brag: my girlfriend does BJJ!
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then you must escape or face being owned.
Although I've never done BJJ myself personally, I'm not sure if I could handle my girl doing BJJ with another person. Then again, it depends on her goals.
For example ...
If she's doing it for fun/exercise mainly and doesn't even want to rank up, that's a big no-no, in my opinion. It opens the doors for way too much BS and can put a strain on the relationship. All the other posters above me are correct, more or less! Your girlfriend is rolling around with all of these men, whose first instinct is to get in between a girl's legs and you're allocating it completely. Not cool, my man; not cool at all.
If she was doing it PROFESSIONALLY and took it very SERIOUSLY, then I think I could deal. Look at BJJ practitioners like Leko Vieira, Leticia Ribiero or Kyra Gracie. I doubt they take any bullshit from their male counterparts on or off the mat. They take the game very seriously from what I've seen, and they don't mess around. I think that's why they have an enormous amount of respect FROM men. Guys who just want to fuck around with girls they roll with on the mat know that, in the back of their mind, the girl isn't into the sport as much as they are.
That's just my take on it, though. Take it how you wish.
Regards,
breather1.
For example ...
If she's doing it for fun/exercise mainly and doesn't even want to rank up, that's a big no-no, in my opinion. It opens the doors for way too much BS and can put a strain on the relationship. All the other posters above me are correct, more or less! Your girlfriend is rolling around with all of these men, whose first instinct is to get in between a girl's legs and you're allocating it completely. Not cool, my man; not cool at all.
If she was doing it PROFESSIONALLY and took it very SERIOUSLY, then I think I could deal. Look at BJJ practitioners like Leko Vieira, Leticia Ribiero or Kyra Gracie. I doubt they take any bullshit from their male counterparts on or off the mat. They take the game very seriously from what I've seen, and they don't mess around. I think that's why they have an enormous amount of respect FROM men. Guys who just want to fuck around with girls they roll with on the mat know that, in the back of their mind, the girl isn't into the sport as much as they are.
That's just my take on it, though. Take it how you wish.
Regards,
breather1.
I'm pretty sure everyone around here was kidding. If YOU are not doing BJJ, then I think it's something VERY INSECURE to not want her to do it either. I mean, common, have some confidence in the fact that she might like you enough not to fuck the fist guy to touch her?
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That's the dumbest shit I've ever read. If you've never trained, don't lead yourself to believe you know what's in the back of any BJJ'ers mind. The girls aren't into the sport as much as the guys? That's a blanket statement, and an ignorant one.
No, no; I think you misunderstood me on one point, bma_mat. Regardless of me doing BJJ or not, I wouldn't be cool with her doing it. Me doing BJJ has -NOTHING- to do with her deciding to do BJJ. Sorry if I confused you.
As for your second point..
It has nothing to do with confidence in yourself or your relationship. There have been men blazing with confidence in their relationship only to have the beau of their life time say that they're fucking another person. I know, because it happened to a friend of mine. Perhaps I have a skewered view of females from my own personal relationships and encounters with them, but most women are extremely and undeniably shallow. Also, the women I've come across are very .. for lack of a better term .. slutty. Maybe it's biased, but it's my own opinion. Also, some of the comments weren't based on jokes. I also agree with a few other posters who think that the sport is for a release.
Hope I cleared everything up for you.
Regards,
breather1.
As for your second point..
It has nothing to do with confidence in yourself or your relationship. There have been men blazing with confidence in their relationship only to have the beau of their life time say that they're fucking another person. I know, because it happened to a friend of mine. Perhaps I have a skewered view of females from my own personal relationships and encounters with them, but most women are extremely and undeniably shallow. Also, the women I've come across are very .. for lack of a better term .. slutty. Maybe it's biased, but it's my own opinion. Also, some of the comments weren't based on jokes. I also agree with a few other posters who think that the sport is for a release.
Hope I cleared everything up for you.
Regards,
breather1.
I still disagree with you dude.
First of all, if you think the girl will cheat on you in BJJ, she's not the girl for you.
Secondly, to tell a girl she can't do something like BJJ is either low self confidence, or just phobic of a girl being touched by another guy. Trust me, I've rolled with women, and it's in no way sexual. You're both there to learn.
First of all, if you think the girl will cheat on you in BJJ, she's not the girl for you.
Secondly, to tell a girl she can't do something like BJJ is either low self confidence, or just phobic of a girl being touched by another guy. Trust me, I've rolled with women, and it's in no way sexual. You're both there to learn.
I wouldn't tell her not to do it, bma_mat. If she wanted to do it, then I wouldn't stop her. In fact, if it was something that she was extremely passionate about(like on a professional level), I'd encourage her to go for it. Even if she didn't want to do it professionally, I'd tell her to go for it. If it's her thing, then it's her thing. I'm not one to stop people, since I've had people try to stop me from attaining my own goals and I wouldn't dare attempt to stop someone from their own personal goals. Once more, I think there's a small misunderstanding between us; that's okay, though. We're not in person, so we can't connect as well. I apologize for that miscommunication error.
By my 'not sure if I could handle it' statement, I meant that it'd be a little difficult to come to terms with my love interest rolling around on the mat with other guys. As much as we hate to admit it, there are shitty individuals out there who try to cop a feel every now and then. If I knew wholeheartedly that the BJJ practitioners in the establishment are actually nice individuals and there to learn, then I'd be a lot more relaxed. There are still a lot of immature men, and women for that matter, in this world; in BJJ, they don't just disappear. Some don't understand the philosophy behind BJJ, and some never will.
I guess you could think of it on the flip side of the scenario. If a girl was told to stand by while watching her boyfriend roll intensely with someone of the opposite sex on the mat, then she'd feel the same way. Women get just as jealous and sometimes as insecure as men. There's no 100% security in a relationship, and there will always be a certain amount of jealousy. There's no escaping that.
I do agree with you, however. I don't think the girl is worth it if there's even a thought of her cheating.
Regards,
breather1.
By my 'not sure if I could handle it' statement, I meant that it'd be a little difficult to come to terms with my love interest rolling around on the mat with other guys. As much as we hate to admit it, there are shitty individuals out there who try to cop a feel every now and then. If I knew wholeheartedly that the BJJ practitioners in the establishment are actually nice individuals and there to learn, then I'd be a lot more relaxed. There are still a lot of immature men, and women for that matter, in this world; in BJJ, they don't just disappear. Some don't understand the philosophy behind BJJ, and some never will.
I guess you could think of it on the flip side of the scenario. If a girl was told to stand by while watching her boyfriend roll intensely with someone of the opposite sex on the mat, then she'd feel the same way. Women get just as jealous and sometimes as insecure as men. There's no 100% security in a relationship, and there will always be a certain amount of jealousy. There's no escaping that.
I do agree with you, however. I don't think the girl is worth it if there's even a thought of her cheating.
Regards,
breather1.
In response to Yojimbo:
True point, and my sincerest apologies. You're right, and it was/is a blanket statement. I don't think it was necessary to curse since we're both able enough to discuss this issue coherently, though. I did come off a bit ignorant in that statement and I admit to the fact that I am ignorant in the sport of BJJ since I've never done it.
Regardless, however, the cursing wasn't necessary. The aggression I detected in your post -- which probably wasn't there when you wrote it; could be an error of miscommunication on my part -- was a little rough, but I could see why you became that way.
Regards,
breather1.
True point, and my sincerest apologies. You're right, and it was/is a blanket statement. I don't think it was necessary to curse since we're both able enough to discuss this issue coherently, though. I did come off a bit ignorant in that statement and I admit to the fact that I am ignorant in the sport of BJJ since I've never done it.
Regardless, however, the cursing wasn't necessary. The aggression I detected in your post -- which probably wasn't there when you wrote it; could be an error of miscommunication on my part -- was a little rough, but I could see why you became that way.
Regards,
breather1.
Untrue. I'm still extremely proud of her for going. I'm going to let a bunch of infantile remarks from a bunch of dudes to insecure to see their girlfriends roll with guys kill my buzz? Not likely.
yeah but are you gonna let her go on days you don't go?
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Sorry, I do a bit of postwhoring in the OT. Using "shit" once in my post, I thought I was doing a good job keeping it clean in this forum, which is the only Sherdog forum I actually care about. And to be honest, there was some aggression on my part when I was writing the post.
There are 3 girls that I train with and I took your post as a sign of disrespect to my training partners and teammates. There are 2 mid to high-level blue belts, and one girl who has trained BJJ for 4 years but is too young to be a blue belt. She will probably be ready for her purple belt by the time she is old enough for blue. These girls aren't big tough athletic types either. None of them can be over 120 pounds, not even close really.
They've trained for years, getting their asses kicked by bigger stronger men. They've put in their time, paid their dues, worked very hard to get to the level they are. And they're still training week-in, week-out. They might not ever compete at a high level, I don't know if they care to. But I know they LOVE jiujitsu. You can't last in this sport if you don't love it. For some dude who has never stepped foot on the mat to say something like "The guys know in the back of their minds that the girls aren't into it as much as they are", well it really pisses me off. It's a stupid thing to say. I guaran-damn-tee you NONE of the guys at my gym would ever say that, not about our girls anyway. They have 10x the heart of any guy there, they're just as tough, and they definitely love jiujitsu.
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Ya know what my girlfriend doesnt do BJJ. But ya know what she does do? Plain good old fashion BJ. So I ask you which of us is really happier my friend.
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My girl just took the gold at her first tournament, so there 
Ah, I see. Props to both you and them, man. I didn't mean to disrespect your teammates or anything like that. I'm definitely sure they've paid their dues and bled, cried and sweat on that same mat. I've no doubt the amount of respect between each combatant in that establishment, regardless of gender. My humblest apologies once more. My statement was really foolish and extremely blanket, too, now that it's sunk in. :\ Can't even believe I said something like that, to be honest.
Take care, man, and keep rolling. I plan to start BJJ soon; I just need to get the cash for it. :[ I just hope you're not in NYC and you recognize me!
God forbid the amount of tapping I'll have to do.
Regards,
breather1.
Take care, man, and keep rolling. I plan to start BJJ soon; I just need to get the cash for it. :[ I just hope you're not in NYC and you recognize me!
God forbid the amount of tapping I'll have to do.Regards,
breather1.
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Ah, I see. Props to both you and them, man. I didn't mean to disrespect your teammates or anything like that. I'm definitely sure they've paid their dues and bled, cried and sweat on that same mat. I've no doubt the amount of respect between each combatant in that establishment, regardless of gender. My humblest apologies once more. My statement was really foolish and extremely blanket, too, now that it's sunk in. :\ Can't even believe I said something like that, to be honest.
Take care, man, and keep rolling. I plan to start BJJ soon; I just need to get the cash for it. :[ I just hope you're not in NYC and you recognize me!
Regards,
breather1.
Water under the bridge, no worries. I hope you get to start training. I can't speak for everyone here, but it's changed my life. If I can do jiujitsu for the rest of my life, I will. Good luck.
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So my girlfriend started doing BJJ on the 19th. Woo! She suffers from a lot of anxiety in the gym; she freaks out that she can't remember how to do the moves she's taught, she freaks out when rolling because she thinks her brain is freezing up, and she freaks out because she feels her friend whom she joined with is getting the moves but she isn't. I mean, as much as I try to tell her that all of these things are totally normal and that people who have been doing jiujitsu for years still forget a lot of the moves they get shown, she isn't buying any of it.
But the fact is she's going, and I think she's even enjoying it. It's only been four classes, but I'm quite excited. So I just wanted to brag.
You may now commence with all the bad taste jokes about closed guard, triangles, north-south, getting the third hook in, etc.
ok so shes doing bjj. so are thousands of other women on this planet. big whoop.
