Coping with break-ups and advice

[The Special One]

I broke up with my first serious long term relationship June of last year. We went out for 6 years. I haven't spoken with her since October except to say happy birthday.

Honestly I'm still feelings the effects of her being gone, but time really heals all wounds. I consider October our actual break up date since we were planning to reconcile, but didn't work out. The first 2-3 months are hell. From there, I got a little bit numb to everything. I may have a momentary lapse of weakness and feel sad, but otherwise things carry on as normal.

Some things you can do:
Don't talk to her anymore at all. It gets pretty easy after 3 weeks or so. Imagining beng friends with my ex and listening to her talk about her new man is something that keeps me away. Block her on Facebook, delete her number, and email.

Get rid of all the little memorabilia. All those gifts? Either throw them out or keep them in a box hidden away somewhere. Personally I deleted all our pictures, threw out all the little love notes and all the other little things that brought back painful memories.

Go to the gym and stay active. Hang out with friends and concentrate on things that make you happy.

When you're ready, start dating.

Wish I would have read this post before posting. This guy knows what's up.

 

[0vary hugger**]

Hookers and coke should cheer you up.

Is that something an aunt recommends?

 

[Sexy]

I'm hoping Mayberry is the proper spot for this thread, so here it goes.

This is essentially just asking you guys how you cope with harsh break-ups and if you guys have any advice to get over it. I've been there before, but I'm more interested what you guys have to say.

My current situation is this:
We were going pretty strong for a while up until December, when some distance was happening between us and our nights together became less and more of with other people.

Just last week we decided to give ourselves some space and pretty well broke up, I kind of knew it was going to happen. Anyways, what really got me was today when I went to the bar with some friends. She was there with another one of my friends (that guy and I weren't that close BTW).

At the time I didn't think too much of it, since they had been friends since high school (she has a lot of guy friends). We decided to join groups and I sat with her, we were getting close.

Finally that guy asked who wanted to play darts, so she and I went up. We played for a while, all laughing. I was getting close with her and the guy didn't do or say anything. Went to the washroom, came back and saw them making out.

She told me they had begun dating, and "it didn't seem like a problem all night"...even though there was absolutely no indication and I had known these people for a long time. They even asked me earlier if I wanted to go to Las Vegas.

I did try to contact her a few times and even visited her at work during that week we broke, trying to prove myself a litte. However, she was distant and only returned one of the 4 or 5 texts I sent her. Even now I have no ambition to talk to them again, but it still hurts.

So, call me attn whore or whining or whatever, I just want to know how you guys have coped from some of your more harsher break-ups.

Christ.

 

[0vary hugger**]

look good
feel good
think good
try to be a better you

the next thing you know is you're the one breaking hearts of them sluts

Agreed,lot of people start to just deteriorate as human beings when this shit
happens.Dont let that happen to you.

 

[Aunty Dana**]

Is that something an aunt recommends?

It's what Sherdog's aunt recommends!