Getting my ACL torn really changed my perspective on that. I don't think steroid use per se really impinges your good personness. Having one shrunken-ass leg and wishing you could just have your old body back changes your POV on wanting to be able to make fast mass gains pretty quickly.
I think you can be a good person and still take steroids but I think someone that is at the elite level and refuses to take steroids is undoubtedly a role model and I have immense respect for their integrity.
Does that means people who cheat (that's quite an emotive word - perhaps replace with 'use steroids') don't have integrity? I'm not even sure of that answer myself.
There's guys at ever belt level at my gym on steroids and to be honest I think it's a little disgusting. They've prioritised being good at BJJ, being strong, and having a ripped physique that makes you look like a super hero over their integrity, character, and sportsmanship.
It's not the individuals fault though. It's the IBJJFs for having one of the most flimsy steroid policy any sport ever has. It's the fault of the culture in BJJ. We all know friends on steroids, we like them, we don't judge them. Other guys in our weight class on steroids. You roll with them and see how strong they are, you think if I want to beat them I need to become that strong. If you'd dedicated all your life to BJJ you wouldn't want to lose in the top competitions just because you were the only one not willing to take steroids.
It's also the fault of society consuming the bullshit media that feeds us images of airbrushed supermodels and men's health models who are roided to the gils. They set us an unrealistic expectation and the same is mirrored in BJJ when all the top athletes are taking steroids.
... furthermore none of them are willing to put themselves out there and admit to it. We all know 95% of medalists at the worlds will be one steroids yet they will all deny and perpetuate these unrealistic expectations. Even in the gym when the topic comes up people play if coy and often refuse to admit to their team-mates they take them. If you are going to do your 'opponent' the disservice of taking steroids at least be prepared to make it public knowledge you are biochemically enhanced. (I actually gained respect for Jeff Glover for being open about it).
And it's not just BJJ, PEDs are a big problem in many sports.
People will always find a way to justify taking steroids. I think the culture in BJJ is such you almost have to justify your stance for being against steroids. Crazy.