did to your body in your 20s.

 

[Jesus X]

Real men (sherdoggers) don't start to show decline till age 60+

We are going to be like those buff old guys with manicured beards on the instagrams and tik toks.

 

[UberHere]

Is it me or does it seem like a lot of people in their early to mid thirties low-key struggle.

Obviously everyone of every age struggle, but it seems like the 30ish people are just extra weirdly insecure.

First off both men and women are no longer physically in their primes, like your metabolism starts to slow. Average men are no longer as athletic and women are less desired.

Also you are supposed to have it all figured out by now. Like if you don’t have the savings, the house, car, wife and maybe kids on the way then social media makes you feel like you are way behind what is “supposed” to be happening.

Like that average American statistics thread where everyone is laughing at all these failures but that’s literally the average/normal person. But “oh no that’s not me I’m way better than that”

Hahah idk im going off on a tangent but yeah it seems like I see a lot of my peers who were doing ok before struggling now. As an athlete the time crunch pressure is magnified but for average life stuff it’s the same.

Sorry for the dear diary rant but I was wondering since everyone on here old af remembers being in their 30’s

Youth is officially over in 30’s. Some people take another 20 years to come to terms with that.

 

[JoeyJoeJoeJr]

I don't think it has as much to do with age as it does the economy. I'm a sexy male in my 30s and I work my full time job plus a side job and run a business, and I'm still struggling. The people I know who are in their 20s still live with mom and dad.


Inflation and immigration have pretty much ruined Canada. There are 50 Indians applying to every job in the city

 

[supermurph]

Agree 30 ish people are insecure. A lot of the ones I work with complain about their backs, knees, etc more than the 50 year olds I work with. Barring major injuries / illnesses, I think male physical prime is around 35. Female is like 28. These kids are way too young to be bitching like old folks at a nursing home.

At the same time, I do feel bad for younger generations, as pointed out previously, because the economy is being tanked, and the value of money is plummeting at a ridiculous pace. That being said, a lot of people across all age ranges lack discipline financially, and if this is the case, they will feel it now more than ever.

 

[Spounman]

My early to mid 30s were my prime. Definitely a transition period but a good one. Peak fitness was my 20s but overall 30s were good.

 

[blackheart]

Early 30s here

Yeah I think that age in general is just where people start actually coming to terms with life and taking a sober analysis of the situation

There's all these benchmarks you're supposed to have checked off by that age, and due to a variety of socioeconomic factors, many of us just aren't

-long lived boomers are refusing to retire and open up the door of opportunity for the upcoming generations
-boomers are hoarding wealth and millenials make significantly less than boomers did at the same age
-people are getting married later than ever before in history
-people are more single and sexless than ever before in history
-the housing crisis (created by boomers) has made it so that the average middle class person cannot buy a home

So yeah you combine all of these things together and it makes sense why people from 30-35 would have an existential crisis about their lives and futures. They can't find partners. They can't afford homes. The situation is bleak.

 

[therealdope]

It has to be very difficult for young people to get started these days. I bought a house when I was 25. I had gone to college and came out with no debt. A small house cost about what I made in a year. Now houses cost many times what a person makes in a year as earnings haven't kept up with prices. Rent is so high that it's impossible to save money for a down payment.

Ummm, you weren't surrounded by batshit ideas of a baller lifestyle from TV and instagram. You also probably had realistic expectations about work which a lot of young people do not have.

We have some under-30 employees that are super grounded in expectations and if they just do their job with their full attention nd a have a standard of quality they quickly pass the wages of employees in their 40s. One of our best people is 26.

OTOH a dumb portion of young people are defeated before even trying, or they have a one crappy experience/job and just quit.

 

[Long Dark Blues]

My 30s sucked.

 

[HomeCheese]

30's to mid 40's was when I was the most motivated. Buying a house, getting married, having kids will motivate a fella. I was too busy busting my ass then to notice.

 

[Lycandroid]

I'm only half way through my 30's

I'll let you guys know how it went when i'm finished

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

I'm 37.

I'm in the process of buying my first home and my job pays pretty well.

Yeah, I'm thinking about time, wife, kids etc.

I'm also thinking about the fact that I blew my twenties due to depression. I'd still like to travel the world whilst I'm still relatively young.

I started gaining weight during my late twenties, though that may have been more to do with lifestyle changes. I did have my first real health issue month ago, however.

 

[empsim]

Mid/late 30's is often when reality really starts to hit, in whatever way. In my case depression.

From like age 14 I always did whatever the hell I wanted. All that mattered to me was fun, enjoyment, gratification. I did everything excessively for like 20 years. Drugs, video games, porn, sex, gambling, internet, whatever the brain demanded. It actually worked out well for me: Physically healthy, no financial worries, decent job, hot wife. So no reason to stop living that life style.

But as it is the human brain keeps asking for more and eventually nothing gets enough Dopamine flowing (except really hard drugs I guess which I thankfully never started with) and you fall into a hole. Nothing is fun anymore, nothing has meaning. Just emptiness.

I know this isn't really news but a lot of people probably think in that situation "Can't happen to me" since you're always happy - until you're not.

If you're in a similar situation give you're brain a break every now and then. It's fine and healthy to just have boring or bad days sometimes and not always fun and enjoyment. Chasing highs never works out well in the end.

 

[ralphc1]

Ummm, you weren't surrounded by batshit ideas of a baller lifestyle from TV and instagram. You also probably had realistic expectations about work which a lot of young people do not have.

We have some under-30 employees that are super grounded in expectations and if they just do their job with their full attention nd a have a standard of quality they quickly pass the wages of employees in their 40s. One of our best people is 26.

OTOH a dumb portion of young people are defeated before even trying, or they have a one crappy experience/job and just quit.

I was raised to do the best possible at every job I had. Every job I've ever had was directly related to a previous job. My first job was mowing lawns at age 10. One of my customers worked for a news paper and got me a job delivering newspapers at age 12. From that I had a customer that owned a service station and he hired me to work there while I was in high school. That led to a career as a mechanic working on almost everything from small engines and lawnmowers, to cars, to heavy trucks, to heavy equipment.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Mid/late 30's is often when reality really starts to hit, in whatever way. In my case depression.

From like age 14 I always did whatever the hell I wanted. All that mattered to me was fun, enjoyment, gratification. I did everything excessively for like 20 years. Drugs, video games, porn, sex, gambling, internet, whatever the brain demanded. It actually worked out well for me: Physically healthy, no financial worries, decent job, hot wife. So no reason to stop living that life style.

But as it is the human brain keeps asking for more and eventually nothing gets enough Dopamine flowing (except really hard drugs I guess which I thankfully never started with) and you fall into a hole. Nothing is fun anymore, nothing has meaning. Just emptiness.

I know this isn't really news but a lot of people probably think in that situation "Can't happen to me" since you're always happy - until you're not.

If you're in a similar situation give you're brain a break every now and then. It's fine and healthy to just have boring or bad days sometimes and not always fun and enjoyment. Chasing highs never works out well in the end.

How's you feeling overall now?

 

[elreece]

37 here, currently building dream house with amazing beach views, high paying job (worked for it but im here now), wife, kid and a lot of friends.

It was a lot of work to get to this point, but if you didnt fuck around your entire 20's it is very possible. My parents didnt help me out 1 bit, just need some drive about you to get going.

 

[MT7]

In my 30's. Doing very well when it comes to my personal life and doing very poorly career-wise. I wasted my 20's, so I have nobody to blame but myself. Doesn't help that I live in one of the most expensive areas of California. Recently started doing online college but I hate it and have trouble focusing. My job is easy, but pays very little and there is no career growth. All I know is I need a better job, but I haven't figured out what I want to do. I don't have much time to train nowadays and injuries bother me more and more as I get older (again, from being an idiot in my 20's). Overall, I'm happy, but that's only because I have a wonderful wife and son.

 

[therealdope]

I was raised to do the best possible at every job I had. Every job I've ever had was directly related to a previous job. My first job was mowing lawns at age 10. One of my customers worked for a news paper and got me a job delivering newspapers at age 12. From that I had a customer that owned a service station and he hired me to work there while I was in high school. That led to a career as a mechanic working on almost everything from small engines and lawnmowers, to cars, to heavy trucks, to heavy equipment.

Right, that just isn't the case for younger people now. Read the post above yours.

 

[Sonny Qc]

I'm 36 and I never been better in my life tbh.
In every aspect

 

[Domitian]

37 and life is good. Hairline intact, skilled enough to never worry about my ability to make money, and feel young mentally. Can start to notice a physical decline though. 3 weeks ago I went to a grocery store and squatted down to look at something and sprained my knee. Been walking with a limp for the last 3 weeks. Fucking hell. I'm learning from here on out I'll have to be more conscious not to injure myself in any physical activity.