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Well - when I say "best friend" - I know him for about a year, just over.
We started hanging at the gym, then outside the gym.
He's a talking machine - where I'm not a phenomenal conversationalist myself - he makes up for that - and he's just totally chill and laid back.
So, we were hanging for months, he'd stop by my house in town, we'd get some munchies, head out to the nightclub hitting on chicks together etc - crash the night.
Rinse repeat.
Just a cool guy - we'd vibed so well of each other, a bunch of us started hanging together - same deal, heading out, hitting on chicks.
One night we went out and, it was like, high school girls grad party.
I tongue punched so many of them 18 year old chicks - groped on them etc - great time, overall.
Was the same deal - 4 or 5 of us went out.
In terms of quality and quantity of girls picked up, I left the rest of the guys in the dust but - I got the feeling everyone had an ace night.
About a month later - same deal.
Except, we were all doing the usual at my place before, cooking up some munchies, having a few drinks - and this dude - we'll call him, Mister X - who is the best friend to whom I'm referring - he suddenly comes out with this comment out of left field.
Like - he's normally a fun dude, having a laugh and banter, ribbing each other a little - sure.
But this - kind of stopped me in my tracks, I was like, "woah".
Then - few minutes later, same thing.
Then again, and again - this pretty fucking malicious comments.
Now I know the dude for about 6 months, and he's never behaved like this so - I'm a bit stunned and don't now how to respond.
As he persists - I realise he's making me look like a total jerk off/soft touch, in front of my housemates - whom we're also chilling with.
After a while, I say I gotta hit the can.
I go, wash, get changed for going out etc.
Whilst in the can, it occurs to me - if this dude is saying this nasty shit - maybe he thinks it's banter.
Just say something back to him.
Duh.... right?
So - we're back in the kitchen, chilling, talking, laughing.
On queue - another nasty comment comes along.
I respond, with something - quite benign.
"Oh - that's probably cause you take it up the ass, right?"
The dude looks like someones just tossed a bucket of ice water on him.
He clearly wasn't expecting a retort - generally I don't rib people cause, my sense of humor can be a little course and it doesn't resonate with some people.
But I was super self aware making this comment - exactly the intention - to retort, but not aggressively.
The moment passed - but I get this funny vibe off the dude - like he's looking at me in a different light, and he doesn't seem to like what he's seeing.
We're walking into town (I live close by) later - and he makes another comment.
I respond by saying, "haha - you I'm gonna start hitting you back with this shit, right?".
That's what I said,
"It was a fucking joke!!"
He gives it - the first time he's ever bee remotely confrontational.
We get in the nightclub.
It's clear the dude is ignoring me; not only that but, it's like he's trying to exclude me from the group.
Whatever - doesn't bother me.
I'm hitting on chicks left and right, no bother.
I'm tall, strong, pretty good looking - I can play this game.
I'm having a good night.
He continues to try and blank me.
The night goes on - I score multiple women.
He looks like he's having a horrible night, and about 2am, leaves without saying a word.
Alright that night passes.
About a week later, him and another dude drop around to my house.
Same thing - talking shit - about girls we picked up, or tried to pick up, or are trying to pick up.
He shows me this pic on his phone of a girl he likes,
"Pfff - you might be punching about your weight there pal" - I give it.
This gets a good round of laughter.
"Fuck you you sorry cunt" - deadly serious.
I ignore it.
The dude seems like - for all his claims about loving "banter" and "ribbing" - he takes it like a fucking virgin.
Fast forward - this scene repeats itself a couple more times.
Then he stops calling around.
Occasional efforts in terms of a text message saying "what's up".
Beyond that - it's clear the guy is trying to dissipate the friendship - put distance between us cause, over the previous space of time, we had gotten pretty tight.
And just now I shot him a message asking how he was doing.
Basically received a very short curt reply - which insinuated - "go fuck yourself".
Yet he might hit me up a month from now asking if I want to go to the gym.
Is it an ego thing?
He's trying to maintain contact with me - just cause he's so butt hurt and wants to try and get one back?
A dominance thing?
When we hung, he did show occasional signs of a bad-ass wannaba like, "do you know who I am!!??"
It recognized it as pathetic but, his personality was so chatty and endearing that, I couldn't help but just ignore it.
How does that sound to you guys - apart from a long ass read??
We started hanging at the gym, then outside the gym.
He's a talking machine - where I'm not a phenomenal conversationalist myself - he makes up for that - and he's just totally chill and laid back.
So, we were hanging for months, he'd stop by my house in town, we'd get some munchies, head out to the nightclub hitting on chicks together etc - crash the night.
Rinse repeat.
Just a cool guy - we'd vibed so well of each other, a bunch of us started hanging together - same deal, heading out, hitting on chicks.
One night we went out and, it was like, high school girls grad party.
I tongue punched so many of them 18 year old chicks - groped on them etc - great time, overall.
Was the same deal - 4 or 5 of us went out.
In terms of quality and quantity of girls picked up, I left the rest of the guys in the dust but - I got the feeling everyone had an ace night.
About a month later - same deal.
Except, we were all doing the usual at my place before, cooking up some munchies, having a few drinks - and this dude - we'll call him, Mister X - who is the best friend to whom I'm referring - he suddenly comes out with this comment out of left field.
Like - he's normally a fun dude, having a laugh and banter, ribbing each other a little - sure.
But this - kind of stopped me in my tracks, I was like, "woah".
Then - few minutes later, same thing.
Then again, and again - this pretty fucking malicious comments.
Now I know the dude for about 6 months, and he's never behaved like this so - I'm a bit stunned and don't now how to respond.
As he persists - I realise he's making me look like a total jerk off/soft touch, in front of my housemates - whom we're also chilling with.
After a while, I say I gotta hit the can.
I go, wash, get changed for going out etc.
Whilst in the can, it occurs to me - if this dude is saying this nasty shit - maybe he thinks it's banter.
Just say something back to him.
Duh.... right?
So - we're back in the kitchen, chilling, talking, laughing.
On queue - another nasty comment comes along.
I respond, with something - quite benign.
"Oh - that's probably cause you take it up the ass, right?"
The dude looks like someones just tossed a bucket of ice water on him.
He clearly wasn't expecting a retort - generally I don't rib people cause, my sense of humor can be a little course and it doesn't resonate with some people.
But I was super self aware making this comment - exactly the intention - to retort, but not aggressively.
The moment passed - but I get this funny vibe off the dude - like he's looking at me in a different light, and he doesn't seem to like what he's seeing.
We're walking into town (I live close by) later - and he makes another comment.
I respond by saying, "haha - you I'm gonna start hitting you back with this shit, right?".
That's what I said,
"It was a fucking joke!!"
He gives it - the first time he's ever bee remotely confrontational.
We get in the nightclub.
It's clear the dude is ignoring me; not only that but, it's like he's trying to exclude me from the group.
Whatever - doesn't bother me.
I'm hitting on chicks left and right, no bother.
I'm tall, strong, pretty good looking - I can play this game.
I'm having a good night.
He continues to try and blank me.
The night goes on - I score multiple women.
He looks like he's having a horrible night, and about 2am, leaves without saying a word.
Alright that night passes.
About a week later, him and another dude drop around to my house.
Same thing - talking shit - about girls we picked up, or tried to pick up, or are trying to pick up.
He shows me this pic on his phone of a girl he likes,
"Pfff - you might be punching about your weight there pal" - I give it.
This gets a good round of laughter.
"Fuck you you sorry cunt" - deadly serious.
I ignore it.
The dude seems like - for all his claims about loving "banter" and "ribbing" - he takes it like a fucking virgin.
Fast forward - this scene repeats itself a couple more times.
Then he stops calling around.
Occasional efforts in terms of a text message saying "what's up".
Beyond that - it's clear the guy is trying to dissipate the friendship - put distance between us cause, over the previous space of time, we had gotten pretty tight.
And just now I shot him a message asking how he was doing.
Basically received a very short curt reply - which insinuated - "go fuck yourself".
Yet he might hit me up a month from now asking if I want to go to the gym.
Is it an ego thing?
He's trying to maintain contact with me - just cause he's so butt hurt and wants to try and get one back?
A dominance thing?
When we hung, he did show occasional signs of a bad-ass wannaba like, "do you know who I am!!??"
It recognized it as pathetic but, his personality was so chatty and endearing that, I couldn't help but just ignore it.
How does that sound to you guys - apart from a long ass read??
