Are you close with your brothers or sisters?

[chardog]

Nah, I compartmentalize the anger when I do see them in hopes that they will change their approach to my family and kids, but nothing has changed or will in the future IMO. I'm always the open one putting in some effort when we happen to get together, but it is nor reciprocated. They're just both selfish people that are probably better off in the long run not having a relationship with their niece and nephew.

time heals all and life is short, flip a coin, make your future

 

[Satur9]

you guys that have brothers and sisters are lucky. wish i had some.

Would gladly switch places if it were at all possible.

 

[RoastBeast]

you guys that have brothers and sisters are lucky. wish i had some.

You've got plenty of sherbros and even a few sherbros pretending to be shersisses.

 

[Sobek]

I have one older sister who has hated me since birth. To the point she was found trying to strangle me in my cot on one occasion apparently.
I had some health issues early in life and nearly died several times and I'm told she was jealous of the attention I got. Plus she was also quite happy being an only child up to that point. She is 4 yrs older.

She treats everyone around her poorly, me worst of all. She is very toxic and I've been looking forward to cutting her out of my life for many years.

Our mum died two months ago and now she is feuding with me about the family home and it's sale. Once we get this done over the next few months that should be it and I won't have to deal with her again.

Looking forward to it being over soon.

I too am very envious of those with good sibling relationships.

 

[Protectandserve]

My little bro and I are close. Don’t get to hangout as much as we’d like but it’s always a good time.

 

[pv3Hpv3p]

I have one older sister.

I'm in Minnesota, she's in Michigan.

My elderly mother lives with me.

Shell bring the kids out a couple times a year and I go out there about 5 times a year.

We text and chat every once in a while and seem like we have a normal relationship for siblings in their 40s.

 

[IIIIIIII]

Not really anymore. We were when we were younger.

Issue is that I'm 5 years older than one brother and 8 years older than the other. So I was out of the house when they were still smaller kids. I moved away for school and was 4+ hrs away from that point on. My brothers also did not do as well as me in life, though we group up the same. So it got to the point where the only time they would call me is when they wanted something from me. I mean, I'm glad to help my family if I can but it literally got to a point where I damn near went broke trying to help them when I was younger. Then I got a family and basically told them I couldn't do it anymore or at least not as much. I mean I still have helped them, I bought clothes for their kids, gave him money to buy Christmas presents and paid fees for school sports....ect . I have tried to help as much as I can but if I ever said no then it was a huge deal and try to make me feel like a POS.

Then our Mom died and we drifted apart more. Got to the point that unless I called we didn't talk. I just felt like at this point it was a one way street unless someone needs something. So I don't really talk to them anymore.

i'm somewhat in a similar situation. i'm six years older than my middle brother, and ten years older than my youngest. like you, i was either already out of the house, or too old to share in my moments growing up with them. of course there were many great times as well. but i really do think the large age gap really hurt our chance at bonding closer. and unfortunately, like we all know too well, you begin living your own individual life and lose the closeness of before.

 

[IDGETKTFO]

Not really. My brother got into heroin and stole from my late father, my mother, and my late step father. He never stole from me, but i also never gave him a chance, and pretty much said without saying i would'nt think twice about calling the cops if he ever did. Plus he is afraid i would beat his ass. My step sister had a falling out with my mother when my step father passed away from Pancreatic Cancer in less then 4 months. It was brutal for everyone since they didn't agree on treatment. Anyway, so yeah, after 45 years, im not close with my brother and sister.

 

[TankAbbott4Eva]

I have 3 older brothers (6 years between me and the oldest) and we're all close, it's good, they're all my best mates

 

[RichardHarrow]

My little sister was 6 years younger than me. When I was young playing with my friends, she would always insert herself into any situation no matter what and try to play with us. We'd be playing and she would come trotting towards us with her bucket of My Little Ponies. She always looked up to me. I was her hero. She'd tell me how her day at school was. At the time, I thought it was annoying, but now it breaks my heart.

As I grew older, just like everyone, we grew apart and spent less time talking. To the point where we lived in the same house, but we hardly talked to each other. She had her friends, I had mine and the age gap is huge when you're young even if it's only a few years.

I always thought in my mind that one day we'd have talk to each other again like we used to. She lived in a different state. Our parents passed away, all my relatives have died. We were the only family left. Then a few years ago she passed away from cancer. It came out of nowhere.

In the back of my head for decades, I've always thought we'd be close again like we were. I remember going crazy when she plays kermit's song over and over. When I think about her little bucket, I just start crying.

I genuinely hope you find serenity brother. Were you closer during her last years when sick ?
I’m assuming you’re older than most of us here ….

 

[RichardHarrow]

My sister was my best friend,
(4 yrs older than me)

She died in 09' though.

I wish you strength , pal.

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

My brother is four years older than I. I idolised him as a young kid, then he became my bully as a teenager, and we both did some introspection as young adults and made up.

I've felt like there has been something of an invisible barrier between us over the last couple of visits.

We generally don't see eachother on our own and we usually meet up with either Mum or Dad and his family. Either way, we haven't had a 1 on 1 in a long time, but I think we have each-others backs if we needed eachother regardless.

It's something I've been struggling a bit with as of late. With everyone in my life, I can't really celebrate them as I don't know them well enough. It's either, I've rarely spoken to them for years, or they're the miserable but well meaning work to live and suffer types who have no hobbies because they worry too much about money.

That and I've looked back at my own life and all I've seen is myself being viewed as a burden, an inconvenience and a problem. Everyone is better off if I kept my distance.

 

[TeTe]

my younger brother is 6 years younger, we do make an effort to see each others and for our kids to meet at least once a year..... we had a plan to buy homes near one another, but that is proving to be logistically more difficult as we get older. He has an extra home in california, but refuses to live here, and we agreed to move to florida together..

I'd stay in California. Florida will be wiped off the map at the rate it's going. People will have to pay $5k a year in homeowners insurance too. That's if they even cover people.

 

[boingyman]

I’m not close to my sister or brother. We all live in different states. We rarely if ever call each other to just talk. If we do it’s usually revolving around something specific like investing, or strategizing credit card points, etc. Even so typically it would happen in a text message or on Whatsapp. At the same time we all get a long and once in a while we will visit each other or meet somewhere with other family or attend a special event. For example if my parents go up to Vegas, my brother and his wife will go up at the same time. If I have time I will go too. I see my sister at least once a year when I visit home in Hawaii. My brother and his wife and trying to have a baby. If they do we will probably go visit at some point.


The only thing that is somewhat annoying is that my younger sister still lives at one of my parents house for free for the past 10 years. My parents could easily rent it out for over $4000/month. I think my parents still pay for utilities too. Her husband is not that motivated in life. He took forever just to get his bachelors in electrical engineering/computer science. He use to help my dad out in construction, but even back then he wasn’t that reliable. From what I heard he isn’t working much as of late. Not sure what happened with his last job.. They have a side gig building websites for small companies, but I don’t think it’s that much money. My sister is a medical coder, but I don't think her salary is that great. Probably make <$100k/year. I just hate the fact that they can fall back on my parents and don’t have much financial responsibility. They are always out and about, eating out, buying random stuff and living that “Hawaii” life. My sister even considered putting her daughter into a private school that cost nearly $40k/year. On top of that my sister pretty much took over my mom’s old car because she never drives anymore. I think it finally broke down and now they drive a Tesla. My parents enable them too much whereas my brother is a wealthy enough that he could retire in his mid 40s. It just doesn’t sit with me well, but at the same time it doesn’t really effect me at all and my parents are financially stable. I know my sister wants her own house one day, but I don’t really see the drive to get there and Oahu is expensive AF. If not they would be a better with money and her husband would step up his game. /end rant lol….

 

[pugilistico]

No not at all. We barely talk. We were very close as kids but grew apart when I basically became a recluse as a severely depressed teen and then went to college in a different state, went to the army, came back and moved out, and then I've been traveling to different countries for the past few years. Meanwhile she stayed home, got a job, got married, and moved an hour away with her husband. Now we're just so different with nothing in common. I feel like I'm someone from a different culture.

 

[ThaiSexPills]

No siblings. It used to bother me a lot growing up but I’m over it now. I have a really good friend group and family. I was really close with my parents and now that my father is gone, I’m really close with my uncle. I always was but it’s more now, especially since he works with me.

I also wasn’t super close with my cousin as he is a pretty quiet, introverted and private guy but he asked me to be the best man at his wedding. I was surprised at first but looking back, it was an honour. I feel bad now that I made a thread out of shock of the whole thing. I always looked up to him but he doesn’t say much and isn’t super social so I never really knew where i stood until that. He has buddies of his own he could have asked so it meant a lot. Maybe it was just for my mic skills. He lived almost 40 years of his life in the closet and I’m really glad to see him be himself.

So basically, since my dad passed and my cousin came out, I’ve gained a male father figure and two good friends. My cousin is much more social than he was previously and although he’s still quiet, I’m glad to see him happy. His husband is a really nice guy too and has even met a few of my buddies now. I’m getting married next summer too and that’s going well.

Life is good man.

 

[Dinkin_Flicka]

My sister was about a year and half older and we were really close growing up, but grew apart a little after school when we started our own families.

We lived close and still got together for family dinners on the regular, but we would easily go months without talking. I was still close enough to make all of her kids birthdays. she passed away when when she was 30 and her kids were 6 & 9. Me and my wife really stepped up and started actively trying to have family gatherings more regularly. It's been great seeing the family a lot more over the years and being a big part of my nephews lives, I just hate that it took the loss to get there.

 

[WossamottaU]

My little sister was 6 years younger than me. When I was young playing with my friends, she would always insert herself into any situation no matter what and try to play with us. We'd be playing and she would come trotting towards us with her bucket of My Little Ponies. She always looked up to me. I was her hero. She'd tell me how her day at school was. At the time, I thought it was annoying, but now it breaks my heart.

As I grew older, just like everyone, we grew apart and spent less time talking. To the point where we lived in the same house, but we hardly talked to each other. She had her friends, I had mine and the age gap is huge when you're young even if it's only a few years.

I always thought in my mind that one day we'd have talk to each other again like we used to. She lived in a different state. Our parents passed away, all my relatives have died. We were the only family left. Then a few years ago she passed away from cancer. It came out of nowhere.

In the back of my head for decades, I've always thought we'd be close again like we were. I remember going crazy when she plays kermit's song over and over. When I think about her little bucket, I just start crying.

Man, I remember you posting after you lost her. I bawled my eyes out. My sister used to sing that Kermit song too, and just the thought...
Much love to you, my man. Keep those memories strong.



I have 3 younger sisters and even though we don't live near each other, I'm fortunate to be quite close with all of them, particularly the oldest who's just a year younger than me.

 

[HenryFlower]

yeah. was the best man at my little brother’s wedding; see both siblings for most holidays & pretty much always go out for their bdays even though i’ve been anti-bday most of my adult life (honestly think they’re lukewarm on them as well, but our mother loves ‘em, bless ‘er ‘eart). i’d say they’re probably closer to each other than i am to either of them, though.

 

[Jack Reacheround]

I’m not really close with any of them. I’m somewhat close with my brothers.
I was pretty close with my oldest sister (as close as our family gets which isn’t really that close). But she has kind of changed in recent years and become really stuffy - the typical suburban mom type.