Did you bully kids at school ?

[dirtypablo]

I was a horrible kid, but I use to use the same line to justify my bad behaviour and Like you I was a man child, but unlike you I kept growing into a full sized person

You're speaking to someone that bragged about yelling at a woman in a parking lot and making her cry, as an adult.

 

[Dreaming Dead]

I was bullied by other kids, and turned into a bully myself when I realized that's what "cool kids" did - bullying others for approval. I'm glad that phase didn't last long, and that I never did anything extreme, but I'm still ashamed that I relinquished my principles even if for a short while. I would specifically treat bullying victims well, in contrast to the abuse they received.

The worst thing I did was slamming someone in the head with a heavy notebook. The other kids laughed their asses off, and I basked in the "praise" I received from them. I could even feel the dopamine rush. However, I was immediately snitched by someone else. Even though the snitching didn't actually cause me serious problems, it made me understand that I had been acting like a piece of shit, which made me drop the whole "bully" act.

Kids are often fucking idiots, and need a stern pair of adults to keep them in line.

 

[Spounman]

A little bit but we were all friends and I changed in high school. I hate bullying & bullies since I was in high school. My ex's son started to get bullied when he started middle school. I dropped him off and picked him up every day and I said point out the kid that's bullying you. I was going to talk to whoever was picking the kid up. Luckily it didn't last long and my dude made friends with the girls from school who also lived at our apartment complex then he was doing just fine at school.

 

[eddymotto]

It seemed to me like most kids both got bullied, and did some bullying, at least to some degree. Even the popular kids would get bullied at least to some degree by the older popular kids. I'm ashamed to say I participated to some degree, but more than anything I think the worst was standing by when others were bullying, and I could have probably stopped it if I had stepped in.

It's kind of funny the number of people who say they never bullied anyone, I find that hard to believe. Most kids picked on someone at least a few times in their life, but when you're the one doing the bullying your perspective is radically different than the perspective of the receiver. Easy to tell yourself that mean comment wasn't bullying when it wasn't directed towards you.

It's also interesting how bullying in athletics is tolerated and was even encouraged by staff, but bullying around intellect wasn't met with the same attitude. Maybe we wouldn't have as many idiots who don't realize they're idiots if all the remedial and average students had to spend a day in honors courses with the smart kids and teachers barking at them that they're not cut out for thinking when they struggle with the material.

this is a really great post. thanks for writing it.

I was never physically bullied and I never physically bullied anyone either but you are correct that there were times where I picked on people. Nothing serious, just some sarcastic comments and such but I suspect I would be ashamed now if I was shown an objective video of my actions and inactions.

on the flip side, over the years I have had a few people contact me on social media to tell me that I made a really positive difference for them in high school. They were going through rough times and I was kind to them and they still remember it. Honestly, I don't even really remember 2 of the people. It has been 20 years. I can tell that they went to school with me but I don't even remember hanging out with them. Obviously it makes me happy to hear these things but I am also pretty sure that I was a shit to other kids sometimes too. I wish I had been consistently kinder especially since I now better understand how just a little bit of kindness at the right time can really make a difference to another person.

your team sports comments are interesting. the sports I played did not have hazing outside of stuff like having to run an extra lap, fetch the water during breaks, et al. I had friends who played different sports and the hazing was sometimes violent and demeaning.

 

[xHeadx]

I was a bully of the bullies & defender of those less fortunate than me. To this day, I despise bullying, whether verbal or physical.

 

[JoeyJoeJoeJr]

I was badly bullied as a child. In grade 3 a kid who took the bus with me used to pull out his knife and threaten to stab me. Then he would jump me when i got outside the bus and beat the shit out of me. I made friends with a big kid named nick who used to beat me. He beat me for about 5 straight years. I was a kid and he would use intimidation tactics to scare me from leaving or not hanging out with him. He beat me from grade 2 to 8 almost every day.

People started noticing that any time someone would walk by me I would cower in fear. My other friends has to tell me they weren't going to beat me and that my friend really fucked me up. I was too young to really get it. My parents never cared about anything so they never even noticed. Nick would always punch me when i walked by him and he was literally twice my size

Once I went to high school i became a bully because i believe if you are badly bullied, you become one. I was very very cold and heartless for years after that. I had no empathy at all. I started carrying knives and one night me and my friend got eggs thrown at us by a high school kid. We went and got my friends guns and went chasing after him but he ran. After that nobody wanted to fuck with me because they knew me and my friend might come for them. After that the kid literally disappeared and never came back to school. My friend developed a heroin addiction and we lost contact.

It took a decade of soul searching and consciously trying to become a better person to become the person i am today.

I had a really fucked up childhood. I was molested by older guys and that really messed me up too. I was breaking into cars by the time i was in grade 5, and by high school i was carrying weapons and threatening to kill anyone who crossed me. This is the first time im my life ive told anyone i was molested.

I know some posters here believe i say shit to get pity but im just telling my story, i don't feel sorry for myself and i never have

 

[Killer Whale]

I was a terrible person when I was younger, assaulted people, robbed people. I’ve done so many horrible things when I was younger I forget some of them. I absolutely despise the person I was and have had the opportunity to apologize to only one guy I picked on. I had no positive male role model around, only my older criminal brother and his friends, my house was a hub for criminals. I had many adults treat me like the enemy when I really just needed help. By them not helping only hurt their kids because that’s what I did.

 

[Morning Star]

I was verbally obnoxious as a kid, not sure I'd call that bullying more like shit talking. But generally no I wasn't very big as a kid then grew 7 inches sophomore of high school and wasn't small anymore but I was rail thin so not very physically imposing. Took me another 10 years to fill out so a little late to begin a bullying career. Generally tried to get along with everyone till I realized no matter what some people will never like you no matter what.

 

[cheesus]

Around the primary school years were the worst. I definitely wasn't a bully but regretfully there were a few times that I may have said some nasty things but I never physically assaulted or intimidated anyone.

One thing that still haunts me is there this older severely mentally disabled guy we knew that was hanging out the park, we were generally pretty cool to him but for some reason one of the kids was spitting toward him as some sort of sick joke and we all thought it was hilarious, I spat toward him and then accidently hit him and he went crazy, I saw him a few weeks later and was terrified he was going to lash out at me but he either didn't see me or forgot about it, he was a nice guy too he didn't deserve it, use to take his neighbors bins in. I still feel disgusted by it all these years later.

I was fine in high school though, I was more or less the middle of the pack type person but I was cool to everyone and was always respectful and made connections with some of the guys with some of the guys that were considered nerds or geeks and still have contact with some of them to this day.

 

[Krixes]

It's hard to really explain. I come from a big family, and we grew up poor (didn't realize it at the time). Word spread about my Dad's drinking problem amongst parents, kids would make fun of me when I was little but I didn't really understand it. By the time I was in the 7th grade I was the poor white kid who lived on a dirt road with no tv, video games, a/c, etc (I would have a friend over and they would go back to school and tell everyone about my home life)... Still I never thought I was poor. I started to get angry about it, and would get in a lot fights in gym class. Every single male in my family started wrestling around 5-6 years old, it's just a way of life. I would get angry and just basically pin kids, or mix in some WWF stuff like a sharpshooter, DTE etc... I never really punched any kids because I didn't know how tbh.... My mother eventually remarried a pretty wealthy man and my entire life changed, and I no longer got picked on anymore.

 

[Big Tuppy Hole]

It's hard to really explain. I come from a big family, and we grew up poor (didn't realize it at the time). Word spread about my Dad's drinking problem amongst parents, kids would make fun of me when I was little but I didn't really understand it. By the time I was in the 7th grade I was the poor white kid who lived on a dirt road with no tv, video games, a/c, etc (I would have a friend over and they would go back to school and tell everyone about my home life)... Still I never thought I was poor. I started to get angry about it, and would get in a lot fights in gym class. Every single male in my family started wrestling around 5-6 years old, it's just a way of life. I would get angry and just basically pin kids, or mix in some WWF stuff like a sharpshooter, DTE etc... I never really punched any kids because I didn't know how tbh.... My mother eventually remarried a pretty wealthy man and my entire life changed, and I no longer got picked on anymore.

It's weird I never released if 1 of my mates was poor, the thought never went through my head.

 

[Krixes]

It's weird I never released if 1 of my mates was poor, the thought never went through my head.

Some kids are just mean. I'm sure I was mean too, just didn't really realize it.

 

[Big Tuppy Hole]

Some kids are just mean. I'm sure I was mean too, just didn't really realize it.

I was horrible bully and it's my biggest regret in life, if I ever seen these people again I'd be so embarrassed