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I've noticed you're an interesting character to say the least.My wife managed to make me see that I've been sliding further and further into a mental trap of late.
She described it eloquently as: "being a sexist arsehole who I don't want to be around".
Now as irritating as that is, it happened at the perfect time (most amazing sex, kinda make up sex I guess) and I actually paused to look inside myself with my guard down.
I realised that I've been walling off my true mental surface with a scaffold upon which to hang a more resilient exterior. That as a result I've become a great deal less sensitive and flexible. I even knew it as of late, case in point:
This is not a lone event but a pattern, I also raised a hand to my son, who is, likely feeding off my energy. This is the antithesis of what I am or want to be and it all has to change.
I've obviously been at it some time and the architecture is pretty advanced, I'm not going to be able to break it all down immediately and it is going to be painful. The ego is really invested in this defence.
I advised @FierceRedBelt:
"What will you do, however small that makes you better today than you were yesterday?"
Today I recognised that I have a problem and what it was.
Tomorrow I will attempt to make that a consistent personal reality.
I guess this would be like an alcoholic admitting it publicly as a first step. It doesn't really do much for anyone else, but there you go. If I don't admit it to someone I don't really admit it to myself.
The next day I might start to try and work through what's led me here.
You're intelligent, but also kind of a know it all.
You should listen more (and not think too much as you do).
Just my 2 cents.