R.I.P. YOLOGOGOPLATA

RIP. Heartbreaking.
 
So sad. RIP my friend
 
Really unfortunate.

Opiates will always get you. Especially have to be careful if you’ve been away from them for awhile. That’s very often when people have these situations. Their loved ones will say, “he seemed like he was doing so well,” and he probably was. Those are the most dangerous times. If you relapse, you relapse. But do it as safely as you can. Have someone with you. Have narcan/naloxone if you can.

This shit has invaded most of our lives at this point I would guess, one way or another. A couple of my closest friends, and very successful guys at that, have had this problem. If anyone is dealing with this and ever needs help, please reach out.
 
Jone Jons said:
this whole thing sucks. i was trying to find some details and read between the lines but nah. we all get the blues, please take care of yall selves. we all have distant friends we should call out of the blue who may need us. this all sucks. one of my best friends is a depressive loner who moved thousands of miles away 2 years ago and who told me he bought a gun 18 months ago -- i argued with him about it (we had a friend who was shot to death in his driveway and i contend a gun couldnt have saved him the way it went down, so its extra weird) and he stopped talking to me ... after months of silence i apologized, and we've exchanged ~six texts in the last year, and its killing me. i am also depressive, but i never fuck with drugs or guns, and i am trying to be happy with the great things i have in my life! i have a hard job but i get to be flexible and get to travel more than 99% of people to place i want to go, that's my distraction these days --- i know i have had a lot of luck, not a lot of trauma in my life, every advantage (other than growing up poorish but not food assistance poor), plus my brain chemistry isn't that bad i dont think, who knows man, i am lonely.
january 29 was also the one year anniversary of an old high school close friend ODing in a possible suicide -- we had all lost touch with him -- it had been 15 years and he moved away and was barely in contact -- but he was immensely successful lead dev at amazon making bonkers money, had a nice life, seemed to be on track at age 36, but then -- H > fent.
be empathetic to those around you -- depression is the new norm in our society.
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It’s almost as if humans simply aren’t built for the comfort and the ease of life that we have in modern society.

Do you think some frontiersman ever had time to be depressed?

The older I get the more I believe that a man can only maintain his mental wellness by setting goals and getting to work.
 
Life sucks , then you die. Sorry bro, I know addiction can be a bitch first hand.
 
That sucks. I remember talking to him here on Sherdog and reading his posts. I always had the impression he was a good dude. He will be missed
 
The Legendary Scarface said:
RIP @YOLOGOGOPLATA

This morning I texted him, and earlier this afternoon I received a text from his mother, from his phone, informing me of the tragic news.

Ben was an amazing dude. He was so thoughtful and caring and always had your best interest at heart. He was also a sports encyclopedia - from mma, to basketball and everything in between, he knew stats, dates, accomplishments and could always knock your head off in a debate.

He was actually the only person I've ever made friends with on the internet(which is something I never have done before or even considered doing). I met him on Sherdog (older account) about a year and a half ago and eventually we exchanged numbers and would talk or text. We planned to meet up in person to watch a card at some point as we were about 3 hours away but it never worked out. We talked about sports most of the time but we also talked about life. Ben had a lot of things going for him, he was very athletic (A - Level son) , charismatic, and very intelligent. He was also the kindest dude man, he was so sensible and had a beautiful self awareness to him and always made sure you were comfortable and happy when speaking with you. He also unfortunately had some demons he struggled with for years . Ben struggled with depression and drug use for a while. His mother told me he never learned how to fail and he was so accustomed to being perfect (sports, studies, etc) that once he started to make mistakes and not achieve the goals he strived for, it was a foreign experience for him and that eventually led him to drug use. Last year, when i was going through some things myself, he was one of the first people to call and talk to me like a brother to help even though we didnt even know each other that well. If any of you on here are struggling with any mental health issues or drug abuse please seek help. You can overcome it.

The last time I spoke to him was the day Kobe passed. I remember informing him of Kobe's death and he immediately called me in total shock. This impacted him more then I initially thought and I haven't texted him since then until this morning . What especially hurts to think about is if i should of texted him after Kobe's death instead of waiting an entire week. I had this gut feeling that it affected him a lot and that maybe i should hit him up but i just decided to wait a bit. And right before i woke up earlier I had a dream that I was looking for a missing person. You can't run from destiny. He passed from an overdose on Monday, January 27th 2020.

My condolences go to his family and friends.

This is a link to his obituary if you'd like to read more about him:
https://www.thomasmcafee.com/obituary/Ben-Spark

Please be respectful.
RIP Ben Spark
1990 - 2020
@YOLOGOGOPLATA
Love you bro
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Sorry to hear about your friend my dude,if you need someone to talk to hit me up.
 
I'm always sad when a Sherdogger goes. But hey, it's inevitable for every single one of us. I hope they were able to experience a lot of things they wanted to before they passed.
 
Damn...good poster, seemed like a good guy. RIP sherbro
 
real2124 said:
Tf do you mean sounds like? He literally posted that he overdosed. Or did you not bother to read OP?
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I read it on my phone and saw it said struggled with demons but I swear to God i didnt see anything about overdose stuff. now that I'm reading it on my PC and I see that I'm wondering how fuck I missed that or if it was edited with more info after.

Either way thats my bad, obviously I wouldnt have said it sounds like an od if I read that.

I'll edit my op.
 
Darbo said:
This might sound fucking redundant mate but do you work out? I went through a bit of a nightmare 10 years ago and felt exactly like you describe, I threw myself into working out, built a small gym in my spare room and it did wonders.
It's not as easy as it sounds obviously and there's a more than fair chance you've tried it and it wasn't for you, but if you've considered it and not followed through then try it, taking control will bleed into every other facet of your life.
Edit, I agree on your medication stance, I was the same, it papers over cracks instead of fixing them.
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I used to train religiously mate, got myself fit enough to join the parachute regiment in the UK, got to basic training and got injured and discharged, I struggled getting over that, my training went to shit and my mind with it bud, that was definitely the beginning of when things went sour for me 6 years back.
 
I didn’t know him well, but always sad to lose a brother, especially one so young. I hurt for his family. Rest In Peace.
 
Just 29.... Damn it. Poor kid. RIP sherbro
 
RIP

terrible to think it was mental health related
It’s very exposed these days but still so under exposed.
Love to the family
 
RIP. Thoughts and prayers
 
Rea_ctor said:
I used to train religiously mate, got myself fit enough to join the parachute regiment in the UK, got to basic training and got injured and discharged, I struggled getting over that, my training went to shit and my mind with it bud, that was definitely the beginning of when things went sour for me 6 years back.
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Fuckin hell, really sorry to hear that mate, yeah... Thats a kick in the balls alright.
 
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