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I think that if you're supporting micro aggressions and believing toxic trauma and stuff for every little circumstance and leaving up to the person to decide whether it was "devastating" or not, you're going to find alot of people who use it to be a victim instead of being genuine, but because there is an advantage.One, I don't think you're a good judge of the criticism you're leveling and wish you could provide examples.
Two, this line is everything. We have a better understanding of physical, emotional, neurological and psychological harm than we ever have before in history and every person has a right to make changes to the relationships that are damaging to them. The "families stick together" philosophy is a remnant from a time when not doing so could result in people's deaths, but in 2025 it's only use is as a tool to perpetuate abuse and toxic behavior. There was a time when stealing a man's horse was the same as murdering him because he would be hopelessly isolated in the wilderness without it. Just like we no longer execute horse thieves, it is no longer necessary to force unhealthy relationships onto someone "because family".
We'll see though, we're on this path together. Whatever I or you believe, this pinnacle of science and behavior advances has guided our choices to what is acceptable as a society. I really hope you are right and this doesn't lead to a bunch of broken families and isolated people, that mentally they are better today than ever in time periods before. But we'll see the results eventually.