Relationships Divorce can pull you from your throne and drag you underground

[Satur9]

You don't need to be married to have a significant other/kids. Plenty of people go that route.

Yep. It is a good way for a lot of people. My ex wife were just together for 12.5 years. Kids and all that. Got married and divorced within a year lol. Sometimes, you don’t mess with what’s working just for a title.

 

[Hog-train]

I almost don't want to even post this. But fuck it. Sometimes it goes the other way.
I do know that normally the man gets fucked.

Although I didn't want to get divorced, for me hindsight is 20 20 and I'm glad it happened. Been divorced for a few years now, ex pays me alimony for the next 10 years as I was a stay at home dad while she advanced her career.
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got half her retirement and half profit of the house sale. I negotiated a newish car paid in full. I can do whatever I want when I want. I get to have new women which has been surprisingly easy, travel when and where I want, and have my kids 50 50. I'm smoking some ribs and gonna watch the ufc in a bit with my son. Going to new orleans for Mardi gras in a few weeks by myself
For me divorce has actually been pretty great.

I 100% know that this isnt the norm and I feel for all the men out there that get fucked over in divorce

Personal question which you can of course decline to answer no problem.

I've always wondered in a situation where the man is the stay at home dad, does the woman starts to lose respect for you? Because they're the breadwinner?

Did the power dynamics change in the relationship?

And finally, do you think stay at home dads make better parents than stay at home moms?

 

[Ballsaque]

You don't need to be married to have a significant other/kids. Plenty of people go that route.

True enough, true enough.

 

[liner]

Personal question which you can of course decline to answer no problem.

I've always wondered in a situation where the man is the stay at home dad, does the woman starts to lose respect for you? Because they're the breadwinner?

Did the power dynamics change in the relationship?

And finally, do you think stay at home dads make better parents than stay at home moms?

Of course she could be lying but we did go through a solid 6 months of trying to figure things out where many things were said on both sides. that wasn't an issue or even close to an issue.

I have no idea on who makes better parents. I can probably say that it is harder to be a stay at home dad v mom, just on the fact that moms will have a much easier time making a friend network to help them.

But honestly I wouldn't recommend being a stay at home to either men or women, its hard as fuck and you lose your sanity when those kids are babies.

 

[TheNinja]

But couldn't it also allow you to rise from the nagging ashes like a Pheonix? Or like a man being reborn with freedom and happiness?

 

[Mike]

That shit fucked me up bad. I never recovered lol. No matter what you say or do for them, nothing can stop them from just randomly waking up one day and just fucking hating you. Seen it happen so many times. When they get bored for too long they will just turn on you in the most savage way possible. Once you go through that and see that a few times it really fucks up your ability to trust.

 

[method115]

Wow… your like a fucking Unicorn! As a man that is currently paying an obnoxious amount for “child support” which is really just baby momma support because kids shouldn’t cost me 1/5 of what I’m paying monthly. I definitely know how it feels to get fucked by the system lol. Life is still good though and my kids are incredible and I’m still blessed.

It's crazy how much I was paying my ex in child support. When my daughter finally wanted to live with me it took years to get them to stop taking the payments because my ex wouldn't answer any court order and could never be served. Finally talked to the oag one day and they told me how much was in the account being held until this was resolved. At that point I realized exactly what I could do since it was so much money. Messaged my ex and offered her 1k if she would just sign the papers confirming she had been served. She did and they dropped everything to $0 and gave me the money.

My wife told me I shouldn't even pay my ex but I kept my word and I didn't want drama over $1k.