I make this post cus i have seeen so many instances where someone has a bad night or maybe just gets it handed to them by opp who are better than them; an sooo many people really get their confidence shaken. You can see it in their movements or the way they act afterwards, it's like they have no faith in their ability or u talk to some guys and after they get tapped or dominated they spend the next hour explaining why they were off or not sharp or whatever. Or what is worse a guy who just constantly ask u to stop the min u get in a good position or when they feel they are losing. Me personally if i get tapped or thrown around or whatever it does not make me doubt my training or myself; i feel like i had a off night or hell maybe the other guy is just better than me, but i don't feel the need to explain or cut sessions short or walk around w/my head hanging cus i got beat on. Now given my infrequent training habits, an my penchant for wanting to just grapple more than go over techniques; not saying i don't drill tech, it's just not my favorite thing. I would rather grapple. Maybe that is why it does not shake me, because i know i do it more for fun or recreation moreso than trying to be a whatever belt or super grappler; i just want to have fun, stay in shape and feel confident in defending myself. so maybe that is why i don't take it as hard... what about u guys does losing hit u really hard or when u just get owned on a particular night does it shake ur confidence; i mean we all have good and/or bad nights, an then there are times when we are at our best and still lose. Is it that big a deal.. not to me i know wht i can and can't do.