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QueenLiz

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Hi guys,
I'm new to this forum so I'm not sure where to post this, sorry if I posted this in the wrong section.

So I joined this mma gym a few months ago, and this guy joined a few months in. So this guy is totally new to mma. We train in a group, and sometimes you have to try stuff out after the trainer explains it and team up. Now this new guy started to give me comments and tell me how to do stuff like "You should do it more like this and that" etc. But I find this extreme annoying because he's totally new and I'd rather just hear it from the trainer and not from a new student! I don't want to learn stuff the wrong way. (I'm totally fine with it if an advanced person at the gym gives me tips, really). I'm paying to learn from this trainer, not from some random new dude. I just feel like he's gotten a bit of an ego whilst training a couple of weeks. I don't want to be weird about it either but it's really awkward for me and I don't know how to respond to these comments. What he's doing, it also feels a bit disrespectful to the trainer, but maybe that's just me. I'm sure he has good intentions but..

What is your opinion on this? What do you think I should do?

Thanks!
 
There are several ways in which you could handle this. You could simply establish dominance during rolling, putting him in his place. Maybe even urinate on him afterwards, you know, to really show how much more dominant you are than he is...

Or, you could... you know. Just tell him directly that you want to train it the way the coach is showing, if you do it tactfully without being a jerk I'm sure he'll get the message. If he doesn't then see plan A.
 
There are a handful of guys like this in every gym I've ever trained at. I just worked with one this morning. Yeah it's annoying, but I just bite my tongue. Why escalate over something so trivial. For the most part these types of guys usually don't get very good, because they are focused on teaching and not on learning.
 
Thanks guys, this helps a lot!

It's especially awkward when he expects me to do it his way after he tells me(and even shows me), and then waits for me to do it. And sometimes I try to give him a polite response like "I think it's ok this way though", but that doesn't seem to help very much.

Thanks again for your opinions.
 
Gotta love the class "coach". I've trained with a couple of these guys. It's quite amusing I think. Some of them will even coach you after you just subbed them on the finer parts of how you could have improved that choke! Sometimes they do actually have something to say or I might actually be doing it totally wrong, so I always keep an open mind - maybe they have a background in another style or something. I'll take advice from anyone but I have to be convinced they're right.

The best way to handle it is to just ignore them and go "yeah yeah sure, I'm focussing on what the main man is telling us right now" or similar - politely brush them off and show no interest in their advice. If they carry on you might have to be more direct which can get awkward obviously.
 
If he shows you something you know is completely wrong, put him on the spot. Call the coach over and ask him to watch while the guy explains it to you.
 
Easy fix... just call the coach over and ask him to show you the move again.Just say I'm having a blonde moment and that'll let the training partner know without saying a word to him.
 
QueenLiz said:
Hi guys,
I'm new to this forum so I'm not sure where to post this, sorry if I posted this in the wrong section.

So I joined this mma gym a few months ago, and this guy joined a few months in. So this guy is totally new to mma. We train in a group, and sometimes you have to try stuff out after the trainer explains it and team up. Now this new guy started to give me comments and tell me how to do stuff like "You should do it more like this and that" etc. But I find this extreme annoying because he's totally new and I'd rather just hear it from the trainer and not from a new student! I don't want to learn stuff the wrong way. (I'm totally fine with it if an advanced person at the gym gives me tips, really). I'm paying to learn from this trainer, not from some random new dude. I just feel like he's gotten a bit of an ego whilst training a couple of weeks. I don't want to be weird about it either but it's really awkward for me and I don't know how to respond to these comments. What he's doing, it also feels a bit disrespectful to the trainer, but maybe that's just me. I'm sure he has good intentions but..

What is your opinion on this? What do you think I should do?

Thanks!
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I'm a black belt and a white belt with less than a month of training was "correcting" my drilling.

Basically what I'm saying is ignore it, get over it, move on. There will be tons of annoying or weird people that you meet in training. This guy won't be the worst or most annoying.
 
Welcome to the board.

The situation doesn't sound too bad, just annoying. We have a guy like that in our gym - spends all his time giving advice, and always complains that you go too hard during rolls. Just drill with someone else.
 
We have a few like that. My solution is to not stand near them as we watch the first drill. Then when we break to partner up, I partner up with those standing near me.

Works for me. I don't like to be Confrontational.

-T
 
Ya it's obviously not a big deal haha, just something to deal with. But great tips for sure, thanks again guys!
 
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