Do you ever come out of relationships eventually growing to dislike the you liked at the time?

[ralphc1]

Title meant to have "one" in between the you: dislike the one you liked at the time.

So I am in a good relationship now, but the last relationship I was in, in hindsight, was shitty. The woman was very arrogant and vain and tried to control how I wore my hair, how I dressed, and what I did for a living. At the time, I was feeling positive, so the annoyance was very minimal. But now that I am with a genuine good person, I am kind of annoyed at myself for staying with something who a. I didn't think was very attractive b. I thought was stupid intellectually c. cared about shit that she was either wrong about or was none of her damn business. Like how, and why, did I tolerate it?

I have half a mind to write a nasty(but truthful) letter to the ex about everything from how her ass tasted and smelled like shit the one time I licked it, she thought she was a 9 when she was a 6(or 5) out of 10, she was wrong about pretty much all her thoughts, and how it's amazing to be with a normal, caring human being once again.

I sometimes end up disliking a person I liked but more often I hate myself for liking them in the first place.

 

[mb23100]

That is the most confusing thread title in the history of the internet. Congrats ts

 

[Seaside]

you must be like giant rock in river, women is water they move around you because you guide them to how you like they must go around you cannot go through you or move you. yep

 

[mb23100]

you must be like giant rock in river, women is water they move around you because you guide them to how you like they must go around you cannot go through you or move you. yep

They're more like mud that builds up over the rock eventually burying it so it never sees the light of day again

 

[Deleted member 484047]

Yep. Know the feeling all to well. I hate the woman, but I still hope she lives a long, healthy life to a ripe old age.

And dies in a nursing home alone, forgotten, and unloved.

 

[Naught2Sixty]

I always dislike the you liked but then what if

 

[M3t4tr0n]

Gimme your ex phone number so i can lick her ass too

 

[thetruth2709]

Title meant to have "one" in between the you: dislike the one you liked at the time.

So I am in a good relationship now, but the last relationship I was in, in hindsight, was shitty. The woman was very arrogant and vain and tried to control how I wore my hair, how I dressed, and what I did for a living. At the time, I was feeling positive, so the annoyance was very minimal. But now that I am with a genuine good person, I am kind of annoyed at myself for staying with something who a. I didn't think was very attractive b. I thought was stupid intellectually c. cared about shit that she was either wrong about or was none of her damn business. Like how, and why, did I tolerate it?

I have half a mind to write a nasty(but truthful) letter to the ex about everything from how her ass tasted and smelled like shit the one time I licked it, she thought she was a 9 when she was a 6(or 5) out of 10, she was wrong about pretty much all her thoughts, and how it's amazing to be with a normal, caring human being once again.

Yeah you have issues dude... try to work on yourself before criticizing somebody else... yeah I know you probably dont see it now, hopefully one day you will

 

[LTorino]

You seem like one who deserves it.

Just out of curiosity, what could you possibly like about licking an asshole? It can't be the taste, cause you've already complained about that.

You realize that you are willingly eating feces right?

It's like a trust thing, as I've explained to girls I've been with. If you can go nose deep in their asshole, it shows trust, both on their part that they are clean and will allow you in that most intimate of areas and on your part that you would lick that area.

And honestly, like I said, it usually is clean on a woman and has no hinter of a smell or taste of shit. The girl I'm dating now, I lick the hell out of her ass, finger it, and put it in her ass. It's the most insane feeling ever and doesn't taste or smell bad.

 

[That209]

I always dislike the you liked but then what if

 

[VulcanNervPinch]

I have half a mind to write a nasty(but truthful) letter to the ex about everything from how her ass tasted and smelled like shit the one time I licked it, she thought she was a 9 when she was a 6(or 5) out of 10, she was wrong about pretty much all her thoughts, and how it's amazing to be with a normal, caring human being once again.

Sometimes it can be really healthy to write that kind of letter. Sit down, write all the things you hated, were blind to or made excuses for, get it out of your system...then don't send it and don't waste any more time worrying about her.
Tear it up (or save it to remind yourself if you ever catch yourself doing the same thing again, or save it to remind yourself how good you have it if you never get in the same kind of relationship again).
Nothing good will come from actually sending. She's not going to spend time feeling bad about your insults, she's not going to cop to it all and apologize.
Just expel it all and then let it go.

 

[LTorino]

Yeah you have issues dude... try to work on yourself before criticizing somebody else... yeah I know you probably dont see it now, hopefully one day you will

I mean, I think self awareness is a strength of mine, and I often see that critical people, such as this particular ex, lack it. So, I would actually say that my desire to infuse some reality into her brain is similar to your desire to accomplish what you tried in your message; telling someone to focus on themselves and be less critical. You can't really tell me anything I haven't already told myself, unlike most people.

 

[LTorino]

Sometimes it can be really healthy to write that kind of letter. Sit down, write all the things you hated, were blind to or made excuses for, get it out of your system...then don't send it and don't waste any more time worrying about her.
Tear it up (or save it to remind yourself if you ever catch yourself doing the same thing again, or save it to remind yourself how good you have it if you never get in the same kind of relationship again).
Nothing good will come from actually sending. She's not going to spend time feeling bad about your insults, she's not going to cop to it all and apologize.
Just expel it all and then let it go.

I think this is an awesome post. It's basically therapy. I have considered writing therapy. I already did write a short critical note and my friend talked me out of sending. Maybe a more in-depth one will accomplish more. Appreciate it, my man.