Surrounded by a**holes...

CaptEvilSpirit said:
Is it worth it to be surrounded by these scumbags? Does hanging around them it pay your rent, help you bust a nut, make you laugh or give you a feeling of wholeness?

It might be nice to have a least one scumbag in your group of friends. They might come in handy in ways your righteous friends can't or won't.
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Maybe scumbag was an overstatement (except for my coworker but I have no choice there.) My best friend is a good guy, but his lack of thoughtfulness is maddening sometimes.

Gervinho said:
Im just going by what you posted. You mentioned those peoples flaws and just mentioned good things about you. Also things like terrible father is easy to throw on someone. You also say he properly hate gays, which tells me you are not even sure if he does. Like I said its easy to focus on peoples flaws if you look for them. I tend to give people benefit of the doubt and assume they are just decent people until I see something that clearly change my mind. I have borrowed money from my parents and have been fired from jobs, doesnt make me a bad person because most people have done these 2 things
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I did post their flaws, but that doesn't mean I think they're terrible people. I like my brother in law and I even like my mother in law. What I don't like is the way I'm treated by people who know me. I shouldn't attack people's character like this but it's frustrating when you know who you are and are treated like a less of person for things like your appearance.

I was just kidding about the gay thing because my mother in law hates gays and hates the fact that I have gay friends.
 
So you come to Sherdog to ESCAPE?? lol
 
the ax murderer said:
You can chose your friends...

If there's a guy at work that wouldn't hesitate to rat you out and then he'll act all friendly to you, how do you react to him when he does this?
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I've started calling him out on it. He was my mentor but now that I've been working with him for almost three years I don't put up with his shit as much. He's apologized several times and admitted his mistakes but always reverts back to them. He's older so I think he fears for his job sometimes and acts irrationally.

T Rollie said:
Reading your post as a fairly objective outsider, you seem very judgmental and you might also be a homosexual.
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I am judgmental, I won't deny that. But I treat even the most dis-likable of people with respect and consideration.
 
I can sort of relate to what you are saying, anyway. When I was doing factory work I was surrounded by the dregs of society every day. It motivated me to do something else.
 
Dude the older you get the more politics are involved in your daily life. Unfortunately keeping it real doesn't always work out for those do do it. Don't let it change who you are though man. I know it's hard, but remember just be true to yourself. At work I'm the guy with no filter on my mouth. I say what I want as soon as I think about it. After a while people will just realize that is who you are. Eventually you will see that people expect it. If someone tries to imitate what you do it won't work for them. When your boy throws you under the bus. Get him back. We literally had an adult bully and a slew of bully cronies in our S3 shop. Well all I had to do was play divide and conquer. And that is exactly what I did.
Learn ways to get you through the day. You will be surprised what works and what is actually fun.
 
Not scumbags - idiots.

Literally everyday at some point I find myself invariably muttering, "Idiots! I am surrounded by idiots!"

True story.
 
Archie Goodwin said:
Not scumbags - idiots.

Literally everyday at some point I find myself invariably muttering, "Idiots! I am surrounded by idiots!"

True story.
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^
This. I use to wake up every morning and look out my window and say "stupids! stupids everywhere! It's all I see is stupids!
 
Taskforce3Tango said:
Dude the older you get the more politics are involved in your daily life. Unfortunately keeping it real doesn't always work out for those do do it. Don't let it change who you are though man. I know it's hard, but remember just be true to yourself. At work I'm the guy with no filter on my mouth. I say what I want as soon as I think about it. After a while people will just realize that is who you are. Eventually you will see that people expect it. If someone tries to imitate what you do it won't work for them. When your boy throws you under the bus. Get him back. We literally had an adult bully and a slew of bully cronies in our S3 shop. Well all I had to do was play divide and conquer. And that is exactly what I did.
Learn ways to get you through the day. You will be surprised what works and what is actually fun.
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I like who I am but I feel like the only way to change people's perception of me is to change my behavior. If people think I'm an asshole and I feel like I do everything to avoid people thinking I'm an asshole, maybe I should start acting like an asshole and people will think differently. Maybe I should smile in people's faces as I tell them to fuck off because the other way isn't working.
 
I am nice to everyone because that is how I like living my life, and at the same time I surround myself with people who are the same way.

Life is too short for negativity
 
Yet my brother in law who got fired from his job because he's a fucking dirtbag, is a terrible father, and has borrowed thousands of dollars from them to go on vacations without paying them back, but walks around with this shit eating grin all the time and wear a suit to work and doesn't have tattoos and probably hates gay people is a fucking saint.
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See, you understand completely.

What's the problem?
 
FlyThai said:
I am nice to everyone because that is how I like living my life, and at the same time I surround myself with people who are the same way.

Life is too short for negativity
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My wife is a wonderful person, I feel like I should just be spending more time with her and my daughter.

That's basically the point I was making about my friend is that I make time for him because he wants to hang out and then he behaves like a prick. I've got better things to do.
 
DarkKnight81 said:
My wife is a wonderful person, I feel like I should just be spending more time with her and my daughter.

That's basically the point I was making about my friend is that I make time for him because he wants to hang out and then he behaves like a prick. I've got better things to do.
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If you have a great wife and daughter there is no reason to upset yourself over other people's bullshit. Distance yourself from them and cherish the good people in your life.

Compared to some people, I don't have many friends. But I have a very select group of loyal friends, my "Flythai brothers" that have been like brothers to me for years. People like that makes life awesome to live.
 
DarkKnight81 said:
My wife is a wonderful person, I feel like I should just be spending more time with her and my daughter.

That's basically the point I was making about my friend is that I make time for him because he wants to hang out and then he behaves like a prick. I've got better things to do.
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Does the wife make sammiches? because nothing is better than a blowjob and a sammich. You should spend more time with your family IMO
 
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