Boss is giving me an ultimatum for tomorrow, step down from management or be terminated. It’s my moms 60th birthday I’m sick AF can’t help do anything

[FilipEmoFights]

Today's a bitter pill to swallow - my mom's 60th birthday, and I'm coming up empty-handed. No thoughtful gift, no surprise party, not even a decent card. Just a hollow feeling in my chest and the weight of disappointment.

The harsh reality is, I've been struggling to make ends meet. Paying her phone bill and mine was a stretch, but it had to be done. I wanted to get her something special, something that'd make her feel loved and appreciated, but my wallet's been drained dry.

Things took a turn for the worse this weekend when I fell ill. I lost precious hours that could've been spent working, earning money that could've gone towards a gift. My boss isn't exactly thrilled about my absence, and let's just say my management position isn't looking too secure anymore. I might be trading in my managerial hat for a more... let's say, "entry-level" role.

As I look around at the empty space where a gift should be, I'm filled with regret. I feel like I've let my mom down, and the worst part is, I don't see a way out of this rut anytime soon.

If this was 10 years ago…or heck if I was 10 years younger I swear I would just go find a fight right now, and just grapple the whole time. Now I’m too small, slow, a now former vapist in recovery, and haven’t brushed up on my jiu jitsu since NAGA 2017… If I could somehow yank my skills from 12-15 years ago in particular I’m not even kidding or trying to be boastful when I say that with social media the way it is now…I could have made it as a fighter or at least be employed somewhere in the fight world…which I have been in the past but…

It’s too late now, I’m 5’3, 145lbs was the max I’d have been able to compete at and I simply am not as tough as I once was. 17 year old me was so sharp and happy for battle whereas 32 year old me gets overwhelmed by his teenage self, the only advantage today being physical strength and the ability to be content with mediocrity and feeling like I just failed my mom
Myself
My coach
My dad
My boss
And also allowed…thousands of hours of rolling around on the floor and slinging bones with pillows strapped to them at my training partners to essentially go to waste.
Dated a girl at that gym, she cheated on me, got pregnant by the guy, and also her father was the Schools wrestling coach
So it was too awkward and I quit.
Apparently she did take a Muay Thai fight and lost…two weeks before finding out she was pregnant.
But yeah guys excuse the rant I don’t really talk about any of this with anyone ever

 

[lsa]

I dont really get you.
You claim "My boss isn't exactly thrilled about my absence, and let's just say my management position isn't looking too secure anymore. I might be trading in my managerial hat for a more... let's say, "entry-level" role."

And your thoughts go to:
"If this was 10 years ago…or heck if I was 10 years younger I swear I would just go find a fight right now, and just grapple the whole time."

You talk about having money issues and not being able to buy your mom a Bday present.
yet spend most of the post talking about your grappling or lack of it.

You are all over the place.


If I had a shitty boss and problem making ends meet, I would focus on fixing that.
Not thinking about my grappling from 10 years ago and what could /should have been.
Grappling is not going to fix your problem.

 

[Flower2dPeople]

Today's a bitter pill to swallow - my mom's 60th birthday, and I'm coming up empty-handed. No thoughtful gift, no surprise party, not even a decent card. Just a hollow feeling in my chest and the weight of disappointment.

The harsh reality is, I've been struggling to make ends meet. Paying her phone bill and mine was a stretch, but it had to be done. I wanted to get her something special, something that'd make her feel loved and appreciated, but my wallet's been drained dry.

Things took a turn for the worse this weekend when I fell ill. I lost precious hours that could've been spent working, earning money that could've gone towards a gift. My boss isn't exactly thrilled about my absence, and let's just say my management position isn't looking too secure anymore. I might be trading in my managerial hat for a more... let's say, "entry-level" role.

As I look around at the empty space where a gift should be, I'm filled with regret. I feel like I've let my mom down, and the worst part is, I don't see a way out of this rut anytime soon.

If this was 10 years ago…or heck if I was 10 years younger I swear I would just go find a fight right now, and just grapple the whole time. Now I’m too small, slow, a now former vapist in recovery, and haven’t brushed up on my jiu jitsu since NAGA 2017… If I could somehow yank my skills from 12-15 years ago in particular I’m not even kidding or trying to be boastful when I say that with social media the way it is now…I could have made it as a fighter or at least be employed somewhere in the fight world…which I have been in the past but…

It’s too late now, I’m 5’3, 145lbs was the max I’d have been able to compete at and I simply am not as tough as I once was. 17 year old me was so sharp and happy for battle whereas 32 year old me gets overwhelmed by his teenage self, the only advantage today being physical strength and the ability to be content with mediocrity and feeling like I just failed my mom
Myself
My coach
My dad
My boss
And also allowed…thousands of hours of rolling around on the floor and slinging bones with pillows strapped to them at my training partners to essentially go to waste.
Dated a girl at that gym, she cheated on me, got pregnant by the guy, and also her father was the Schools wrestling coach
So it was too awkward and I quit.
Apparently she did take a Muay Thai fight and lost…two weeks before finding out she was pregnant.
But yeah guys excuse the rant I don’t really talk about any of this with anyone ever

I'm sorry to hear that you're 5'3.

 

[FilipEmoFights]

I dont really get you.
You claim "My boss isn't exactly thrilled about my absence, and let's just say my management position isn't looking too secure anymore. I might be trading in my managerial hat for a more... let's say, "entry-level" role."

And your thoughts go to:
"If this was 10 years ago…or heck if I was 10 years younger I swear I would just go find a fight right now, and just grapple the whole time."

You talk about having money issues and not being able to buy your mom a Bday present.
yet spend most of the post talking about your grappling or lack of it.

You are all over the place.


If I had a shitty boss and problem making ends meet, I would focus on fixing that.
Not thinking about my grappling from 10 years ago and what could /should have been.
Grappling is not going to fix your problem.

Yeah dude I’m focusing on like…why one problem becomes another problem and how they are linked together

But yeah I could have added a bit more context in terms of…basically any description on actions I’ve take. Or things I’ve done.


Sucks even worse id have to fight at flyweight post 30 years old

 

[lsa]

Yeah dude I’m focusing on like…why one problem becomes another problem and how they are linked together

But yeah I could have added a bit more context in terms of…basically any description on actions I’ve take. Or things I’ve done.


Sucks even worse id have to fight at flyweight post 30 years old

see you still go back to fights and grappling.
dude get over it. Live in the now, you cant change the past.

You stopping grappling is not why you have a shit boss that are either firing you or giving you an entry level position...

 

[mozfonky]

if that post ain't a mess, it'll do til the mess gets here. Sorry fella, I can relate, coulda been a good fighter, didn't like all the games, also, my bro is in the hospital, only real family i have left. I'm 56, oh how I wish i was young as you again.

Overall, it's really just life, no one cares, no one will even slow down or allow you to slow down or give excuses, each time I've lost family i had to go through that and there was no mercy. no one really cares sadly. Now, my bro is putting me through it, shit is draining, i'm chewing his ass too, i'm sick of this shit and told him that the family won't be happy until i just end up as hopeless or self destructive as they are.

 

[ezikel315]

Fighting seems like an escape for you. Which I get. I've been there.

 

[BroScienceTalkatWork]

You definitely sound obsessed with fighting. Like I can see the gears turning and you’re trying to talk about what you know is importsnt which is money — but your brain defaults to grappling, weight and shit that happened in the past

Not saying I have a solution to your problems. Just an observation

 

[BroScienceTalkatWork]

Fighting seems like an escape for you. Which I get. I've been there.

Funny we had the same post. I can relate to both of y’all. I’m the same way about weightlifting


In my case, the obsession has to end at some point. Don’t know when that is… but it’d be really really sad if I’m 35 and still spend most of my mental energy thinking about my next bulk

You can be physically strong… you can be a great athlete and still be lonely and sad

There’s a fucking guy with about an 80 IQ who works at my Walgreens. Benches 500… at a lean 250 5’ 10… spends all day shouting about his numbers

 

[Versez]

Today's a bitter pill to swallow - my mom's 60th birthday, and I'm coming up empty-handed. No thoughtful gift, no surprise party, not even a decent card. Just a hollow feeling in my chest and the weight of disappointment.

The harsh reality is, I've been struggling to make ends meet. Paying her phone bill and mine was a stretch, but it had to be done. I wanted to get her something special, something that'd make her feel loved and appreciated, but my wallet's been drained dry.

Things took a turn for the worse this weekend when I fell ill. I lost precious hours that could've been spent working, earning money that could've gone towards a gift. My boss isn't exactly thrilled about my absence, and let's just say my management position isn't looking too secure anymore. I might be trading in my managerial hat for a more... let's say, "entry-level" role.

As I look around at the empty space where a gift should be, I'm filled with regret. I feel like I've let my mom down, and the worst part is, I don't see a way out of this rut anytime soon.

If this was 10 years ago…or heck if I was 10 years younger I swear I would just go find a fight right now, and just grapple the whole time. Now I’m too small, slow, a now former vapist in recovery, and haven’t brushed up on my jiu jitsu since NAGA 2017… If I could somehow yank my skills from 12-15 years ago in particular I’m not even kidding or trying to be boastful when I say that with social media the way it is now…I could have made it as a fighter or at least be employed somewhere in the fight world…which I have been in the past but…

It’s too late now, I’m 5’3, 145lbs was the max I’d have been able to compete at and I simply am not as tough as I once was. 17 year old me was so sharp and happy for battle whereas 32 year old me gets overwhelmed by his teenage self, the only advantage today being physical strength and the ability to be content with mediocrity and feeling like I just failed my mom
Myself
My coach
My dad
My boss
And also allowed…thousands of hours of rolling around on the floor and slinging bones with pillows strapped to them at my training partners to essentially go to waste.
Dated a girl at that gym, she cheated on me, got pregnant by the guy, and also her father was the Schools wrestling coach
So it was too awkward and I quit.
Apparently she did take a Muay Thai fight and lost…two weeks before finding out she was pregnant.
But yeah guys excuse the rant I don’t really talk about any of this with anyone ever

5’3 ? I thought that the only person on the forum of that size was @lsa ( and he’s also 500 lbs )

 

[lsa]

5’3 ? I thought that the only person on the forum of that size was @lsa ( and he’s also 500 lbs )

Dude, I told you...
I am not interested.

 

[Bacco]

Accept downgrade, keep the job and look for something else, leave job only when you got new one
Pick for your mother a symbolic gift, does'nt need cost much even just flowers, anything better than empty hands
Try stop behave like a depressed life-is-over 60yo at early 30s

Also if you dated girl as sad+5'3+no-money, give me location so i can rule your nation in few hours (i think i'll be pretty good king, so everybody wins)

 

[Flower2dPeople]

Dude, I told you...
I am not interested.

 

[Versez]

500 lbs cat ? Yep that’s him !

 

[liner]

Reminds me of the uncle in Napoleon dynamite. Go make a video of yourself grappling in a field. Then watch it over and over. It'll probably make you feel better.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, the world doesn't care. Find a new gym. Take an entry level job. Work hard at it. Meet some new women. You'll be 40 before you know it

 

[lsa]

thats one handsome fella

 

[Substance Abuse]

HR. Therapy. You can choose which order.

 

[Aurelian]

Dwelling on the past and what could have been isn't productive at all. I'd advise you to find another job right now while you hold that management position and try to get a management position somewhere else before you're demoted. Regardless, you'll need to find a new job as your current one isn't going to bring you prosperity.

Edit: Shit too late huh tommorows the day. Oh well keep that advice for next time you're about to get fired or demoted.

For your mom, I don't know man just talk to her, spend time with her, do things with her that she enjoys.

Condolences on your height. Good luck

 

[Flower2dPeople]

32 year old me gets overwhelmed by his teenage self, the only advantage today being physical strength and the ability to be content with mediocrity

I was older than you when I was still signing up for adults ( I tried masters once and felt like a bully)and smashing college kids on the mats. Just follow @Bacco 's advice. Take the hit while looking for a new job at least you'd still have a steady source of income. Go back to training. Sounds like your mom is pretty cool since you still want to give her gifts and shit. She'll understand. If my kids feel bad for not giving me presents, I'd kick their asses. Tackle your problems one at a time, don't drown in them.

 

[listrahtes]

If you are serious about a good job I wouldn't do competitive BJJ. Risk of injury is very high and you should focus on being a hard working dedicated employee because your post doesn't sound like that.