Relationships Divorce can pull you from your throne and drag you underground

[Bobby Boulders]

Based on what the OP suggests, can't presume anything other than the age gap gave this man a great deal of pride. He evidently loved his wife. Being told directly from the source of said pride and love that she's "just not feeling it anymore," that's reality shattering. One day your life is mapped out in your head, you're living it up in your baller ass home with your younger wife and the family you made together, the next day you may as well be @Bobby Boulders. It's gonna take this guy a long, long time to reconcile this situation, he's a prime example of "life ain't fair."

This thread bums me out.

 

[koquerelle]

Remind me again what a man can do married that he can't do single besides get divorced and file a joint tax return?

I married my wife on our 20th anniversary together. It didn't change anything per se. We had been putting off marriage for a long time because it felt we would be doing it for others (big marriage, a church, etc.). We ended up getting married by a Elvis in a small Vegas chapel. It was amazing and I never regretted it.

 

[godhatesacoward]

looking through this thread thinking "yup prenups are my best friend"

 

[godhatesacoward]

Remind me again what a man can do married that he can't do single besides get divorced and file a joint tax return?

beat his wife

 

[koquerelle]

looking through this thread thinking "yup prenups are my best friend"

or marry the right one

 

[godhatesacoward]

or marry the right one

well that's the thing everyone thinks it's the right one when they're marryin' them

 

[ThaiSexPills]

My wife signed a prenup. She also declined to see the documents from the discovery period where she could have saw my assets and wealth. I think I have the right one but if not, I will assemble the greatest legal team ever and destroy her

 

[Contempt]

Just got divorced, she called the cops on me and sent me to jail while I was drunk, been paying for her to live in my apartment while I stay with my folks for the past two months and looks like will be three more until lease ends.

Can confirm.

Sorry to hear sherbro, that's fucked...

 

[Contempt]

or marry the right one

Everyone thinks they are marrying the "right one" ...most of them are incorrect.

 

[THEfightsAREfixed]

Sorry to hear sherbro, that's fucked...

Thanks man, it sucks but I created the situation then sat in it for an extended period of time allowing for near complete deterioration. So I gotta own that and take responsibility for the setup. Even if the woman is literally clinically insane, still my fault. Gonna rebuild and ideally come out with some lessons learned and take the consequences of my actions on the chin.

 

[Contempt]

Thanks man, it sucks but I created the situation then sat in it for an extended period of time allowing for near complete deterioration. So I gotta own that and take responsibility for the setup. Even if the woman is literally clinically insane, still my fault. Gonna rebuild and ideally come out with some lessons learned and take the consequences of my actions on the chin.

Yep, all you can do at this point... still a rough thing to go through.

 

[clutchCAT420]

Broken families and divorced homes. Children are the real sufferers. Western world went to shit. Smh...
You can spot the difference in people who grow up without a nuclear family.

 

[Misanthropist]

It's pretty much too late for him to start over as he is in his mid 50s.

Watch him spiral into alcohol or substance addiction.

 

[William Huggins]

Just got divorced, she called the cops on me and sent me to jail while I was drunk, been paying for her to live in my apartment while I stay with my folks for the past two months and looks like will be three more until lease ends.

Can confirm.

Sorry to hear that, been through similar but probably worse.......

 

[Fury]

I was the one who left/divorced my ex. No kids but I earned much more than her, like 150k more than her.

I gave her a condo and paid her car payment for two years. She initially wanted to listen to her sister and press for actual alimony (because her sister said she should) but I convinced her that was a terrible idea based on the amount of time we were married and the laws in my state.

Best decision of my life. Five years later...I live in a luxury apartment with my newly pregnant wife. We're going to buy something when this lease is up.

I don't think anyone got fucked in our case. We both are remarried, my ex just had a kid and I'm having one. She got a place she could live for almost nothing or sell plus her car paid off. I'll just buy another place and the 2 years of car payments wasn't a big deal.

 

[Intermission]

Pull guard

 

[Stoic1]

I remember my dad's ex-GF trying to saddle up to hitch a ride. Always with the comments about how much easier things would be if they were married, etc.

One day there were some off-color jokes about my dad croaking and she wanted his car, etc.

Cold stare with dead eyes I said she better not cost more than $10k because that's what it costs to have someone whacked. Looking right at my dad. Never even glanced over at her.

Bitches need to understand.

 

[wlu.29]

Someone I've known at work for 25 years just got a divorce. Went from living in a big house in a gated community to living in a studio apartment. He looks ROUGH. Lost his house, his retirement money, boat AND judge ordered for him to pay child support AND alimony. It's pretty much too late for him to start over as he is in his mid 50s.

He didnt do anything wrong. His wife said she wasnt happy in the marriage anymore and lost the spark. I had a feeling this was gonna happen because the age gap was huge.

87% you're making this up

 

[Fedorgasm]

This thread is relevant to my interests.

Divorce is brought up every time we fight now.

We don't fight often, but it feels like each time we do, we get closer to calling it quits.

Hopefully I can make it another 2 years because I want my daughter to graduate first.

Whenever it happens I will most definitely be financially fucked. Despite her always claiming that she wants to work, she hardly did. So being her sole source of income for 26 years means I'll certainly have to pay alimony. Maybe for the rest of my life.

 

[chardog]

Sounds like he had a shit lawyer.

The fact that you need a great lawyer, shows that there’s something wrong with the system.