Relationships Sexless marriage limits

[Jack Reacheround]

It’s never gotten to a month. I think we’re both of the mindset that of it does, that’s just way too long.
So if it even gets close to that, she just says “put your dick in me” and we handle business.

 

[Phlog]

"What one should aim for is for ones emotions, ones reason and ones spirit to all be aligned."

Dude, what is that even supposed to mean, I mean in a practical sense? Sounds like some weird hippy shit.

Fair! What I mean by that is you should be emotionally invested 100% in the partner, that they are a safe place for you to represent your true emotions.

For you to reason that they are the best option for you, ie no red flags, wanting the same things as you and knowing they will work with you towards your shared goals whilst accepting hard times with a mind to work past them. So someone who wants you to be as happy as possible, that you can do the same for.

For spirit to be aligned with this you would need to appreciate what is self actualising, if I were to reduce it almost beyond usefulness. Walking the appropriate path, as it were, for you.

"Dominance of one over the other is the route to unhappiness."

You forget the important part of that statement... "For you". Not everyone is the same as you, values the same things as you do or chooses to live their life the way that you do. To try and project your values onto others as if they are some universal truth is just ignorant.

Nah, I believe that this is universal. It's a pattern that I've observed in all I've read and seen. It recurse in literature throughout history. Enough that I think I can paint with a broad brush. In a similar way that I can know getting enough water is good for you.

"If you were really worried you could easily protect your investments..."

Good luck with that once it reaches the family courts.

So... I should just find someone that I want to give away half of everything I've ever worked my ass off for, to?
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Basically yes that's the ideal. All that said if I wasn't having kids I'd be less inclined to bother! That, I think is where I would add more variability in my advice as many people are not suited to that.

 

[Kardashians]

Man, I’m never getting married. Men these days can’t even do their own laundry and I’m not willing to fulfill the motherly role.

As to the question, if I’m not attracted to him as a person, I could go forever without sex. But I’m not getting into that situation again. Otherwise, he’s gotta let me climb all over him like monkey bars x

 

[Jack Reacheround]

Man, I’m never getting married. Men these days can’t even do their own laundry and I’m not willing to fulfill the motherly role.

As to the question, if I’m not attracted to him as a person, I could go forever without sex. But I’m not getting into that situation again. Otherwise, he’s gotta let me climb all over him like monkey bars x

Why would you marry someone you aren’t attracted to?

And I can do laundry. In fact, I did our laundry every week when we lived in an apartment because she refused to get dressed on Sundays and go to the laundromat.

 

[Kardashians]

Why would you marry someone you aren’t attracted to?

And I can do laundry. In fact, I did our laundry every week when we lived in an apartment because she refused to get dressed on Sundays and go to the laundromat.

I think a lot of people still get married after they’ve lost attraction to the person they’re with (I don’t mean just physically). It’s just a “going through the motions” thing.

 

[Jack Reacheround]

I think a lot of people still get married after they’ve lost attraction to the person they’re with (I don’t mean just physically). It’s just a “going through the motions” thing.

Like a familiarity breeds contempt thing, except with physical attraction.

 

[FyrFytr998]

It’s never gotten to a month. I think we’re both of the mindset that of it does, that’s just way too long.
So if it even gets close to that, she just says “put your dick in me” and we handle business.

I do the opposite. If it's been a minute, I say let me get a quickie.

 

[chrislp]

Some great insight here.

I think this type of poll/question also needs to be broken down by age bracket.

20's
30's
40's
etc.....

In my almost mid-40's, I would answer this poll very differently compared to my 20's for example.

In my mid 20's I'm guessing at least a few times a week if not daily.

At my current age, I don't care as much.

I got married mid 30's & it's different now.

 

[Jesus X]

I used to do great and have sex everyday, but then my wife found out about that.

*Rim shot*

 

[GSP_37]

Maybe one realized the other has extreme cooties and don't want none of that on their private parts?