Do you get more set in your ways?

[Pugilistic]

When I was in my teens and early 20s, I've always heard that people tend to get more set in their ways sometime around your 30s. Whatever you believe in then probably won't change much for the rest of your life.

When I think about myself, I think it's sort of true. I changed drastically and I started going into a certain philosophical direction in my late 20s and since then my beliefs have developed into something more clear. The details (some of them being pretty important details) have changed, but I'm on the same path.

I feel the same has happened with my friends and family but the degrees have changed. They're still respectively conservative, religious, liberal, socialist, etc. Some have gotten more mellow while others have grown more extreme but otherwise they seem to be set in a certain modality so to speak. Personally, I think I'm on the right path now of course, but I wonder if it's possible to go on a completely different one when I'm much older.

Do you think it's possible to make drastic changes in your advanced age?

Or do you think you're philosophically set for life?

 

[JabToucher]

I read the daily mail...................you can imagine!

 

[Jack Stevonovich]

I think people can change if they want to and have access to what the need to be able to and develop the habits that create those changes.

 

[Pugilistic]

I read the daily mail...................you can imagine!

Do you think you'll ever not be into fat chicks?

 

[JabToucher]

Do you think you'll ever not be into fat chicks?

Not in to fat chicks in the slightest! Only fat asses!!! (and nice feet)!

 

[Pugilistic]

Not in to fat chicks in the slightest! Only fat asses!!! (and nice feet)!

Sorry I think I got you confused with someone else. I sweat there was a british poster who's into fat girls.

 

[JabToucher]

Sorry I think I got you confused with someone else. I sweat there was a british poster who's into fat girls.

I did post about kelly brook recently...........

 

[Kaybee]

Sorry I think I got you confused with someone else. I sweat there was a british poster who's into fat girls.

@Chules

 

[sweetviolenturg]

When I was in my teens and early 20s, I've always heard that people tend to get more set in their ways sometime around your 30s. Whatever you believe in then probably won't change much for the rest of your life.

When I think about myself, I think it's sort of true. I changed drastically and I started going into a certain philosophical direction in my late 20s and since then my beliefs have developed into something more clear. The details (some of them being pretty important details) have changed, but I'm on the same path.

I feel the same has happened with my friends and family but the degrees have changed. They're still respectively conservative, religious, liberal, socialist, etc. Some have gotten more mellow while others have grown more extreme but otherwise they seem to be set in a certain modality so to speak. Personally, I think I'm on the right path now of course, but I wonder if it's possible to go on a completely different one when I'm much older.

Do you think it's possible to make drastic changes in your advanced age?

Or do you think you're philosophically set for life?

I've changed a lot over the course of the past several years since splitting up with my first wife. Which was at first devastating to me but then, as time went on, I realized that it was, without a doubt, one of the best things that ever happened to me. I embraced the opportunity to work on myself & become a better version of myself than I was before. And, now, I'm reaping the benefits of having done it.
One of the things that I had to do in order to move on was to let go of the anger that I had built up. Which wasn't easy to do as I was well into my 40s at the time. But, I managed to do so & I've changed a lot as a result.
Now, I don't allow things to affect me nearly as much as they used to. Case in point, I was watching tonight's UFC about an hour ago when my IPTV signal began screwing up & finally went out. A few years ago I'd have been apoplectic about it but tonight I just shrugged it off & switched over to ESPN to watch the boxing that was on.
It's not that I'm not disappointed about missing three of the biggest fights of the year. I definitely am but I realize now that getting angry about it would accomplish nothing.

 

[Danger Dave]

my parents are obsessed with tracking relatives every move on facebook which is why i left facebook. I dont need my uncle asking me in person why i posted a cat gif.

 

[Kaybee]

I think it is pretty natural to become set in your ways once you become an adult. I'm not even that old and I've gotten to the point where I don't like drastic changes popping up in my life unless it is on my own terms, and like to try to "ritualize" my life for stability. I still like doing different stuff when I decide to go and do it, but for the every day life I seem to respond much more negatively towards unrequested changes than I used to as a kid/teen.

 

[Pugilistic]

Now, I don't allow things to affect me nearly as much as they used to. Case in point, I was watching tonight's UFC about an hour ago when my IPTV signal began screwing up & finally went out. A few years ago I'd have been apoplectic about it but tonight I just shrugged it off & switched over to ESPN to watch the boxing that was on.
It's not that I'm not disappointed about missing three of the biggest fights of the year. I definitely am but I realize now that getting angry about it would accomplish nothing.

Plus you realize how unimportant it is in the grand scheme of things. Not to mention boxing is better anyway

I think it is pretty natural to become set in your ways once you become an adult. I'm not even that old and I've gotten to the point where I don't like drastic changes popping up in my life unless it is on my own terms, and like to try to "ritualize" my life for stability. I still like doing different stuff when I decide to go and do it, but for the every day life I seem to respond much more negatively towards unrequested changes than I used to as a kid/teen.

I've been like that with people where I'm having less patience for people I don't really vibe with. I'm trying to be respectful always, but I'm not going to waste my time spending time with people who aren't "my tribe" so to speak.

 

[Estemachine]

I used to think that I was pretty set on my ways and beliefs; but as of late I feel myself changing a lot of my own beliefs.

It comes down to all the information available out there, it's like the more I know, the less I know.

So I keep an open mind towards everything, at the end of the day we all hold part of the truth.

 

[Phlog]

This is why it's harder to get a woman whe you're older. Find yourself a women half your age and you can figure out a fun time. They accommodate your idiosyncrasies without being tired of your shit. If I wasn't married I'd probably be down with a woman half my age, partially to help em out etc, but also they are still real mouldable. Reminds me of the Irish wisdom re women., That the guy should have sown his wild oats but the woman should be young so she's still mouldable. Like 30 and 16-18. Seems fucked up but I guess you can find women who are mature and men like being well superior.

 

[fungi]

TLDR.

U getting old, Pug.
Welcome to the club!

 

[therealdope]

I consciously try to change things up and take on new challenges/struggles. I think the tendency is to get set in your ways, especially in your 40s. I'm alrady planning what I want to do in my 50s, 60s, and thereafter. Every 5-7 years I'll have a different location, activity and work (related) change up.

To keep things fresh, you've gotta be the 'fish out of water'.

 

[Phr3121]

Do you get more set in your ways? When I was in my teens and early 20s, I've always heard that people tend to get more set in their ways sometime around your 30s.

I've hit 50, and yes, I'm definitely set in my ways, but some things have never really changed. I have always been an introvert and enjoyed doing things alone. That's not to say I don't enjoy the company of people. Marriage did not work out well for me. With that said, I did have a career in the U.S. military and 'playing well' with others was a must.

Your body does go through changes with age. I too have managed to control anger and anxiety with time, but the triggering mechanism is still there. After 50 you should have done most of the things you wanted to do in life: Career, family, travel, etc. Your finances should be in order. Your outlook in life is different because you don't have to worry so much about money - or maybe you do. I'm in good shape and great health. I've done all the things I wanted to do and if there is something new, or old, that I feel like doing, I will do it. You have made mistakes and learned through experience. I now enjoy peace and quiet.

It depends on the individual. I know people who aged but never 'grew up' - immature. Some with drug and drinking problems, others with financial and family problems. One guy with sexual orientation issues. Traumatic experiences can change you at any stage of your life.

 

[RetiredSlave]

Probably closer to sixty. In your thirties youre not quite saying fuck all this shit yet. At least I havent. The default for sixty years old plus is fuck all this shit. Pretty sure of it.

 

[therealdope]

Probably closer to sixty. In your thirties youre not quite saying fuck all this shit yet. At least I havent. The default for sixty years old plus is fuck all this shit. Pretty sure of it.

Our friends that do the travel sports team thing with their kids are set in their ways by their 30s. They spend every weekend with other families just like them. I would bet they vote the same way, listen to teh same music and even drink the same beer.

 

[pinger]

When I was in my teens and early 20s, I've always heard that people tend to get more set in their ways sometime around your 30s. Whatever you believe in then probably won't change much for the rest of your life.

When I think about myself, I think it's sort of true. I changed drastically and I started going into a certain philosophical direction in my late 20s and since then my beliefs have developed into something more clear. The details (some of them being pretty important details) have changed, but I'm on the same path.

I feel the same has happened with my friends and family but the degrees have changed. They're still respectively conservative, religious, liberal, socialist, etc. Some have gotten more mellow while others have grown more extreme but otherwise they seem to be set in a certain modality so to speak. Personally, I think I'm on the right path now of course, but I wonder if it's possible to go on a completely different one when I'm much older.

Do you think it's possible to make drastic changes in your advanced age?

Or do you think you're philosophically set for life?