Which, in all honesty, is why I f*cking hate it so much. I've had to experience it, and all it does is poison a good thing.
I don't have time to post in 99% of threads here. Sorry, but med school/training/dogs/anything else that's real > Sherdog. I check in from time to time to see if I can be useful (see: posts about people I know or rules), check some cool techniques or tournament vids, and go on my merry way. Most people are happier the less I post anyway. I just really, really hate BJJ drama now.
There will always be a certain level of drama in BJJ because BJJ is not fundamentally about techniques, matches, tournaments, etc. At its core, it is about ideas and philosophies. There are several competing ones in a variety of areas, and naturally these cause some amount of friction and conflict.
The topic here is an example of that. The two have never met, but there is an ideological difference between them. Ryan has been publicly opposing certain fundamental philosophies of the 10th Planet style for a while now.
Of course things get blown out of proportion. But to deny that there would be any friction at all is incorrect. When two people with competing philosophies meet, there is always a little bit of tension.
Based on how you conceptualize BJJ on several different dimensions, you will naturally find yourself very close with some groups, friendly with some, a bit awkward with some, and (hopefully very rare but it does happen) unwelcome with some.
The belief that BJJ should not even be about these types of ideas is itself a philosophy that will naturally bring itself into conflict with those who believe that BJJ should be about these types of ideas. That's why even writing this post brings up a little bit of tension because I am putting forward a different idea than you are.
Ultimately, it's not a matter of avoiding the tension altogether but rather being able to put the tension aside and still be friendly. If I recognize you at a tournament, I will definitely come up and say hi because I have a ton of respect for you. Even though I know you think some of my ideas about BJJ are silly, that's not something that I want to stand in the way.
There will always be competing ideas in BJJ on a variety of topics, and as a result there will always be different versions of these "beef" threads. I think to some extent people just need to talk a little and let these things run their course naturally.