Social Are you wasting your talent ?

[moreorless87]

I've spent a LOT of time thinking about this, being wired the way I am. Even being depressed anxious and low energy most of my life, the insane DRIVE that is in there is really astonishing when I find something to focus on. Dumb as this might sound, some of the most meaningful experiences I've had were gaming online when I found bros with the same mindset. Made me think there might be something to the idea that modern life has left a lot of men behind. There's just something about getting together with the boys to discuss strategy, make plans and refine technique, and then just beat the shit out of your enemies together. That's some primal male bonding shit that I think a lot of guys are missing these days.

It's really an outlet in a number of ways having someone around that is driven in the same way that you are, whether that's towards serious life goals or just fun stuff.

To be honest that is pretty similar to my own experience, my academic life was really a failure, I got some qualifications but I was both uninterested in working to an expected rule and honestly quite bad at doing it, especially bad at communication, did well in most exams but as they became less important in higher ed i did worse. Most of the jobs I had afterwards were "brain turn off" kind but I was quite obsessional about things like gaming in the late 90's and early 00's, was very sucessful at Highlife TFC in that era to the point my group was arguebly the best in Europe and occasionally playing learning my own way was part of that.

After losing one job in 2010 I basically made the decision to try and take something interesting seriously, my interesting in photography and viewed it as something which I was well suited to doing so. Its not really very "technical" compared to say music, learning how to use proper cameras and editing software can be done with trial and error in a few weeks, the skill devolped is much more a sense of composition/taste IMHO were raw effort is really whats needed. Never bothered to try and get any kind of formal training and honestly never even read much about theory, just spent a lot of time taking/editting pics and looking at photography and films I liked.

To be honest I don't think quite obcessional enough to really become some genius and perhaps not enough interested in self promotion to become truely sucessful but I think I'm good enough that I'v progressed beyond what the average person is capable of and perhaps with a style which is somewhat unique(even if the subjects of local english landscapes and the odd mountian holiday are not).

 

[Your Account]

Not using my talent does not equal wasting it in my opinion.

Why

 

[Mike]

To be honest that is pretty similar to my own experience, my academic life was really a failure, I got some qualifications but I was both uninterested in working to an expected rule and honestly quite bad at doing it, especially bad at uncommication, did well in most exams but as they become less important in higher ed i did worse. Most of the jobs I had afterwards were "brain turn off" kind but I was quite obsessional about things like gaming in the late 90's and early 00's, was very sucessful at Highlife TFC in that era to the point my group was arguebly the best in Europe and occasionally playing learning my own way was part of that.

After losing one job in 2010 I basically made the decision to try and take something interesting seriously, my interesting in photography and viewed it as something which I was well suited to doing so. Its not really very "technical" compared to say music, learning how to use proper cameras and editing software can be done with trial and error in a few weeks, the skill devolped is much more a sense of composition/taste IMHO were raw effort is really whats needed. Never bothered to try and get any kind of formal training and honestly never even read much about theory, just spent a lot of time taking/editting picks and looking at photography and films I liked.

To be honest I don't think quite obcessional enough to really become some genius and perhaps not enough interested in self promotion to become truely sucessful but I think I'm good enough that I'v progressed beyond what the average person is capable of and perhaps with a style which is somewhat unique(even if the subjects of local english landscapes and the odd mountian holiday are not).

Lately I've been trying to think of a new purpose for this drive. One that hopefully involves social interaction too so I can get out of the house. I really want to get into miniatures wargaming but I haven't found the will to leave my house and check out the local hobby shops to try to meet people. Socializing is just so HARD irl.

I get more introverted and wary of people as I get older, and people are less welcoming when you get older too. For the time being I've found a couple games to play online. I'm terrible but enjoy researching strategies and then trying to implement them.

 

[Kardashians]

Nah. I live my hippy life. Painting and writing when I feel like it. I don’t think there’s any great potential there, the goal is to just live happily and I think that’s plenty good enough.

 

[Cole train]

Lately I've been trying to think of a new purpose for this drive. One that hopefully involves social interaction too so I can get out of the house. I really want to get into miniatures wargaming but I haven't found the will to leave my house and check out the local hobby shops to try to meet people. Socializing is just so HARD irl.

I get more introverted and wary of people as I get older, and people are less welcoming when you get older too. For the time being I've found a couple games to play online. I'm terrible but enjoy researching strategies and then trying to implement them.

Have you thought of "adventure groups" good way for adventure and socializing

Shit like hiking groups or expeditions to some exotic places like kilimanjaro in africa or some shit

Know a guy who actually found his wife on one of these, guys were hiking in mountains in marocco lol

 

[Mike]

Have you thought of "adventure groups" good way for adventure and socializing

Shit like hiking groups or expeditions to some exotic places like kilimanjaro in africa or some shit

Know a guy who actually found his wife on one of these, guys were hiking in mountains in marocco lol

Not really tbh. I don't like people or the outdoors. It's a good idea though I need to get out of the house more. Right now I just work all week then spend my days off drinking.

 

[CHUTE_BOXE78]

Yes, but I have never had the money to continue to do voice acting. People (random strangers included) tell me almost daily. It really sucks because I love doing it. I saw the new X men 97 trailer and I immediately thought I could do a better job than the wolverine VA, even though it's the original guy doing it. Just another depressing part of my shit life.

 

[Patrick Jane]

Why

Because it's usually to the benefit of others when i do, so for me it's a time investment with no profit if i maximized the use of my talents. Hence, there are no wastes. Just different trade-offs.

 

[BB in Crazy!!!!]

Lately I've been trying to think of a new purpose for this drive. One that hopefully involves social interaction too so I can get out of the house. I really want to get into miniatures wargaming but I haven't found the will to leave my house and check out the local hobby shops to try to meet people. Socializing is just so HARD irl.

I get more introverted and wary of people as I get older, and people are less welcoming when you get older too. For the time being I've found a couple games to play online. I'm terrible but enjoy researching strategies and then trying to implement them.

What kind of shape are you in? Would you be interested in competing in a relatively insane combat sport? I know guys who do rather well in it and if you are near a good team you could be competing overseas as well.

 

[Cole train]

What kind of shape are you in? Would you be interested in competing in a relatively insane combat sport? I know guys who do rather well in it and if you are near a good team you could be competing overseas as well.

Royal rumble lethwei?

 

[ThaiSexPills]

I felt like I was doing management for somebody else’s business so I left and started my own. Now I don’t feel like that. Fuck middle management.

 

[BB in Crazy!!!!]

Royal rumble lethwei?

That kinda sounds brutally awesome.


No, Buhurt. Or medieval armored combat. There are singles fights as well as team fights. Typical team fights are 5 vs 5, but many places have 10s, 16s, and 30s. Back a few years they even had an annual 150 vs 150.

 

[Mike]

What kind of shape are you in? Would you be interested in competing in a relatively insane combat sport? I know guys who do rather well in it and if you are near a good team you could be competing overseas as well.

Not great lmao. I do blue collar work and I'm middle aged and my body is starting to fall apart. I do want to start doing yoga soon.

 

[moreorless87]

Lately I've been trying to think of a new purpose for this drive. One that hopefully involves social interaction too so I can get out of the house. I really want to get into miniatures wargaming but I haven't found the will to leave my house and check out the local hobby shops to try to meet people. Socializing is just so HARD irl.

I get more introverted and wary of people as I get older, and people are less welcoming when you get older too. For the time being I've found a couple games to play online. I'm terrible but enjoy researching strategies and then trying to implement them.

Used to play Games Workshop stuff in my youth when it was a good deal cheaper but I get the sense its become more of an adult audience now?

I chose photography partly because I liked it but also because I thought it was something I could realistically make a career out of, you don't need to be some celebrated artist to earn a decent amount, selling landscape prints to locals can bring money without any kind of fame or media acknowledgement. Also again has the benefit that its really about taste more than anything, somewhere were there are not many technical roadblocks to hault your progress and kill you drive when your on a high.

I actually find it a very good match socially as well, the photography and editting itself is done mostly alone but the selling I also do myself which forces me to talk to strangers in a positive situation were they are already interested in my work. Not so much I find socialising very hard so much as draining, I need to spend a good amount of time alone.

 

[panamaican]

I'm a sherdog moderator. Pretty sure I'm doing what I was put on earth to do.

 

[HHJ]

I have my creative pursuits and i spend alot of time on them,but I could ALWAYS do more or feel i could do more. But its also a quality over quantity thing too.

I used to train alot too but im older and battered and really dont want anymore major injuries in my life

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

My family was too hard to on money for us to acquire any talent or passion for anything.

I have zero talent.

My job is fine, but life is boring.

I'd just like to throw it all away, travel and not look back. Everything is new, everything is an adventure.

 

[TankAbbott4Eva]

I think most of us are stuck in a daily life routine with the job we do and with dealing with private stuff too like kids and family,
and if we are already experienced in life enough , we understood there are things we would be enjoying doing more than what we do now but we can't take the next steps.
So are we mostly wasting our talents by being pulled in into BAU routine ,or most of the people are actually happy with what they do for a living

I think i'm in a role now where my talents are appreciated, I get paid pretty well and don't have to work that hard, can't complain really.

 

[Your Account]

I think i'm in a role now where my talents are appreciated, I get paid pretty well and don't have to work that hard, can't complain really.

1. "Stepped into my role and found out it's not just a job, it's a showcase for my talents! #FeelingValued"
2. "From overlooked to overbooked! Loving this role where my talents shine bright. #Appreciated"
3. "When you finally land in a role where your talents aren't just noticed, they're celebrated! #FeelingFulfilled"
4. "No longer feeling like I'm playing a part, but truly thriving in a role where my talents are recognized. #LivingMyBestRole"
5. "Found my groove in this role, where my talents aren't just acknowledged, they're the star of the show! #TalentSpotlight"
6. "Stepped up to the plate and found out my role is more than just a position, it's a platform for my talents! #FeelingAppreciated"

These examples play with the theme of recognition, appreciation, and talent flourishing in a new role, gpt chat says : )

 

[Mike]

Used to play Games Workshop stuff in my youth when it was a good deal cheaper but I get the sense its become more of an adult audience now?

I chose photography partly because I liked it but also because I thought it was something I could realistically make a career out of, you don't need to be some celebrated artist to earn a decent amount, selling landscape prints to locals can bring money without any kind of fame or media acknowledgement. Also again has the benefit that its really about taste more than anything, somewhere were there are not many technical roadblocks to hault your progress and kill you drive when your on a high.

I actually find it a very good match socially as well, the photography and editting itself is done mostly alone but the selling I also do myself which forces me to talk to strangers in a positive situation were they are already interested in my work. Not so much I find socialising very hard so much as draining, I need to spend a good amount of time alone.

I think the demo skews more towards 30+ year old dudes now from what I've seen doing some research watching videos. Was always interested in Warhammer when I was younger everything about it looks awesome to me. But it was just SO expensive to even get started it was never really an option. You don't really get to have hobbies when you're poor.

Last couple of years I've been playing a WH game on my PC a lot. Which has gotten me interested in the lore again. I actually make enough to start collecting now if I wanted to, although the pricing is as insane as ever.

People that know me have always told me I should either do something with writing or content creation. But it's a coin flip if going to the grocery store is gonna make me have a panic attack or not these days. So it's really hard to picture taking up any hobbies that involve putting myself out there.