Yes or no: A modern relationship only works if the women wants guy more than guy wants girl?

[Amerikuracana]

I'm starting to think this is it. Women will shit on guys more than the reverse in this situation. Men might have longing for somebody else, secretly, and wish to be with that person, but they seem to appreciate the love and desire more from a women who isn't maybe "the one."


Women don't appreciate love from somebody they don't desire that much. They often despise it.

I have been lucky; throughout hs I liked to party and didn't care too much. My first (real) relationship I was quite a bit younger, and therefore her desire for me was more than mine for her. I eventually loved her fully, but she was 100%fully in love, and lust, with me. Didn't have to worry about cheating, because she knew she wanted me more.. The chase was always her chasing me. We have 4 beautiful kids.

Now, I still have love for the alcoholic loser that I got with when I separated from old girl. Old girl is chemically imbalanced, and the relationship was bad for the kids, btw, despite the love. So anyways, I have this pretty girl around my own age who I broke up with when she fell off the wagon and started her alcoholism again. She got with an old guy friend and they both almost died from alcoholism. She is in rehab now, and we have been talking. It's comically pathetic, but I still love her a little. I have this warning going off telling me that it could never work now, because she knows I cared about her after we broke up, and she didn't give a shit about me.. Even though she says she did.

So I have this chubby Syrian girl pregnant. She chose to have my child. She loves me more than I love her, and I'm quite frankly to good for her. People will judge me if I'm with her. Old friends will snicker. She is 9 years younger, and takes good pictures, but she's just a short chubby nerd.. She has my son in her tummy due in 2 months.

Old girl is nuts now, but I still love her as well, and she cries about getting back together.

So two questions: What the hell should I do, and is it better to chose the one that loves you, more than you love them, for a long term relationship?

 

[Horse Style]

A guy who is bad with women asking a forum filled with guys who are also bad with women, with many being jaded by their experiences with women.



It's like blind leading the blind.

 

[Uptown Swinger]

Pics of all women involved or GTFO!

 

[Turtlejuice]

Both seem like poor life choices. Stick with the chubby. The grass probably isn't greener on the other side.

 

[Amerikuracana]

A guy who is bad with women asking a forum filled with guys who are also bad with women, with many being jaded by their experiences with women.



It's like blind leading the blind.

Hi Ray? I'm Stevie.. hold my hand and and get me close to that cliff without falling off, please.

 

[Amerikuracana]

I'll see about posting some pictures.

 

[neverwas]

A guy who is bad with women asking a forum filled with guys who are also bad with women, with many being jaded by their experiences with women.



It's like blind leading the blind.

no its not,we just hate them as much as they hate us.

 

[21 Savage]

So I have this chubby Syrian girl pregnant. She chose to have my child. She loves me more than I love her, and I'm quite frankly to good for her.

why this make me sad bro

 

[HunterSdVa29]

that's the wrong question IMO

the question, to me, should be 'which person has a bigger need to fill a void, have a sense of belonging or worth, or is made a more complete person by being in a relationship with all the intimacy that involves?'

I don't think it's 'guys like the women less' I mean yes that's true, but it's really Guys aren't looking for the same things out of the experience.

 

[GODZILLA213]

Go with the drunk. At least she understands that she isn't right. Most women go their whole lives denying that.

 

[God_Emperor_Of_Mankind]

There's something depressing about the op post.

 

[Pugilistic]

A guy who is bad with women asking a forum filled with guys who are also bad with women, with many being jaded by their experiences with women.



It's like blind leading the blind.

As for the foremost expert on sherdog on being bad with women, I should be the one leading this discussion IMO.

 

[blaseblah]

The best relationship works when both want each other but neither are clingy or possessive. Open communication is the most important thing.

You shouldn't need anyone to live a healthy satisfying life. You should have an amazing life already and just want to share it with someone.

 

[HARRISON_3]

BBW or heavy drinker?

As someone who likes thick women and enjoys a cocktail or two, that's a tough one.

I say follow your wang.

 

[Midnighter]

A guy who is bad with women asking a forum filled with guys who are also bad with women, with many being jaded by their experiences with women.



It's like blind leading the blind.

Say that to my face.

I'm so lonely, please hold me.

 

[SRN]

I know I'm going to sound like Judge Judy but you should stop making children. Find a hobby, buy a TV whatever man... 5 kids? Really? You already have too much to handle with them so I would stop worrying about ladies for a while.

 

[Ogata]

If she wants you for your personality and character yes. If its for your cash money then no. It depends I guess.

 

[Deleted member 220895]

A guy who is bad with women asking a forum filled with guys who are also bad with women, with many being jaded by their experiences with women.



It's like blind leading the blind.

I hope to god no one takes my advice seriously and they use sherdog to vent.

 

[Drain Bamage]

I'm starting to think this is it. Women will shit on guys more than the reverse in this situation. Men might have longing for somebody else, secretly, and wish to be with that person, but they seem to appreciate the love and desire more.

Women don't appreciate love from somebody they don't desire that much. They often despise it.

I have been lucky; throughout hs I liked to party and didn't care too much. My first relationship I was quite a bit younger, and therefore her desire for me was more than mine for her. I eventually loved her fully, but she was fully in love with me. Didn't have to worry about cheating, because she knew she wanted me more.. The chase was always her chasing me. We have 4 beautiful kids.

Now, I still have love for the alcoholic loser that I got with when I separated from old girl. Old girl is chemically imbalanced, and the relationship was bad for the kids, btw, despite the love. So anyways, I have this pretty girl around my own age who I broke up with when she fell off the wagon and started her alcoholism again. She got with an old guy friend and they both almost died from alcoholism. She is in rehab now, and we have been talking. It's comically pathetic, but I still love her a little. I have this warning going off telling me that it could never work now, because she knows I cared about her after we broke up, and she didn't give a shit about me.. Even though she says she did.

So I have this chubby Syrian girl pregnant. She chose to have my child. She loves me more than I love her, and I'm quite frankly to good for her. People will judge me if I'm with her. Old friends will snicker. She is 9 years younger, and takes good pictures, but she's just a short chubby nerd.. She has my son in her tummy due in 2 months.

Old girl is nuts now, but I still love her as well, and she cries about getting back together.

So two questions: What the hell should I do, and is it better to chose the one that loves you, more than you love them, for a long term relationship?

Lol

 

[snakedafunky]

I wouldn't say that is the only way they can work. But in general, all relations work better for you if you are the one thats willing to walk sooner.
Doesn't mean you have to be an asshole about it. But it is just better for you, work, love or friends its always better to not care as much as the other party.