Do you think this text is too harsh?

[Drenalin]

Harsh?

If anything, you held back.

I hope to hell these kids are NOT yours so you do not have to support this bitch whatsoever

Yep I've been holding back for over 6 months now. According to her those comments were nasty & ignorant & I'm no longer allowed at the doctors appointments. She said she won't speak to me again until it's time for the babies. And I'm hoping the babies aren't mine.

 

[aus101]

Can't really be too harsh in a situation like this, she's being a nightmare. Hopefully kids aren't yours.

 

[Drenalin]

Can't really be too harsh in a situation like this, she's being a nightmare. Hopefully kids aren't yours.

Gotta stay cool because we'll end up in court

 

[Graves The Elder]

stopped reading at 'remember my story'..

 

[Halifax]

Trust me, you WILL NOT get anything more than every other weekend and 1 holiday per year.

The only time when fathers get more than that is when they get sole custody from the mother being an endangerment to the child, or the mother isn't a cunt and gifts the father extra time.

This skank is clearly not going to give you anything.

I know all of this from personal experience.

Boost your testicular fortitude and take my advice. You'll be very happy you did bro.

And she will run you through the ringer for child support.

Like, you will not have enough personal money for anything more than Pasta and potatoes unless you stiff her.

 

[Drenalin]

stopped reading at 'remember my story'..

Cool story

 

[hbdope]

not too harsh. I would have kept it short though just sent her a

"ur fuck'd"

she's not worth your time or grammar

 

[Halifax]

Not worth going to prison. They will break up again anyway. They always have been off & on. That won't change now that she has kids by another man. I'm sure right now he's hoping the babies are his.

I was with her at the hospital after her emergency surgery to save the babies. She asked me to leave so her boyfriend could stay with her. I said I want to meet him. She told no he doesn't want to speak to me because his feelings are hurt that he's not the father lol

I'm sure right now she is cackling because her plan all along was to get pregnant by another man and then go back to her Ex so she has a child support net in place(And I doubt much of the money will go to the babies). This chick will milk you for every penny in Child support while giving you as little time with the kids as possible.

 

[SMYD]

Personal issues are so fun to discuss with fellow strangers, isn't it?

 

[Drenalin]

I'm sure right now she is cackling because her plan all along was to get pregnant by another man and then go back to her Ex so she has a child support net in place(And I doubt much of the money will go to the babies). This chick will milk you for every penny in Child support while giving you as little time with the kids as possible.

I honestly don't think child support was her motive. She has a decent salary job. She's just a very emotionally confused person who is very selfish. Also she was raised to think it's completely acceptable to have make babies, but not raise them together. All of her friends & family are single mothers. I keep telling her that's not acceptable when having babies was an agreement.

All along she's told me that leaving had nothing to with me. She says she'll never be happy unless she's with her boyfriend. I always ask her why she waited until she was pregnant to tell me that, but she never answers.

 

[blitzk]

you are being overly nice just by still talking to her.
I would've filled the room with uppercuts and bailed on that crazy hoe.

Also, i don't think those are your kids but she went with the guy who she though was more likely to provide for her/kids.

 

[Halifax]

My evidence according to the state I'm in's visitation guidelines (of which there are no set rules by default, but this is what's often ordered):

The child visits the non-custodial parent:

Every other weekend
One evening or overnight each week

The holiday schedule usually has the parents alternate the school and legal holidays and gives each parent half of spring break.

The summer break schedule may give the non-custodial parent 4-6 weeks.

Your evidence:

Talking to some guy.

The OP wants full 50%. Meaning 3.5 full days a week with the kids(Which usually ends up being a "you get them one week, I get them the next"). Ideally he wants custody and her having to beg time with them I think, but that will not happen.

IWinyouLose is coming on a bit strong in his approach, but he is very correct in his assertions that women held all the cards in Custody battles in the past. The trend is shifting as the old fart judges who still remember the Tender Years Doctrine die out and younger reasonable Judges replace them.

But if he were wrong, then it would not be men applying for "access" to their children in 85% of the cases statistically.

 

[Drenalin]

you are being overly nice just by still talking to her.
I would've filled the room with uppercuts and bailed on that crazy hoe.

Also, i don't think those are your kids but she went with the guy who she though was more likely to provide for her/kids.

Naaa. She's back with her ex & they plan on raising the babies together. If she thought he was the dad, she wouldn't have me going to appointments & picking out the baby names. If she thought I wasn't the father, she would've cut ties with me along time ago. She's hoping he's the father but it's unlikely.

 

[minute bull]

 

[Halifax]

I don't think it's like that in my state, but we'll see. I'm hiring a lawyer to get me 50%. I've talked to other people that say the judge will agree to 50/50. Plus she works 4 nights a week. That would be ridiculous for the babies to be sent to daycare when I'm able to have them. Plus she won't have any help from anyone else. Her family lives far away. I have my mom whose literally always able to help. Also I'll have my own house & she won't. She'll have to live with her boyfriend. She's renting her own house now, but I know she can barely afford it. I do have things stacked in my favor

Ummmmm

The way the judges look at it to make ends meet is, you make sure she can afford it by making the father pay child support to keep her living arrangements stable.

 

[Drenalin]

The OP wants full 50%. Meaning 3.5 full days a week with the kids(Which usually ends up being a "you get them one week, I get them the next"). Ideally he wants custody and her having to beg time with them I think, but that will not happen.

IWinyouLose is coming on a bit strong in his approach, but he is very correct in his assertions that women held all the cards in Custody battles in the past. The trend is shifting as the old fart judges who still remember the Tender Years Doctrine die out and younger reasonable Judges replace them.

But if he were wrong, then it would not be men applying for "access" to their children in 85% of the cases statistically.

I think 50/50 is completely fair. No reason why I should lose time with my kids because she decided to be with someone else. Also I've heard alternating between 3-4 days a week is a good custody plan.

 

[Fawlty]

Not sure if this was asked, but can you get a court order for the paternity test?

 

[Drenalin]

Ummmmm

The way the judges look at it to make ends meet is, you make sure she can afford it by making the father pay child support to keep her living arrangements stable.

Really? From what I've been told if everything is 50/50 no one pays child support. Also we have about the same income

 

[Halifax]

I think 50/50 is completely fair. No reason why I should lose time with my kids because she decided to be with someone else. Also I've heard alternating between 3-4 days a week is a good custody plan.

And yet, she allowed you to hang around for a bit then sent you on your way because "it is not fair to her boyfriend"

I think you need to accept she is going to come out with guns blazing to fuck you over if they are yours and limit your time with them.

 

[Halifax]

I am going to bow out of this thread for now. But good luck. keep us posted.

 

[Drenalin]

Not sure if this was asked, but can you get a court order for the paternity test?

Yes. But I want a test done now before they're born.

Here's the deal.

A prenatal (before birth) paternity test cost about $1000. But she had an emergency surgery done to save the babies. During the surgery the doctors took a DNA sample for genetic testing & study purposes because this is a very rare pregnancy that they are trying to learn more about. Anyway that same sample can be used to establish paternity right now. But she has to agree. Right she says she won't agree to it because she's tired of my nasty & ignorant remarks.

I want the test done now before I buy a house & a new truck. I need those before the babies arrive.