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essie said:
rank these from best to worst:

nightmares
sex dreams
dreams where you are still in school
not remembering dreams
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Sometimes I feel rather grateful I didn't remember my dreams and sometimes not. There have been days where I have woken up and been certain I must have dreamt something awful but can't remember but usually my dreams are pretty tame and I like when I remember them. The worst dreams I have (that I can recall the next morning, of course) are the ones where I dream I smoke cigarettes. The next morning, knowing full well it was just a dream, the very real guilt I feel lingers for hours sometimes.
 
The master, by residing in the Tao, sets an example for all beings. Because he doesn't display himself people can see his light. Because he has nothing to prove people can trust his words. Because he doesn't know who he is people recognize themselves in him. Because he has no goal in mind everything he does succeeds.
-- Lao Tzu​
 
Andy Capp said:
Sometimes I feel rather grateful I didn't remember my dreams and sometimes not. There have been days where I have woken up and been certain I must have dreamt something awful but can't remember but usually my dreams are pretty tame and I like when I remember them. The worst dreams I have (that I can recall the next morning, of course) are the ones where I dream I smoke cigarettes. The next morning, knowing full well it was just a dream, the very real guilt I feel lingers for hours sometimes.
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I don't mind nightmares because the relief when you wake up is one of the few times I take a moment to appreciate the foundation in their life.
 
Andy Capp said:
Sometimes I feel rather grateful I didn't remember my dreams and sometimes not. There have been days where I have woken up and been certain I must have dreamt something awful but can't remember but usually my dreams are pretty tame and I like when I remember them. The worst dreams I have (that I can recall the next morning, of course) are the ones where I dream I smoke cigarettes. The next morning, knowing full well it was just a dream, the very real guilt I feel lingers for hours sometimes.
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According to hunter gatherer cultures, dreams are a connection to the spirit world and a valuable source of wisdom.
 
Andy Capp said:
The master, by residing in the Tao, sets an example for all beings. Because he doesn't display himself people can see his light. Because he has nothing to prove people can trust his words. Because he doesn't know who he is people recognize themselves in him. Because he has no goal in mind everything he does succeeds.
-- Lao Tzu​
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AgonyandIrony said:
While nicotine is highly addictive, I feel that one must approach change first through the toxicity in ones life that drives one to said vices.

I've said it before, a drag off a cigarette is a lovely thing. That slow exhale as the smoke leaves your lungs and dances with the night air. It's quite lovely.

I find it often counter productive to attack the substance someone uses instead of addressing the necessity of said substance. Everyone uses crutches as we walk the uneven streets of existence, from drugs and liquor, to pussy and fast food, to cars and trucks, to a family, to model trains in basements or strippers who listen to you talk about bass fishing with earnest. We find something, we all do, that acts as an umbrella to the brutal rain of reality.

So I guess what I found so intriguing about your post, and quite thankful that you posted it, was about making a change. With tobacco as the current example, does making the change from the vice lead to a betterment of oneself, or does a betterment of oneself negate the necessity of said vice?
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Lol no bully but as eloquently stated as it is, this is a junkie post.

If everyone is using a crutch to handle reality then there's no adjustment a single person can make to overcome that, which renders any advice on substance use meaningless.

Best test of this theory is to switch from tobacco to model trains and see if anyone gives a shit then. Betting not even @Anung Un Rama will come down on you for that addiction.

It's the substance.
 
essie said:
rank these from best to worst:

nightmares
sex dreams
dreams where you are still in school
not remembering dreams
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dreams where you’re still in school
Nightmares
Sex dreams
Not remembering

not remembering is the worts.
 
essie said:
I don't mind nightmares because the relief when you wake up is one of the few times I take a moment to appreciate the foundation in their life.
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In terms of the ones I remember--recalling that I'm certain I have had some that I could not recall upon waking--I have only ever had one real honest to goodness nightmare. It was like something out of a horror movie; I hopped in the sack with a girl who turned into a hideous monster that tried to kill me.

But usually, I have recurring dreams where I am lost or I've lost something--I'm sure a shrink could have a field day with that--and that is worry inducing in the moment, but no lasting effect when I wake, unlike the smoking dreams. I'd expect a divorce to follow in short order if I ever took up smoking again so those dreams have a deeply disturbing effect on me.

Apropos of this, one thing I find odd about myself is when I was younger I used to have a lot of anxiety about going to sleep. That would make sense if I were prone to night terrors, but I don't think that was the cause in my case, although I know my brain has repressed a lot of stuff that happened to me as a kid so it's possible I was blocking out knowledge of them when conscious. I wish I could get into some hypnotherapy to get at all the stuff I've blocked out. I used to find it strange how little I remember of my childhood compared to most people but I have come to learn that is common in people that suffer a lot of abuse. As far as I know, I remember every self-inflicted injury, but none that explain my bent nose so I'd love to know how that happened, for example.

But I digress. What makes you ask about dreams today?
 
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