Relationships Sexless marriage limits

you sexless marriage duration limits

  • < 1 month

    Votes: 33 55.9%

  • > 2 months

    Votes: 7 11.9%

  • > 3 months

    Votes: 4 6.8%

  • > 6 months

    Votes: 2 3.4%

  • > 1 year

    Votes: 3 5.1%

  • I don't need sex to stay with my wife

    Votes: 10 16.9%
  • Total voters
    59
chardog said:
This is absolutely ridiculous, your wife manipulates you
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I guess most wifes are using sex manipulation techniques quite often against their man
the trick is i think , it can be used only if the man is still 'in love' / attracted to his wife, if he doesnt care, its like a one shot weapon and they have to more to another target
so in the life of an interested man, wife is propably able to do magic with allowing or denying sex
Im not sure why they do it though, why be married with children and not be interested in sex with the partner ,maybe such wifes are then open to sex with others, but not open to new relationships, i dont know, but its sad and weird
 
If she aint throwing hump with you, you throwing it with that guy she tells you is "Just a Friend".
 
Why did you said:
I've read on Reddit that there are people who don't have sex not just for months ,which should already be worrying ,but for years, and still in marriage.
So what's up with that? Why?
There's a Reddit group,dead bedrooms, I think, where they discuss such cases.
I don't understand , what's the deal there? Usually, men are the ones complaining that their wives aren't into it anymore, or just “trick” them by saying, yeah, we'll do it later, and then nothing happens.
What would be your boiling point where you, as a sherbro, would say, hey, that's it, I'm out .
Note : type of marriage - Married.. with children
Or would you not connect sex with marriage and just stay in the relationship anyway and deal with it?
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It really depends on what's going on in life , do you have young children, how old are you , what's everyone's health doing and so on.

You just aren't gonna bang like ya did when you are north of 40 everyone's got a job and there are kids in the picture.

Also I don't have a boiling point there I don't believe in divorce and I have a child who needs both parents. I guess if she was having it without me that would be a deal breaker but if we are talking just a drought or life being in the way you just deal with it . I know dudes wanna fuck all the time but if your lady is north of 30 and has had kids that's going to slow things down a lot. You gotta talk to each other all the time and figure shit out if you wanna stay married for the long haul.
 
Gutter Chris said:
It really depends on what's going on in life , do you have young children, how old are you , what's everyone's health doing and so on.

You just aren't gonna bang like ya did when you are north of 40 everyone's got a job and there are kids in the picture.

Also I don't have a boiling point there I don't believe in divorce and I have a child who needs both parents. I guess if she was having it without me that would be a deal breaker but if we are talking just a drought or life being in the way you just deal with it . I know dudes wanna fuck all the time but if your lady is north of 30 and has had kids that's going to slow things down a lot. You gotta talk to each other all the time and figure shit out if you wanna stay married for the long haul.
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You’re really just bringing up excuses that the ladies use, and it’s a power dynamic if you cannot come to an agreement that works. Discuss when you’re going to schedule sex, make it happen. Have sex often, your marriage will last.

Hire do you have sex often? Agree that it is a part of marriage with your partner, and lay out some ground rules, rather than leave it to chances and hormones. It might seem counterintuitive, however you’ll eventually learn that this is the right way.
 
I’ve read a lot in that subreddit and I’ve come to the conclusion that only happens to men whose wives don’t respect or are truly attracted to them.

You have to maintain attraction by just being an awesome human but also you can’t be a little simp pushover and give your wife everything she demands.

Also stress and kids is legitimate cause for prolonged periods of sexlessness
 
biscuitsbrah said:
You have to maintain attraction by just being an awesome human but also you can’t be a little simp pushover and give your wife everything she demands.
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My job often involves gossiping with women and for this generation it's often a lose lose situation.

If you're a push over then like you said they won't be attracted to you but if you push back and it's not to their liking then you get labeled a "narcissist" even though someone only demanding what they want and then getting defensive over it makes them the actual narcissist......

Unrelated something that hasn't been brought up is a lot of modern women especially in my area are on SSRIs which kill your sex drive. Adds to the whole only doing it for transactional purposes.
 
Phlog said:
Marriage has zero effect on any of that in my experience.

My perspective is that if that happened then their relationship was fundamentally flawed to begin with because it suggests that the sex they were getting was transactional in nature and that they were unaware of this fact. This means that they truly did not know their partner, in which case they should not have got married.

Now not everyone can know themselves and be with a woman that knows themselves whilst both being on a path to ever increasing union. And if you are lacking in capacity it's hard to know that is the case, I appreciate that, but you really should make it your business to know your limitations and plan accordingly.

I think the issue is that many people only play the surface level game, they take the easy path, they do not put in the work to know thyself and they reap what they sow.

I don't think that I would be satisfied with judging myself to be like that. I feel like your position is an admission of a weakness. Which is fine, one should be able to admit weaknesses, but it didn't seem to me that you were doing that, referring as you were to the institution of marriage and an observed correlation. I appreciate also your opinion could come from just not giving it much thought.
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Oh I've given it plenty of thought over the years.

I've observed the massive dataset of hundreds of guys that I've known that have gotten married, observed the results and decided that the likelihood of divorce and the distinctly negative effects thereof make it a statistically terrible idea for someone like myself.

I've also known a handful of people like yourself that seem to arrogantly think that they are special and are just amazing at picking their partner... right up until their partner left them and took them to the cleaners through the courts.

I hope it all goes well for you and nothing bad happens, but im not really a gambler and its not something that I'd risk half of everything that I've worked for over the years on.
 
Women don't marry men they are most sexually attracted to.
 
BigSexy444 said:
Women don't marry men they are most sexually attracted to.
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For the same reason why (sane) men don't marry strippers and hookers. It doesn't matter how attractive someone is, it's still only a small part of what they look for in a partner.
 
Sexless marriage is an oxymoron...........

Marriage is based on children..... Your not having them without sex...... Unless lesbian and Turkey baster.......
 
BigSexy444 said:
Women don't marry men they are most sexually attracted to.
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Ermmmmmm they would but the most attractive men don't need to marry in modern society because they don't need to buy the cow to get the milk.....

Try advocating DNA for both parents on the birth certificate and see how you get on in the west with that, expect great resistance.......from women.......
 
42, married 13 years and been with wife 20 total. Have sex every other day. Only times we break that trend are if I'm traveling or one of us is sick.

If you're not fucling your wife/gf they are just your roommate..
 
After a long time in a marriage, you can really love the person but not find them attractive anymore. You stay cos of the dynamic and fix the other stuff elsewhere. A sidechick.
 
In my 50’s, married 27 years. With life, illnesses, work………we get it in when we can. We both are past the quantity stage, and are looking at quality now. But if I want it and she’s not in the mood, I’ll get a quickie.
 
Not a chance I'm staying married and not getting some unless there's some legit medical reason or something Been married 5 years and things are still good
 
William Huggins said:
Sexless marriage is an oxymoron...........

Marriage is based on children..... Your not having them without sex...... Unless lesbian and Turkey baster.......
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Maybe when we were growing up. Nothing is really based on anything anymore imo.
 
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