Cheaters, marriage and divorce.

[shanegotu11]

The research has shown 30% of relationships have cheated. Women are more likely to mentally cheat and usually physically cheat when they know the relationship is over. Men are more likely to physically cheat.

Now studies have shown that it is the home that you grew up in that can show what your more likely to do.

http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-se...-parents-who-cheated-are-more-likely-to-cheat

https://www.trustify.info/blog/infidelity-statistics-2017#article

By race:

https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-common-is-cheating-infidelity-really/


I know my friends who grew up in broken homes and had different moms almost yearly who cheat or cheated on GF or wife. I have friends who came from happy homes and most are faithful. A couple have cheated though.

Besides the link I shared, researchers say the job you have and your childhood will show if your a cheater. I dont know if its fair to say this as you'd have to have a longer study on cheating. Cheating like divorces are greatly exaggerated. Its usually cheaters who will cheat again and drive up the #s just like divorces.

The top "cheater" jobs are as listed per researchers.

1. Celebrity(movie and music)
2. Athletes
3. Lawyers, doctors.

All that shows to me with that list is power and money. Now again, they all don't cheat in those job occupations but they say more people cheat in that job occupation.

Divorce happens 50% of the time. That is a huge myth on all marriages. Most marriages last 75% of the time. Its the people who divorce and get remarried who will usually divorce again. This makes the stats misleading.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...4/do-half-all-marriages-really-end-in-divorce

https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-myth-of-the-high-rate-of-divorce/

Cliff notes:

Cheaters comes from a cheating background.

30% of relationships have a cheater.

A cheater is more likely to cheat again.

Divorce rate of 50% is exaggerated for all marriages. 65-75% of marriages last.

Divorcées will divorce again and drive up the divorce stats.

 

[shanegotu11]

Why did I post this?

Websites, forums can get depressing or make it seem like relationships are all lies and everyone cheats and everyone divorces but its factually false.

Most people don't cheat. Most people don't divorce.

 

[SammyPops]

I came in expecting a solid BBC cuck story but no dice. TS went all legit on the topic.

 

[Kanuck99]

I feel better.

 

[AGGAMEMNON66]

I came in expecting a solid BBC cuck story but no dice. TS went all legit on the topic.

There's still time Sam, whadda ya got?

 

[SammyPops]

There's still time Sam, whadda ya got?

Don't want to derail thread ..... but will PM you.

 

[shanegotu11]

Sorry I just wanted people to feel better about relationships and life.

We have too much negative stuff. Of course I will partake in it as well but not today.

 

[Kanuck99]

Sorry I just wanted people to feel better about relationships and life.

We have too much negative stuff. Of course I will partake in it as well but not today.

Just know, you're making a positive difference in our worthless lives.

 

[Phr3121]

Divorce happens 50% of the time. That is a huge myth on all marriages.

No it is not. In the U.S. the divorce rate is 50% or higher. Of the other 50%, 30% are married out of convenience. Only 20%, or less, are truly happy in their marriage. I don't think it has anything to do with money, power, education, or background. People just don't want to put the time and effort it takes to make a good marriage work.

 

[Robocok]

Why did I post this?

Websites, forums can get depressing or make it seem like relationships are all lies and everyone cheats and everyone divorces but its factually false.

Most people don't cheat. Most people don't divorce.

I don't know where you're from, but US divorce rate is 50% with 80% of divorces being initiated by women. In California, the divorce rate is 60%.

 

[HunterSdVa29]

objectively, once women became relative equals in society (say the 70s, or even 90s whatever) there became no reason for men to get married unless you're religious

sure you get tax benefits, but what else, exactly? ............ nothing you couldn't also get from a long term, serious relationship where no marriage is involved

b/c when it likely ends, unless you're a stay at home dad/husband you're done son. So not only would you likely have supported (partially, or fully) someone else making them a dependent not a spouse, you then OWE THEM money after or at least splitting assets they did nothing or little to earn.....Wait, what? Shouldn't they OWE YOU backpay for supporting them? You ideally support a female daughter till the age of 18, you don't then owe them money and meals b/c they are used to that and it's all they know, right? Why is an adult spouse any different?

It's an antiquated system (divorce, mainly) based simultaneously on the premise that we're all equals, and women are completely inferior and apparently can't support themselves
edit: not 'women' per se, but whomever earns less or is more likely to be the stay at home spouse....

 

[Scerpi]

1. Celebrity(movie and music)
2. Athletes
3. Lawyers, doctors.

All that shows to me with that list is power and money. Now again, they all don't cheat in those job occupations but they say more people cheat in that job occupation.

The other characteristics those careers have in common are extremely long working hours and extended time away from home....

Which means more time and opportunity to cheat.

Plus people in those occupations put them in close proximity to several (usually attractive) members of the opposite sex.

Someone in Engineering/Construction like me has really go out of his way to find attractive females in the workplace...

I'll all for more women getting involved in STEM careers... please...

 

[Vergilius]

I don't know where you're from, but US divorce rate is 50% with 80% of divorces being initiated by women. In California, the divorce rate is 60%.

Goddammit, at least pay attention to what TS is saying: people who become multiple divorcées artificially drive up divorce rates. 1st time marriages are 75% likely to last until death, but there are people out there getting married and divorced many times in their lives making it seem like marriage is less likely to succeed than it really is. If you marry a woman from a stable home who has never been divorced before, your statistical chance of having a long, faithful marriage is very good.

 

[MMouse]

It aint what it used to be.

Now, its accepted and not frowned upon when it comes to cheating, whoring around, divorce ect.

All the best to successful marriages tho......yea the ones that been at it for 60+ years.

 

[Bacco]

Cheat like no tomorrow as long you're not married

Chose wisely a wife and then become a good man

 

[Vergilius]

This is quite interesting to me. My parents divorced before I was two, my mother has several broken long term relationships and was a serial cheater when I was a kid - but interestingly has now been married to the same guy for 20-some years. My dad's gone through many women, but has never settled down and will probably grow old alone.

Yet I'm in a stable relationship of 14 years, which has produced three kids and I'm not yet 40 - my lady is in her early 30'ies and from an afluent family and a stable home with no cheating as far as I know. My own folks were hippies.

I couldn't help myself flirting when I was in my 20'ies, but mostly managed to restrain things and stay within accetable limitations, still I'm a bit of a hypocrite because I wouldn't have wanted my woman doing what I was doing then. My wife's flirted with one guy long ago which I caught her doing and put my foot down pretty hard - she's given me no cause for jealousy since. I suppose I should be a big red flag according to these statistics, but all things considered I've probably been more moral than most guys I know.

 

[ithinktheymad]

Most relationships fail.

 

[Robocok]

Goddammit, at least pay attention to what TS is saying: people who become multiple divorcées artificially drive up divorce rates. 1st time marriages are 75% likely to last until death, but there are people out there getting married and divorced many times in their lives making it seem like marriage is less likely to succeed than it really is. If you marry a woman from a stable home who has never been divorced before, your statistical chance of having a long, faithful marriage is very good.

Settle down

 

[Midnighter]

Why did I post this?

Websites, forums can get depressing or make it seem like relationships are all lies and everyone cheats and everyone divorces but its factually false.

Most people don't cheat. Most people don't divorce.

I don't believe you.

Love is fake and existence is pain.

 

[kahiljabroni]

objectively, once women became relative equals in society (say the 70s, or even 90s whatever) there became no reason for men to get married unless you're religious

sure you get tax benefits, but what else, exactly? ............ nothing you couldn't also get from a long term, serious relationship where no marriage is involved

b/c when it likely ends, unless you're a stay at home dad/husband you're done son. So not only would you likely have supported (partially, or fully) someone else making them a dependent not a spouse, you then OWE THEM money after or at least splitting assets they did nothing or little to earn.....Wait, what? Shouldn't they OWE YOU backpay for supporting them? You ideally support a female daughter till the age of 18, you don't then owe them money and meals b/c they are used to that and it's all they know, right? Why is an adult spouse any different?

It's an antiquated system (divorce, mainly) based simultaneously on the premise that we're all equals, and women are completely inferior and apparently can't support themselves
edit: not 'women' per se, but whomever earns less or is more likely to be the stay at home spouse....

Tax benefit is a myth if you both make good money. We pay couple grand more since marriage