Do you ever come out of relationships eventually growing to dislike the you liked at the time?

[LTorino]

Title meant to have "one" in between the you: dislike the one you liked at the time.

So I am in a good relationship now, but the last relationship I was in, in hindsight, was shitty. The woman was very arrogant and vain and tried to control how I wore my hair, how I dressed, and what I did for a living. At the time, I was feeling positive, so the annoyance was very minimal. But now that I am with a genuine good person, I am kind of annoyed at myself for staying with something who a. I didn't think was very attractive b. I thought was stupid intellectually c. cared about shit that she was either wrong about or was none of her damn business. Like how, and why, did I tolerate it?

I have half a mind to write a nasty(but truthful) letter to the ex about everything from how her ass tasted and smelled like shit the one time I licked it, she thought she was a 9 when she was a 6(or 5) out of 10, she was wrong about pretty much all her thoughts, and how it's amazing to be with a normal, caring human being once again.

 

[Pliny Pete]

I always dislike the you liked but then what if

 

[SRN]

I can't believed I was with her for so long! Yeah, it happens, it's normal and it's part of getting out of a relationship. The letter thing though... sounds like you're still emotionally attached to her. I wouldn't write it even if I thought it was a good way to get back at her. I received one of those "I'm better without you" letters once and it was the most pathetic thing ever. Just try to erase her from your life, that's the right thing to do. Don't feed resettlement and bitterness in your life.

 

[Kiddo716]

you should write that letter and post her response here.

 

[LTorino]

I can't believed I was with her for so long! Yeah, it happens, it's normal and it's part of getting out of a relationship. The letter thing though... sounds like you're still emotionally attached to her. I wouldn't write it even if I thought it was a good way to get back at her. I received one of those "I'm better without you" letters once and it was the most pathetic thing ever. Just try to erase her from your life, that's the right thing to do. Don't feed resettlement and bitterness in your life.

I'm honestly annoyed at myself for allowing her to get away with some of the shit she said. Honest to God, I didn't even find her attractive, but I'm a "People Pleaser," so there was nothing I felt I could do once I got that deep into things. I don't have any emotion towards her other than hatred.

 

[Kanuck99]

Pretty lame TS.

 

[Organic Damage]

Isn't that one of those tricks the mind plays on itself to resolve cognitive dissonance?

Too lazy to look up the clinical term, but it's similar to the sour grapes effect. Anyway, is normal, I guess.

 

[I Am Legion]

We all make mistakes. Licking a poopy ass was yours. Live and learn, move on.

 

[Kanuck99]

I have half a mind to write a nasty(but truthful) letter to the ex about everything from how her ass tasted and smelled like shit the one time I licked it

This is how you know you have watched too much porn. Its an asshole dummy, WTF do you think its going to taste and smell like?

This bitch has probably moved on and hasn't given you a second thought since.

 

[LTorino]

This is how you know you have watched too much porn. Its an asshole dummy, WTF do you think its going to taste and smell like?

This bitch has probably moved on and hasn't given you a second thought since.

Honest to God, my man: I have licked lots of girls asses and only had this occurrence with this ex. Alright, maybe with a really fat one night stand, but I was asking for trouble with someone that fat. How were they gonna maintain that area with so much fat in the way?

 

[SRN]

I'm honestly annoyed at myself for allowing her to get away with some of the shit she said. Honest to God, I didn't even find her attractive, but I'm a "People Pleaser," so there was nothing I felt I could do once I got that deep into things. I don't have any emotion towards her other than hatred.

Just give it time, I know you want to say some shit to her but that won't change anything. And you will most likely regret it.

 

[LTorino]

Just give it time, I know you want to say some shit to her but that won't change anything. And you will most likely regret it.

Thanks. I guess it's basically a lesson I need to learn about being less of a pushover. I liked what you said about letting go of resentment and bitterness. It's weird though; because it has stemmed from how awesome the woman I am currently with. It was like a shock how nice and caring people can be.

 

[Kanuck99]

Honest to God, my man: I have licked lots of girls asses and only had this occurrence with this ex. Alright, maybe with a really fat one night stand, but I was asking for trouble with someone that fat. How were they gonna maintain that area with so much fat in the way?

I hope you get necrotizing fasciitis.

 

[LTorino]

I hope you get necrotizing fasciitis.

LoL. Why? Because I like licking ass?

 

[Ogata]

LoL. Why? Because I like licking ass?

Yup! You are a sick person and reading the experience with your ex ass made me literally do this:

 

[Johnson]

Forget it.

Seriously, if you’re done with the relationship then just move on and be cordial at the very least.

It’s cool and all to tell us of your ass-licking adventures without naming names. Those of us in the know know that shit gets weird and freaky when we get naked. Talking getting pissed on and/or her taking many a phallic object into her is a given.

 

[Kanuck99]

LoL. Why? Because I like licking ass?

You seem like one who deserves it.

Just out of curiosity, what could you possibly like about licking an asshole? It can't be the taste, cause you've already complained about that.

You realize that you are willingly eating feces right?

 

[Johnson]

You seem like one who deserves it.

Just out of curiosity, what could you possibly like about licking an asshole? It can't be the taste, cause you've already complained about that.

You realize that you are willingly eating feces right?

It’s just a thing that happens, brah. I wanna say the mood demands it, but it’s more of a lizard brain basic instinct thing. When the mood hits, two people just get kind of weird if you wanna put it in scientific terms. Toe sucking, bunghole licking, etc. it is what it is.

 

[IloveTHIS]

I would say thats extremely, extremely common....

Stop wasting time thinking about it. Seriously. You're done with her so be done with her.

 

[minute bull]