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No, the choices are endless. But in this case, they boil down to:
follow your dreams
or
follow the instructions of others.
Even if he doesn't reach his current goal, who knows what experiences he will have and what doors will open on his journey?
By strongly suggesting he should not consider investing his energy in his current passion, you are potentially denying him the ability to grow, to develop, and to discover his true path.
Did you do what was expected of you rather than what you felt you wanted? Were you told where to go, what to study, what job you should take?
If so, I feel sorry for you. Please shut the fuck up.
If not, let the kid enjoy himself. And shut the fuck up.
I went to college and studied something interesting, in my case psychology. It turns out there were no jobs for people who studied what I found interesting, at least not in the field. At the same time I developed a crippling case of Crohn's disease which along with really bad back injuries destroyed my dream of pursuing a spot on the US Olympic Judo team, not to mention meant that living in the US I essentially had to have a job which offered health insurance (since as you're probably aware in the states health insurance is still largely tied to your job). Luckily I was able to get into business school, which as it turned out I also found interesting. I graduated and got a good job in finance which I loved, but which I lost during the financial crisis in 2008 when my company went under. So I got a job with a shitty little insurance company because by then I had a wife (who thankfully also had a good job, because otherwise I don't know how I would have survived 8 months of unemployment since I wouldn't have had health insurance and would not have been able to afford my meds) and I needed to earn money for, you know, food and housing. I decided that living like that was BS so I went back to school, got my MBA, and I now I have a job I love managing a team of data scientists for a large telecommunications firm. My wife is pregnant which we're ecstatic about, but it means that now I have some very real responsibilities. Which is fine, because this is the life I want.
So my point is not about doing what someone tells you vs following your heart, as that's a very juvenile way to interpret what I said. The point is to make yourself robust to all the terrible shit life can and very possibly will throw at you, and also being aware that while what you want out of life at 19 is often very different than what you want at 30, choices you make when you're 19 can have very real impacts on what your options are for the rest of your life.
So instead of judging me for advising this kid to think carefully about what he's going to commit to and how that might affect the rest of his life when his desires may very well move beyond being really good at BJJ, just shut the fuck up.
BTW, love your videos. I don't take this disagreement personally.