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It depends on the circumstances. While I do not advocate excessive bullying, I also do not advocate people committing suicide for relatively miniscule reasons.
I've gone through all of the "all-male" institutions (sports teams, military, etc.) where bullying can be more or less prevalent. Yet I never encountered anything outside of the usual light harassment/testing of one's manhood. There's a place for that, at the end of the day, because you're trying to forge a team that can survive together even under difficult/stressful circumstances. A person who can't handle being poked fun at, is unlikely to be able to handle a grenade being thrown at him, or being 2 goals down in a tournament final.
The people who can't handle stress or pressure, should do what they can, to avoid putting themselves in such situations. At the end of the day, we can't build the society to fully accommodate its weakest elements. Sometimes, such people ought to attempt to be more understanding of why they are actually being criticized, and strive to critically evaluate why other people constantly get mad at them.
It's a complex issue, and there are certainly times where weakness of an individual is not so much the problem, but rather the cruelty of the collective. Some people just have their soul and self-esteem crushed from the beginning to the end, and never get to develop any kind of a stronger, healthier identity. That is wrong, in every sense, and I'm certainly not an apologist for that.
I have no real problem with occasional harassment if the harassment is intended to empower the harassed person, and change him for the better. Sometimes you need to call people out for what they are, fat, lazy, indecisive, apathetic, and so forth. It cannot always be done kindly. I've certainly been called out for perceived weakness many times, and I've always used that as a fuel to change for the better, instead of collapsing under the weight of the insult (which in reality needs to be looked at as a criticism).
I've gone through all of the "all-male" institutions (sports teams, military, etc.) where bullying can be more or less prevalent. Yet I never encountered anything outside of the usual light harassment/testing of one's manhood. There's a place for that, at the end of the day, because you're trying to forge a team that can survive together even under difficult/stressful circumstances. A person who can't handle being poked fun at, is unlikely to be able to handle a grenade being thrown at him, or being 2 goals down in a tournament final.
The people who can't handle stress or pressure, should do what they can, to avoid putting themselves in such situations. At the end of the day, we can't build the society to fully accommodate its weakest elements. Sometimes, such people ought to attempt to be more understanding of why they are actually being criticized, and strive to critically evaluate why other people constantly get mad at them.
It's a complex issue, and there are certainly times where weakness of an individual is not so much the problem, but rather the cruelty of the collective. Some people just have their soul and self-esteem crushed from the beginning to the end, and never get to develop any kind of a stronger, healthier identity. That is wrong, in every sense, and I'm certainly not an apologist for that.
I have no real problem with occasional harassment if the harassment is intended to empower the harassed person, and change him for the better. Sometimes you need to call people out for what they are, fat, lazy, indecisive, apathetic, and so forth. It cannot always be done kindly. I've certainly been called out for perceived weakness many times, and I've always used that as a fuel to change for the better, instead of collapsing under the weight of the insult (which in reality needs to be looked at as a criticism).