Relationships Sexless marriage limits

you sexless marriage duration limits

  • < 1 month

    Votes: 33 55.9%

  • > 2 months

    Votes: 7 11.9%

  • > 3 months

    Votes: 4 6.8%

  • > 6 months

    Votes: 2 3.4%

  • > 1 year

    Votes: 3 5.1%

  • I don't need sex to stay with my wife

    Votes: 10 16.9%
  • Total voters
    59
I told her if I aint getting it at home, I'm getting it outside the home. So I did. Ninjas are known for their incredible sex drives afterall.
 
Besides some situations that are exceptions (during/after pregnancy, medical reasons, environmental reasons, really old age, etc), I can't imagine sex as low as once per month on average let alone once every 3-6 months. In a broken marriage sure, but not between a happily married couple, even with kids.
 
2-3 weeks would be when I start asking questions. If I don't like the answer I might start plotting an escape route.

What the hell is even the point of a relationship that doesn't include sex? Sex is like 90% of the reason I'd even be in one.
 
Aurelian said:
2-3 weeks would be when I start asking questions. If I don't like the answer I might start plotting an escape route.

What the hell is even the point of a relationship that doesn't include sex? Sex is like 90% of the reason I'd even be in one.
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sandwich and laundry service
 
My wife had the decency to pack up her shit and leave not that long after she stopped being interested in my company. She did want to be friends which was infuriating but that's women for you.

Hey I think I'll be friends with someone that didn't rip my heart out and stomp on it with zero regard for my feelings.

Thanks though lmao 🤣
 
When my wife had my children we went without sex for 18 months and that was difficult for me, especially as I was getting a lot of offers at the time. Difficult but easily doable because I'm a moral and capable man.

My wife is the love of my life and if she could no longer have sex, or didn't want to then I would do that for her for the rest of my life. Because I love her and there's no one else in this or any life that I would rather wake up next to and walk the mountains with.

I would potentially ask her permission for a day pass if that happened but not if it upset her.
 
Aurelian said:
2-3 weeks would be when I start asking questions. If I don't like the answer I might start plotting an escape route.

What the hell is even the point of a relationship that doesn't include sex? Sex is like 90% of the reason I'd even be in one.
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Yea it doesn’t make sense for a healthy loving partner to not want to be intimate. I could understand if the couple got together with them knowing one doesn’t care about sex, but to just remove it and not have an explanation is crazy to me. Though it is definitely a personal feeling and limit since we all have different views on sex and intimacy. That’s one of my must haves, so it seems I steer toward the lower end of the time question. Others who care way less will obviously not mind the lack of it as much. What are you willing to sacrifice for your love?

Some just don’t want to be alone with themselves. Or, their love is just that much stronger. Can’t really tell what’s happening in another’s mind so one can only guess.
 
Contempt said:
Considering the number of guys that I have known over the years that have complained that as soon as they got married, the amount of sex that they got went through the floor... I'll give the whole institution a miss, personally. It seems like some women just use it as bait to get that legal commitment.
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Marriage has zero effect on any of that in my experience.

My perspective is that if that happened then their relationship was fundamentally flawed to begin with because it suggests that the sex they were getting was transactional in nature and that they were unaware of this fact. This means that they truly did not know their partner, in which case they should not have got married.

Now not everyone can know themselves and be with a woman that knows themselves whilst both being on a path to ever increasing union. And if you are lacking in capacity it's hard to know that is the case, I appreciate that, but you really should make it your business to know your limitations and plan accordingly.

I think the issue is that many people only play the surface level game, they take the easy path, they do not put in the work to know thyself and they reap what they sow.

I don't think that I would be satisfied with judging myself to be like that. I feel like your position is an admission of a weakness. Which is fine, one should be able to admit weaknesses, but it didn't seem to me that you were doing that, referring as you were to the institution of marriage and an observed correlation. I appreciate also your opinion could come from just not giving it much thought.
 
Phlog said:
When my wife had my children we went without sex for 18 months and that was difficult for me, especially as I was getting a lot of offers at the time. Difficult but easily doable because I'm a moral and capable man.

My wife is the love of my life and if she could no longer have sex, or didn't want to then I would do that for her for the rest of my life. Because I love her and there's no one else in this or any life that I would rather wake up next to and walk the mountains with.

I would potentially ask her permission for a day pass if that happened but not if it upset her.
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This is absolutely ridiculous, your wife manipulates you
 
chardog said:
This is absolutely ridiculous, your wife manipulates you
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Maybe. I didn't want to have sex with her whilst she was pregnant, her smell was wrong for that and it wasn't how I felt about her, I absolutely did not find her sexially attractive fundamentally. I could always satisfy myself alone. She was pregnant with twins and it was a challenging pregnancy.

Then afterwards we were essentially in survival mode, she spent the first 3 months being a feeding machine, sleeping when they did, with them. And that's what I wanted. One day I changed 25 nappies/dipers, one can't really consider that shit then.

For the last 5-6 months of the 18 I was finding it a bit hard, and we talked and agreed that even though she wasn't feeling it we should try to restart things. She had got locked into the infant nurturing at the expense of everything else. We tried and it did resume as before and then better over time.

Other people are different but it was right enough for us. My relationship is better than ever and my kids are healthy and well adjusted, we all love our family dynamic and choose to spend time with each other if possible.
 
chardog said:
if you're having sex less than once every three weeks, you have a problem, and it's only going to fester and grow. Make an agreement to schedule sex, you're married, it shouldn't be that uncomfortable to work out a schedule and stick with it.
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