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It's been a dream of mine for over a decade to move out west. Specifically Portland, OR.
I've been visiting out there for over a decade (my BFF from HS moved out there around 2005) and have felt like it's where I belonged ever since my first visit. Life circumstances have made it basically impossible until just recently, where things really seem to be falling into place, reassuring me that it's the right decision.
I'd be giving up an awesome house (walking away with almost nothing) the best job I ever had, the best girl I ever had (regardless of the problems we've had), leaving my parents and one of my brothers who live within an hour's drive, and a bunch of friends, some of whom I've had for the vast majority of my life.
Without getting too into details, every time I've been to that part of the country, it just feels like it's the most conducive to the kind of life I want, and I've been in need of a fresh start for a while now. I've been through a decent portion of the country and the only other area I've ever felt a similar draw to was Denver (and to a lesser extent, the fishtown neighborhood in philly) to give anyone who's been to either of those cities an idea of the vibe I'm drawn to.
What it keeps coming down to for me, is I think about it as if I were on my death bed looking back at my life. And I feel like if I die never having given it a shot I'll regret it.
Sounds like my decision should be obvious, which is how I'm currently looking at it (found a buyer for my house that would be by far best case scenario, have job prospects and potential places to live in OR already) but I'm still giving up a lot, there's so much shit involved in the whole process, and tbh part of me is afraid of the unknown, even though I've been in shitty situations enough to be fully confident in my ability to figure things out and make it work.
Play devil's advocate sherbros. I'm already pretty much past the point of no return, but am I missing anything here?
CLIFFS: I'm planning on moving across the country and have been pretty convinced this was the right thing to do for a long time, but there are a few things holding me back and I want to be as sure as possible.
I've been visiting out there for over a decade (my BFF from HS moved out there around 2005) and have felt like it's where I belonged ever since my first visit. Life circumstances have made it basically impossible until just recently, where things really seem to be falling into place, reassuring me that it's the right decision.
I'd be giving up an awesome house (walking away with almost nothing) the best job I ever had, the best girl I ever had (regardless of the problems we've had), leaving my parents and one of my brothers who live within an hour's drive, and a bunch of friends, some of whom I've had for the vast majority of my life.
Without getting too into details, every time I've been to that part of the country, it just feels like it's the most conducive to the kind of life I want, and I've been in need of a fresh start for a while now. I've been through a decent portion of the country and the only other area I've ever felt a similar draw to was Denver (and to a lesser extent, the fishtown neighborhood in philly) to give anyone who's been to either of those cities an idea of the vibe I'm drawn to.
What it keeps coming down to for me, is I think about it as if I were on my death bed looking back at my life. And I feel like if I die never having given it a shot I'll regret it.
Sounds like my decision should be obvious, which is how I'm currently looking at it (found a buyer for my house that would be by far best case scenario, have job prospects and potential places to live in OR already) but I'm still giving up a lot, there's so much shit involved in the whole process, and tbh part of me is afraid of the unknown, even though I've been in shitty situations enough to be fully confident in my ability to figure things out and make it work.
Play devil's advocate sherbros. I'm already pretty much past the point of no return, but am I missing anything here?
CLIFFS: I'm planning on moving across the country and have been pretty convinced this was the right thing to do for a long time, but there are a few things holding me back and I want to be as sure as possible.
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