I got my ass whipped the other day from a stronger and better grappler than myself. The problem is I do not know what the hell I could have done differently. When I had him in side control, I felt like I was riding a bull. He was bucking me off. I tried two variations of holding him down; chest to chest, one arm by hip and one elbow by head on the other side. The other variation was from the Sauol Robeiro tape where you place your entire weight on his hips to "control" him. Needless to say, I couldn't keep him down let alone secure anything close to a submission. When he was on side of me, I kept real tight and tried to hip escape out--I couldn;t even budge him. he was real dynamic transitioning to north south, other side, knee on belly and mount within seconds. Even keeping my elbows tight and protecting myself, he got armbars at will. Very discouraging because I wasn't doing anything wrong that I know of. I was quite embarrased. Usually when I get owned, I can think of things that I did wrong or could have done differently. SO, here is the question: How do you prefer controlling your opponent in side control; chest to chest or placing your hips on top of theirs with legs sprawled out?