Proposing to your significant other - ideas?

[SleepyBoy]

Have your friends and family tell her you suddenly passed away.

Then when she shows up to your funeral you surprise her with the ring.
she'll be shocked and think it's super witty.

When she says "I thought you were dead!!" ....you can say "Well I'm getting married, that means my life is over"

 

[Thurisaz]

Don't overdo it. You want to share your life with her, not to make a show.

 

[koolinkunming]

Screw what these guys are saying. During something you guys do day to day, like daily routine stuff like washing dishes, be intimate and enjoy and smile and laugh with her. Then get on one knee and pop the question.

She'll love it. Shows you're domesticated and romantic at the same time.

 

[I Am Legion]

I did it on a vacation on a beach in Puerto Vallarta. Gives you a good reason to keep going back. But maybe don't pick Mexico because urgent diarrhea will ruin the moment.

 

[Lone Coyote]

Just make it intimate, no need for the world to know of your engagement until both of you inform of it

 

[sub_thug]

I'm a pretty unromantic guy and as I mentioned she is well grounded and not into all that. Well, maybe she could do with a little more romance in her life.

No little notes or pet names / well apart from she calls me twattybollocks when I've been acting up.

So what I might do is set up something generically romantic. So something that I did for my girlfriend's birthday dinner was this: I got a key to the apartment from her roommate, and I hung white Christmas lights around the ceiling. I cooked her favorite meal, had a nice bottle of wine that she really likes, and had candles all over the room. Of course, I had her birthday gift and flowers, but that doesn't necessarily apply to you. I had some music playing in the background, so when she walked through the door into the living area where the kitchen table is, everything was set up. Dinner was ready, and she was totally surprised. None of what I did was groundbreaking stuff, but there's not a woman alive who doesn't want to have that happen to her. It will make her feel special. That's a way that you can set the stage for you to propose. It's also a way to keep things private and intimate between you two.

 

[ironwolf]

I met my wife in a cycling club. We started dating and doing many bicycle trips. Winghai lake, Karakoram Highway, pamir loop. I proposed to her on a cycling trip to Tibet.

She said yes and we pounded a bunch of beers in Lhasa. We actually gave the bikes to the bar owner so we didn't have to carry them back on the plane.

If you are ever in the "26" bar in Lhasa, that bike hanging from the ceiling is my wife's old bike.

 

[sub_thug]

The simplest and smallest things in life are always the best. Never let those things go. Your girlfriend and yourself sound like a great couple. Props.

ALL women love to be shown romantic attention (even if they say otherwise). Just because 'she's not into all that' doesn't mean that you shouldn't randomly show her that she's the only woman for you (notes, flowers, surprise date nights, etc...). Make an effort to show your love and you'll be rewarded ten-fold. When she talks about you to her friends make sure that her friends are always jealous of the stories that she tells them about you. Make everything else around you two disappear when you're together.

Thanks! One of the things that I'm learning is that you should never stop dating the woman that you love. Always make an effort, but find the person who makes it seem like it's not an effort at all.

Yes. This paragraph is absolutely perfect. Extremely well said.

Sorry that you went through all that stuff. I hope that everything works out for you, and that you find someone special who makes you realize that whatever happened in the past was for the best in the long run. All the luck to you and yours, brother.

 

[philth]

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I know that feel man.
My bar for women is set so high (mostly because of her), and the qualities I look for in a woman seem to be very difficult to find, so I'm gonna be alone for a long time to come. I'm not really looking for anything though so I'm alright with that. I don't want to settle for the sake of settling and then resenting a woman who is supposed to be my partner because I compromised on something. I wouldn't expect a woman to compromise for me either.
You're a good dude Mike, and I hope that you'll find the same in time as well.

Thanks! One of the things that I'm learning is that you should never stop dating the woman that you love. Always make an effort, but find the person who makes it seem like it's not an effort at all..

Very well said. I always admire couples who can pull this off, because there isn't all that many out there. I am truly happy for you and couples such as yourselves give me hope for the human race.
On the flip side It's always been amazing/shocking to me how many people will just 'settle' for any partner.

For both of you guys.

 

[bcordova]

We were on a trip to Japan. I had had the ring for a couple months. We spent a night in Kyoto staying in a ryokan. We walked around all day looking at shrines and stuff. We were waiting to check in for our dinner, so we stopped by this little sake bar. Walked back to the ryokan and before we went in I went on one knee and in Japanese I asked her to marry me. Then we ate an insanely awesome traditional Japanese dinner and went back to that bar and got drunk. It was a good day.

 

[sub_thug]

Very well said. I always admire couples who can pull this off, because there isn't all that many out there. I am truly happy for you and couples such as yourselves give me hope for the human race.
On the flip side It's always been amazing/shocking to me how many people will just 'settle' for any partner.

For both of you guys.

Dude, it's all her. I have no idea why she loves me, but I'm extremely lucky that she does. It's my job to earn it.

 

[Brampton_Boy]

This is going to sound corny as well, but I always thought it would be sweet to learn a song on the guitar and play/sing it to your fiance when proposing.

If I do ever get engaged, I want to learn how to play Amazed - Lonestar and do a songposal (song proposal)

 

[45ACP]

I know that feel man.
My bar for women is set so high (mostly because of her), and the qualities I look for in a woman seem to be very difficult to find, so I'm gonna be alone for a long time to come. I'm not really looking for anything though so I'm alright with that. I don't want to settle for the sake of settling and then resenting a woman who is supposed to be my partner because I compromised on something. I wouldn't expect a woman to compromise for me either.

Exactly where I'm at right now too man. Thanks for the condolences but I was actually the one who ended my marriage. She was my high school sweetheart and I was just too young to know what I was getting myself into. When I left that relationship I knew exactly what I was leaving to go looking for.

Ended up finding the woman of my dreams a couple years after my divorce. Most incredible woman I've ever met in my life to this day. That relationship was like something out of a romance novel, I didn't even think that stuff actually existed in real life. But she decided one day she just wasn't in love with me any more just as I'd gotten to the point where I was starting to seriously consider asking her to marry me. I still miss her and think about her every day and it's been over a year since we split up.

I almost think I'd be better off if we'd never met, because I was pretty happy being single after my marriage ended and just being patient and doing my own thing. But after getting a taste of what that kind of relationship is like I've been longing for it ever since. It was like a drug or something and now I'm just going through life looking for my next fix that may never materialize.

I've been in a couple relationships since but eventually ended them because they just didn't compare and I didn't feel the same about those women as I did with my ex. I'm still trying to accept the fact that I may never find something like that again. But now that I know what that kind of relationship is like I just can't settle for less. It's a really shitty feeling getting a taste of everything you've ever dreamed of and knowing that your standards are so high because of it that you might end up alone forever.