Are there any upsides to being a loner?

You don't have to go on Sherdog anymore.

That is, if you're not cosplaying as a loner and really are one.

Then you're on 4 or 8chan.
 
There are many upsides. As a loner I write from experience.
1) You are free. When you travel you don't have to consult with anybody about what to do. You can do whatever you like, whenever you like, however you like. If you see life as a journey, although it's a flawed metaphor, the traveling philosophy can still be applied somewhat.
2) You have minimal contact with people, and all their bullshit. Of course they have their good sides too, but at least you're free of the bad stuff, which is saying something.
3) If you actually like Saturday nights alone watching the fights, drinking your favourite booze and eating your favourite food, undisturbed, no responsibilities other than to relax and enjoy the fights, then there's nothing wrong with you.
4) You don't have to concern yourself about offending anyone, pleasing anyone, anyone's approval, anyone's judgment....you can just be yourself. And in the big picture, when you're "yourself" you tend to follow along the path that is meant for you, as opposed to veering off in directions that others think you should go, or that you think you should go to please others.
5) You learn how to be self-sufficient emotionally and practically. That can come in handy later in life especially.
6) You can become a teacher to those who are lonely of how to be a loner without feeling lonely all the time.
7) You can focus on reaching a high level of spirituality through meditation and reflection, if that sounds appealing to you. All of the great monks have been loners.
8) You have more creative space.
9) The "outside world" is fucked up in many ways. As a loner you're less involved in it, as it's people who make the fucked-up world go 'round. Maybe this is the same as 2), so maybe I'm done here....oh yeah, one more....
10) I like bagels. (Just checking if anyone got this far.)
 
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sissypunch said:
More time for working towards lifting goals and training UFC.
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This.

You focus on the goals important to you.

Also, you can be mostly a loner and keep a few important close people (friends, relatives, lovers).

Basically, being a 95% loner who knows what he wants and goes after it, while still maintaining a few good relationships can be a very rewarding life.
 
You don't have to spend your time doing things to appease other people. I am quite lucky that I'm married but still get to do my own thing, but loads of people spend their precious spare time doing their partner's hobbies.
 
Kaybee said:
You generally only have to deal with your own issues instead of other people's as well?
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This.

I'm a huge loner and giant introvert. And it's SO freeing.

- Only have to deal with my own issues
- Have more time for my own goals
- Am free to be myself and not have to conform to others
- When I do socialize, it's on my OWN terms

You can be a loner 90% of the time and still have a better social life than the vast majority of people. What I've seen work and what I will inevitably do:

- Go out two nights a week max but make them count. Go CRAZY lol. Rest of the time is for yourself.
- Strike up conversations as you go through life *naturally*. My best friend does this all the time with girls. He'll naturaly strike up a conversation, and at the end will put his number in the girl's phone. And then it's on HER to text him if she wants. This works so well.

There you go. The blueprint to be an introvert and yet be more *effectively* social than 90% of extroverts.

Now give me $1000 for my services.
 
A.S. Deep said:
This.

I'm a huge loner and giant introvert. And it's SO freeing.

- Only have to deal with my own issues
- Have more time for my own goals
- Am free to be myself and not have to conform to others
- When I do socialize, it's on my OWN terms

You can be a loner 90% of the time and still have a better social life than the vast majority of people. What I've seen work and what I will inevitably do:

- Go out two nights a week max but make them count. Go CRAZY lol. Rest of the time is for yourself.
- Strike up conversations as you go through life *naturally*. My best friend does this all the time with girls. He'll naturaly strike up a conversation, and at the end will put his number in the girl's phone. And then it's on HER to text him if she wants. This works so well.

There you go. The blueprint to be an introvert and yet be more *effectively* social than 90% of extroverts.

Now give me $1000 for my services.
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Yeah, people always seem to equate being an introvert with some guy with social anxiety that never leaves their home, which is obviously not true.

I don't have issues going out and doing things with others; in fact I love going out and grabbing some brews or lunch with frands. But at the end of the day I wanna be able to count on having a good amount of me-time to unwind, as my home is indeed my sanctuary!
 
Kaybee said:
Yeah, people always seem to equate being an introvert with some guy with social anxiety that never leaves their home, which is obviously not true.

I don't have issues going out and doing things with others; in fact I love going out and grabbing some brews or lunch with frands. But at the end of the day I wanna be able to count on having a good amount of me-time to unwind, as my home is indeed my sanctuary!
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Yep. Introversion is all about energy preservation.

Also, most people in general are insecure socially and quick to conform to fit in. Just being in good shape and having the bare minimim of self-confidence puts you at like 90th percentile socially now in the US lol, even if you're super introverted.

I've done periods where I only go out once a month. Just make those once a month nights EPIC haha.
 
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