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I can't argue with the position "not in all cases". There are certainly cases where there will be negligible harm to the minor. I just think harm happens in enough cases, both male and female, that it should never be considered negligibleSure I even said that in my post, I just think the hpysical difference, rightly or wrongly, is partly why male abusers are seen in a different light.
Two things. The first is that I'm not saying these relationships have a negligible chance of harm, just that in certain cases the harm is negligible. There is a high potential for harm even if its not realized in every cases.
Second, the shame factor from having the relationship revealed publicly isn't something that's inherent to the experience, its a harm that is generated after the fact from related but separate experiences. If the interaction was never discovered that harm would not exist. This is not to say there aren't other harms though.
Sure that's all serious stuff that can mess with a boy, I just don't think all boys who have these interactions experience that kind of harm. Like I said I think sexual and emotional maturity can vary a lot between teenagers and I think one 16 year old might have no problems with such an experience while another, older teenager might find it troubling on some level.
It's like how you calculate risk - how likely is it to occur x how bad could it be if it did occur = how much risk you're taking on. These are always high risk relationships.
And, again, I know you're not dismissing the potentially life altering effects. We're simply discussing how much risk there really is.