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Watch your body language people

Do me, do me.

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the title of the article should be, "humans suck at interpreting body language"
 
Actually he's quite passionate, aggressive, and took the boy who tried to steal from him under his wing showing trust.


Yeah I saw (nice movie) and the character was a good(great) guy inside. But he had "a little" trouble communicating smoothly, or even wanting to, was a grizzled vet who strongly preferred to keep to himself. He was uncomfortable being forced in situation where he had to to open up socially, and did so (had to learn how) gradually

His roughness and harsh offensive language was actually a built-up, self-placed barrier to protect his inner golden softybear
 
So he used the coffee mug to shield his broken heart from the world. We see right through you Clint, set the mug down and let the hug in
 
So he used the coffee mug to shield his broken heart from the world. We see right through you Clint, set the mug down and let the hug in

End of the movie right there-- shoulda put a spoiler tag on that
 
I don't mind my body language betraying my actual feelings.

This is an article recommending deception, and it's immoral.
 
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How the fuck am I going to hold a cup of coffee at my side? When I'm drinking beer standing in a bar? This is complete garbage. I'm sure the list has some stuff that is true, but I'm not going to read after such a shitty first entry. "Hold stuff to your side". Yeah jackass, I'm going to forego control over my objects because I might be resisting social decency otherwise. :rolleyes:

You don't get it.
 
mmm........okay.

Follow all these advice and you'll end up being totally boring, fake and ridiculous.
 
I think I'm confident enough that I truly don't care whether or not I appear confident.

Also, if something is big enough that it won't fit in my pocket, it's likely awkward to carry at my side. I carry those things with my arm at a near 45 degree angle, why would I intentionally make it more awkward?

I tend to commit some of the antisocial ones, but that's because I don't want to talk to everyone that I end up talking to.
 

I can't remember the scene, but it really looks like he's either shielding himself, maybe even from a thought, or he's about to take/just took a gulp.


Which brings up an interesting question. If you are about to drink the coffee, are you better off splashing it over your shoulder? Otherwise you might appear less than confident while centring the mug in front of your face...
 
I think I'm confident enough that I truly don't care whether or not I appear confident.

Also, if something is big enough that it won't fit in my pocket, it's likely awkward to carry at my side. I carry those things with my arm at a near 45 degree angle, why would I intentionally make it more awkward?

I tend to commit some of the antisocial ones, but that's because I don't want to talk to everyone that I end up talking to.


That's the other thing. These are not meant to be strict, unyielding rules. They are more like useful guidelines for your average person.

If you have a lot of evident warmth or charisma those will cancel out many of these minor signals. But if you're like the average person who is quiet and reserved, these little common things (nervous habits) will be the only thing others will see you for and ultimately project a negative image of you to those who don't know you intimately (like at work, for example)
 
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Which brings up an interesting question. If you are about to drink the coffee, are you better off splashing it over your shoulder? Otherwise you might appear less than confident while centring the mug in front of your face...


There's another option. Turn your head sideways and raise the mug up to the corresponding side with that arm like/while you're flexing your guns with noticeable tension. Then chug the damn thing with large measured gulps before throwing it haphazardly onto the floor, into a nearby corner, possibly where others are sitting/working, startling them.

Now lick and smack your lips as loud as you possibly can, broadcasting how satisfied you are with life and the fact that you just owned that coffee and made it your b*; watch as the timid ones run from the room and the remainder who stay recognize their new leader
 
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