To My Son on His Twenty-First Birthday

[Benoco]

A father wrote an open letter to his son on his 21st birthday with much of the relationship wisdom he'd acquired over the years, some pretty interesting stuff, worth a read. Here's a few snippets:

If you do get serious and get seriously talking about marriage, early on let the woman know that there will be no marriage without a prenuptial agreement. I don

 

[youandme]

Cool letter bro..

 

[Cptn1NSAN0]

I agree with the first and third quoted parts but the second seems a little harsh.

 

[Josh]

A father wrote an open letter to his son on his 21st birthday with much of the relationship wisdom he'd acquired over the years, some pretty interesting stuff, worth a read. Here's a few snippets:


"If she

 

[Benoco]

I agree with the first and third quoted parts but the second seems a little harsh.

Oh man, he's cut and dry, very harsh! He seems like he's been hardened by a couple of shitty divorces, maybe he should take a look at the common factor in all those break ups.

 

[Henry Huggins]

it takes a few crazies (and not normal women crazy) to really understand the second one

 

[SafyreSchool**]

I don't agree with that ironclad law, not only for the message it says itself, but the underlying fact it will make the kid weary and questioning of just about everyone he meets. I'm not saying lend a stranger your car, but looking at everything through "the worst can happen and tends to do so" goggles will leave him disenchanted and incapable of finding true love. He'll be be of those "you have to earn my trust" idiots. People should not be judged before they have a chance to present themselves, in the same sense they should not be judged for what the person before them did to you. And anyways, how many 21-year-olds can fathom something like that?
If my dad had given me that at 21, I would have said, suurreee dad, and went off to skateboard or something.

He's trying to teach his kid hindsight.
Like if he looked into a newborn's eyes and said; I've been there, man, here's how you can avoid all of life's mistakes, and that just doesn't work.

 

[Fijeeto]

Solid advice.

 

[philth]

well, that's certainly a very depressing way of looking at things.

 

[Spoken]

sexist, elitist, and honestly, a rather cynical view of the world.

 

[Gunny]

A father wrote an open letter to his son on his 21st birthday with much of the relationship wisdom he'd acquired over the years, some pretty interesting stuff, worth a read. Here's a few snippets:







I won't quote any more, it's worth a look, check it out if you're bored sometime.

I find that "Ironclad law" a depressing but pretty reasonable conclusion, anyone have any thoughts on that?

http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/ReadersSubmissions2011/reader6875.htm

I violated all three. While our marriage went through a few rough years it has been steadily improving for several more. Sex, although rarer now due to the three kids, is better than its ever been. We're happier together now than we were when we were first dating. This isn't my opinion alone, I've overheard her say it to her friends when she didn't know I was within ear shot. If I had the choice over I would marry her again.

The ironclad law seems a bit tinish to me.

 

[Scott Lawlor]

I don't agree with the second one, pretty much everyone has some type of baggage. I can see if it was a serious mental illness but if it's something mild I don't see the problem with it. We have to accept we're all a little f'd up.

 

[highkicknomore]

The dude has been burned too many times and despises girls.

He should turn gay.

Edit: He seemed to be a white knight before.

 

[Da Speeit]

"Only date perfect people"

Dude should go fuck himself imo

 

[Benoco]

"Only date perfect people"

In a nutshell:icon_lol:.

 

[Spoken]

"Only date perfect people"

Dude should go fuck himself imo

best post.

 

[Tycho- Taylor's Version]

sexist, elitist, and honestly, a rather cynical view of the world.

"Only date perfect people"

Dude should go fuck himself imo

These.

Guy probably married the first girl he fucked and now has no one to blame his misery on but himself.

 

[SafyreSchool**]

"Only date perfect people"

Dude should go fuck himself imo

By his own predetermined standards, he can't even do that.

 

[Benoco]

By his own predetermined standards, he can't even do that.

Very good!

 

[Brampton_Boy]

Sounds like the dad has some deep seeded issues with woman and is offering up some terrible advice to his son.

The only thing I only marginally agree with him on is the need for a prenuptial agreement. I believe that both parties should protect themselves in the event of divorce.

While I have no son, and am still in my 20s (28), my advice to him would be: Be honest in a relationship, both with yourself and your partner.

If something is bothering you, let it be known (not doing so builds resentment). If you don't see it working, don't string a person along to save their feelings. It seems so simple, but in practice, being honest with your feelings is both painful and difficult at times.

P.S: That handicap thing is some serious bullshit.